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Mereu m-am \u00eentrebat de ce simt unii nevoia s\u0103-\u0219i ridice statuie pentru c\u0103 au stat ani \u00een \u0219ir \u00een rela\u021bii care le-au f\u0103cut vie\u021bile harcea-parcea, cu parteneri ostili, indiferen\u021bi sau misecuveni\u0219ti, \u0219i c\u0103 nu au plecat, de multe ori, pentru c\u0103 le era fric\u0103 de criza de orgoliu \u0219i persecu\u021biile care ar fi putut urma. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Eu v\u0103d divor\u021bul ca pe o solu\u021bie necesar\u0103 \u0219i important\u0103, atunci c\u00e2nd nici tu, nici cel\u0103lalt nu sunte\u021bi dispu\u0219i s\u0103 oferi\u021bi gra\u021bie \u0219i \u00een\u021belegere, c\u00e2nd frustr\u0103rile reciproce s-au acumulat p\u00e2n\u0103 la insuportabil \u0219i c\u00e2nd e evident c\u0103 pe viitor nu v\u0103 a\u0219teapt\u0103 dec\u00e2t varii c\u0103i \u00een care v\u0103 da\u021bi la gioale, direct sau pasiv-agresiv, unul altuia. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Din punctul acesta de vedere, moda tradi\u021bional\u0103, care spunea s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2i legat pe via\u021b\u0103 de unul \u0219i acela\u0219i om, pentru c\u0103 altfel te marginalizeaz\u0103 societatea, e o t\u00e2mpenie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cenc\u0103 \u00eemi amintesc un pasaj dintr-un roman de Zaharia Stancu cu unul care a hot\u0103r\u00e2t s\u0103-\u0219i omoare nevasta \u00een b\u0103taie pentru c\u0103 era ur\u00e2t\u0103. \u0218i pentru c\u0103 divor\u021bul nu se practica la \u021bar\u0103, c\u0103 ce-ar fi zis vecinii. Cum descria b\u0103t\u0103ile inumane pe care le \u00eendura zi de zi viata femeie. Cum a \u0219i murit p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, dac\u0103 nu m\u0103 \u00een\u0219el. \u0218i nimeni, absolut nimeni nu a intervenit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dar m\u0103car n-au vorbit-o de r\u0103u. \ud83d\ude00 <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Faptul c\u0103 un om are trei divor\u0163uri \u00eenseamn\u0103 doar c\u0103 refuz\u0103 s\u0103 se complac\u0103 \u00eentr-o dinamic\u0103 toxic\u0103 \u015fi demoralizant\u0103, doar pentru a nu fi singur.
Rela\u0163ia fericit\u0103 \u015fi durabil\u0103 poate fi construit\u0103 doar cu cineva care e dispus s\u0103 te \u00eent\u00e2lneasc\u0103 la jum\u0103tate. Iar acest lucru \u00eel \u00een\u0163elegi prin trial and error, nu at\u00e2rn\u00e2nd interminabil dup\u0103 un singur b\u0103rbat sau o singur\u0103 femeie, \u015fi mim\u00e2nd public o fericire pe care nu o sim\u0163i, de ochii \u0219i de gura lumii, \u201es\u0103 nu zic\u0103 de tine c\u0103 e\u0219ti o c***\u0103 \/ un nenorocit\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Unii au noroc s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 armonia unui om cu care s\u0103 se potriveasc\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 din liceu \u015fi, pur \u015fi simplu, s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103 o via\u0163\u0103. Bravo lor, dar sunt cazuri excep\u021bionale, ar trebui s\u0103-\u0219i con\u0219tientizeze norocul \u0219i s\u0103-l ia ca atare, nu s\u0103 predice pe un ton superior c\u0103 \u201euite, ce \u0219mecheri suntem noi\u201d. Nu, nu sunte\u021bi \u0219mecheri, a\u021bi avut doar bafta s\u0103 v\u0103 g\u0103si\u021bi \u0219i s\u0103 func\u021biona\u021bi bine \u00eempreun\u0103. Bravo vou\u0103. Al\u021bii nu \u00eent\u00e2lnesc pe cineva compatibil din varii motive. Pentru c\u0103 nu to\u021bi oamenii sunt compatibili. \u0218i e perfect ok s\u0103 nu fie, at\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t recunosc de comun acord c\u0103 nu sunt compatibili \u0219i-\u0219i v\u0103d fiecare de drum. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
E perfect \u00een regul\u0103 s\u0103 cau\u021bi \u00een continuare, dac\u0103 n-ai g\u0103sit ce trebuie. S\u0103 spui \u201estop, nu merge, aici ne oprim\u201d e o dovad\u0103 de maturitate \u0219i asumare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0218i da, dac\u0103 ai trecut prin trei divor\u021buri, \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 ai termen de compara\u021bie bine documentat. iar dac\u0103 ai \u0219i \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat din propriile gre\u0219eli, precum \u0219i capcanele pe care s\u0103 le evi\u021bi: PREACH, GIRL. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cen general comentacilor mononeuronali le r\u0103spund cu \u201enu \u021bi-a cerut nimeni sfatul\u201d, dar Andreea Marin poate s\u0103 vin\u0103 s\u0103-mi dea sfaturi oric\u00e2nd. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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