{"id":26177,"date":"2024-03-10T12:33:21","date_gmt":"2024-03-10T09:33:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=26177"},"modified":"2024-03-10T12:33:24","modified_gmt":"2024-03-10T09:33:24","slug":"cum-treci-peste-o-despartire-dureroasa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/cum-treci-peste-o-despartire-dureroasa\/","title":{"rendered":"Cum treci peste o desp\u0103r\u0163ire dureroas\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Acesta e un articol solicitat de o fat\u0103 care tocmai mi-a oferit o dona\u0163ie pe PayPal. Mul\u0163umesc, acesta e modul real de a ar\u0103ta apreciere pentru munca unui creator de con\u0163inut online. Nu \u201escrie \u0219i despre cutare, obligatoriu moca, c\u0103 deja citesc zi de zi chestii de la tine \u0219i mi se pare c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103 te pun la treab\u0103 suplimentar, c\u0103 sigur iei procent din abonamentul meu la Digi.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Sunt dou\u0103 situa\u021bii \u00een care oamenii ajung s\u0103-\u0219i doreasc\u0103 s\u0103 plece dintr-o rela\u021bie: A) \u00een situa\u021bii abuzive, c\u00e2nd cel\u0103lalt e violent sau manipulator \u0219i B) c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti singur(\u0103) \u00een rela\u021bie, tu faci tot efortul din univers \u0219i e\u0219ti tratat(\u0103) cu nep\u0103sare \u0219i lips\u0103 de respect. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar \u00een ambele situa\u021bii, exist\u0103 un element comun: interac\u021biunea respectiv\u0103 a devenit o surs\u0103 de durere \u0219i de furie, nu una de echilibru \u0219i bucurie, \u0219i te-ai s\u0103turat p\u00e2n\u0103 peste cap de manevrele celuilalt, ca de mere p\u0103dure\u021be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau, dac\u0103 cel\u0103lalt te-a p\u0103r\u0103sit pe tine, chit c\u0103 tu f\u0103ceai tot posibilul s\u0103 fie frumos \u0219i bine, e sentimentul intens de tr\u0103dare, de nedreptate, con\u0219tientizarea faptului c\u0103 \u00een tot acest timp ai fost doar o solu\u021bie de moment, nu o alegere de lung\u0103 durat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Indiferent care dintre aceste trei situa\u021bii \u021bi se aplic\u0103, \u00eencepe prin a con\u0219tientiza c\u0103 tocmai te-ai eliberat de ceva ce te r\u0103nea \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi f\u0103cea r\u0103u, \u0219i c\u0103 ai libertatea de a o lua de la zero. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sigur, c\u00e2nd pleci tu, e bine pentru c\u0103 ai deja un plan de brexit: unde o s\u0103 stai, cum \u00ee\u021bi gestionezi bugetul, cum te descurci. Sau, m\u0103 rog, sper c\u0103 ai. Cel mai aiurea e c\u00e2nd pleci \u0219i, odat\u0103 afar\u0103, e\u0219ti like: aha, \u0219i acum unde m\u0103 duc. G\u0103se\u0219te din timp garsoniera \u00eenchiriat\u0103, camera de oaspe\u021bi a prietenei tale sau apartamentul p\u0103rin\u021bilor t\u0103i, s\u0103 nu se creeze situa\u021bii penibile de tipul: Adio, dar r\u0103m\u00e2n cu tine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nimic nu mi se pare mai toxic dec\u00e2t un cuplu care se desparte, dar, din lips\u0103 de bani, locuie\u0219te mai departe \u00een comun, \u0219i au cutii de lapte \u0219i p\u00e2ini separate, pentru c\u0103, \u00een timpul rela\u021biei, numai ea cump\u0103ra lapte \u0219i p\u00e2ine, \u0219i acum, refuz\u0103 s\u0103 le mai \u00eempart\u0103 cu el. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Genul \u0103la de frustrare iscat\u0103 de rahaturi m\u0103runte de zi cu zi \u00ee\u021bi face via\u021ba un iad. Nimeni s\u0103n\u0103tos la cap nu are nevoie de a\u0219a ceva. Pleac\u0103 cu totul, ia-\u021bi via\u021ba de la zero \u0219i a\u0219a devii 100% disponibil(\u0103) pentru ceva ok. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau, pur \u0219i simplu, pentru un trai lini\u0219tit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 tu e\u0219ti cel p\u0103r\u0103sit \/ cea p\u0103r\u0103sit\u0103, se adaug\u0103 elementul de wtf did I do to deserve this. Dar \u0219i aici, foarte rar se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 ca desp\u0103r\u021birea s\u0103 vin\u0103 din senin \u0219i s\u0103 ai sentimentul c\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 atunci, era rela\u021bia perfect\u0103. Maic\u0103-mea, de exemplu, se jur\u0103 c\u0103 a fost un \u0219oc uria\u0219 pentru ea c\u0103 taic\u0103-miu avea o amant\u0103 \u0219i c\u0103 vrea divor\u021b. Dar tot ea o s\u0103 \u021bi se vaiete c\u0103 el nu era prezent \u00een c\u0103s\u0103toria aia cu nimic \u0219i o neglija de ani de zile. Inabilitatea de a conecta punctele \u0219i de a se v\u0103ic\u0103ri 30 \u0219i ceva de ani mai t\u00e2rziu cum a \u0219ocat-o plecarea \u00eemi arat\u0103 \u00een ce hal sunt dispu\u0219i unii oameni s\u0103 se mint\u0103 de unii singuri \u0219i cum nu sunt \u00een stare s\u0103-\u0219i scoat\u0103 capul din propriul c. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu fi maic\u0103-mea. Fii Freddie Mercury: \u201eopen your eyes, look up to the skies and see.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Realitatea e c\u0103 dac\u0103 cel\u0103lalt nu vede \u00een tine persoana dorit\u0103, po\u021bi s\u0103 stai \u0219i-n cap \u0219i-n coad\u0103, c\u0103 te agi\u021bi degeaba. E mai simplu s\u0103 asumi c\u0103 e\u0219ti la locul nepotrivit \u0219i s\u0103 pleci pur \u0219i simplu. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eP\u0103i, da, dar \u0219tii c\u0103 la \u00eenceput era a\u0219a \u0219i pe dincolo.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O capcan\u0103 100% eronat\u0103 e s\u0103-\u021bi ba\u021bi capul cu ce era la \u00eenceput. Indiferent ce o fi fost, acum nu mai e ca la \u00eenceput, iar tu nu ai de ce s\u0103 te torturezi voluntar cu trecutul \u00eendep\u0103rtat. Let it goooooooooooo, let it gooooo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cu c\u00e2t renun\u021bi s\u0103 proiectezi, s\u0103 manifestezi \u0219i s\u0103-\u021bi faci filme interioare legate de \u00eenceput – am scris deja c\u00e2t de mult ur\u0103sc proiectatul \u0219i manifestatul, \u0219i c\u00e2t de otr\u0103vitoare sunt ele de fapt – cu at\u00e2t \u00ee\u021bi la\u0219i loc s\u0103 con\u0219tientizezi c\u0103 lucrurile care se \u00eent\u00e2mplau nu erau ok pentru tine \u0219i c\u0103 ie\u0219irea e cea mai bun\u0103 solu\u021bie. \u0218i \u00een loc s\u0103 pl\u00e2ngi ce frumos v-a\u021bi \u021binut voi de m\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een vacan\u021ba voastr\u0103 din Antalya, \u00een 2017, mai bine te concentrezi pe ideea c\u0103 e 2024 \u0219i c\u0103 te po\u021bi duce \u00een Antalya \u0219i singur\u0103, ba chiar exist\u0103 posibilitatea s\u0103 te distrezi mai mult. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pe scurt, concentreaz\u0103-te pe ce po\u021bi face s\u0103 fii fericit(\u0103) de acum \u00eencolo, cu noile set\u0103ri de sistem, \u0219i dac\u0103 tot ai mai mult timp liber, aplic\u0103 la joburi noi, \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 un skill nou, s\u0103 c\u00e2\u0219tigi un ban \u00een plus, \u0219i creeaz\u0103-\u021bi bucurii noi. Da, s\u0103 identifici o bucurie nou\u0103 presupune munc\u0103. Dar exact aceast\u0103 munc\u0103 te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 nu te mai g\u00e2nde\u0219ti la c\u00e2t suferi dup\u0103 exul sau exa, \u0219i s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi mu\u021bi aten\u021bia pe tine de acum. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oric\u00e2t de deprimat ai fi, c\u00e2nd se aude notificarea push de la George c\u0103 \u021bi-au intrat ni\u0219te bani, parc\u0103 te binedispui instant. Right? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i e perfect \u00een regul\u0103 ca, o vreme, s\u0103 nu mai ai chef de rela\u021bii noi.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen fond, tocmai ai \u00eencasat o doz\u0103 s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103 de toxicitate, iar stima ta de tine e ferfeni\u021b\u0103. D\u0103-\u021bi timp s\u0103 te vindeci emo\u021bional, ca s\u0103 nu faci alegeri proaste izvor\u00e2te din frustr\u0103ri \u0219i ego r\u0103nit. C\u00e2nd vei reveni \u00eentr-un punct de echilibru emo\u021bional, ai tot timpul s\u0103 g\u0103se\u0219ti pe altcineva. Sau s\u0103 adop\u021bi trei pisici. Sau s\u0103 adop\u021bi un cactus mic, care \u00eenflore\u0219te o dat\u0103 la trei ani. Cum am zis, e datoria ta s\u0103-\u021bi define\u0219ti fericirea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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