{"id":26268,"date":"2024-03-31T10:59:56","date_gmt":"2024-03-31T07:59:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=26268"},"modified":"2024-03-31T12:34:39","modified_gmt":"2024-03-31T09:34:39","slug":"dominator","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/dominator\/","title":{"rendered":"Dominator"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Te treze\u015fti uneori c\u0103 vine un ciumete, online sau \u00een via\u0163a real\u0103, \u015fi \u00eencepe s\u0103 \u0163i se laude, absolut din senin \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-l fi \u00eentrebat tu nimic niciodat\u0103, c\u0103 e dominator. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dec\u00e2t s\u0103 face\u0163i a\u015fa ceva, dragi gigei, mai bine lua\u0163i frumos un carton. Apoi, un marker. Scrie\u0163i cu markerul pe carton: SUNT PROST. G\u0103si\u0163i o sfoar\u0103. Lega\u0163i-v\u0103 cartonul de g\u00e2t. \u015ei acum, defila\u0163i prin lume. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A fi dominator nu e ceva cu care s\u0103 te lauzi, pentru c\u0103 a fi dominator e un mood \u015fi un vibe. Nu trebuie s\u0103 spui c\u0103 e\u015fti dominator. Nu st\u00e2rne\u015fti dec\u00e2t un \u201eUite, b\u0103, pu\u021bic\u0103, nota asta de plat\u0103; ia s\u0103 vedem dac\u0103 o domini viteje\u0219te sau \u00eencepi s\u0103 sc\u00e2nce\u0219ti c\u0103 e prea mult?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu am avut mereu mesaje private de la diver\u0219i care \u00eemi scriau \u0219i \u00eemi scriu c\u0103 vor s\u0103 fie sclavii mei. \u0218i asta dintr-un motiv simplu. Aura dominatoare se simte, f\u0103r\u0103 ca eu s\u0103 fac nimic. C\u00e2nd cineva se uit\u0103 la mine, vede din prima c\u0103 nu va face din mine ce vrea, dec\u00e2t dac\u0103 vreau \u0219i eu, \u0219i dec\u00e2t dac\u0103 merit\u0103 deranjul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar, pentru to\u021bi prostovanii pe care \u00eei sf\u0103tuie\u0219te Tate s\u0103 fie dominatori, \u0219i care \u00een\u021beleg din asta s\u0103 se laude ne\u00eentreba\u021bi de fa\u021b\u0103 cu necunoscu\u021bi 100% nep\u0103s\u0103tori c\u0103 ei sunt dominatori, iat\u0103 ni\u0219te reguli ale domina\u021biei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Domina\u021bia nu se afirm\u0103 din vorbe, ci se na\u0219te de la sine. Sau nu. <\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Exact ca dragostea, atrac\u021bia, conexiunea \u0219i alte emo\u021bii umane, un raport dominant – submisiv apare de la sine \u00eentre dou\u0103 persoane. Acestea pot discuta despre starea vremii, cotele apelor Dun\u0103rii, ultimul model de Samsung Galaxy, a c\u00e2ta misiune a lui Tom Cruise devine posibil\u0103 \u0219i alte baliverne, dar s\u0103 simt\u0103 c\u0103 \u00eentre ei exist\u0103 un raport de domina\u021bie – supunere. L\u0103ud\u0103ro\u0219enia nu te face dominator. Te face doar penibil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    2. Domina\u021bia presupune o form\u0103 de autoritate recunoscut\u0103 benevol de cel\u0103lalt<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Exist\u0103 o vorb\u0103 \u00een teatru: curtea joac\u0103 regele. Asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 nu trebuie s\u0103 te umfli tu \u00een pene s\u0103 ar\u0103\u021bi c\u0103 e\u0219ti rege. Ci, \u00eentr-o scen\u0103, faptul c\u0103 intri \u0219i dou\u0103zeci de oameni cad sincron \u00een genunchi e cel care \u00ee\u021bi d\u0103 statutul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Tu po\u021bi s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi ar\u0103\u021bi puterea prin fapte \u0219i prin competen\u021b\u0103, dar, \u00een definitiv, curtea e cea care te alege. Cu alte cuvinte, eventualul submisiv decide dac\u0103 e\u0219ti sau nu dominatorul lui. Nu tu. Multe psihoze ar disp\u0103rea, dac\u0103 prost\u0103l\u0103ii ar \u00een\u021belege asta \u0219i nu ar c\u0103uta s\u0103 for\u021beze lucruri care nu se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 de la sine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    3. Doar pentru c\u0103 e femeie, NU \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 e automat submisiv\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    C\u00e2t timp societatea a negat femeilor dreptul la avere, educa\u021bie \u0219i accesul la putere, le-a \u0219i silit \u00eentr-un rol submisiv, pentru c\u0103, dac\u0103 n-ai nimic care s\u0103-\u021bi permit\u0103 s\u0103 te \u00eentre\u021bii singur, po\u021bi doar s\u0103 faci temenele altuia, \u00een speran\u021ba c\u0103 te \u00eentre\u021bine el. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Acum, c\u0103 femeile au acces la educa\u021bie – \u0219i foarte multe lupt\u0103 cu din\u021bi \u0219i gheare pentru o diplom\u0103, la avere – \u0219i multe fac tot ce pot s-o ob\u021bin\u0103 – \u0219i putere – same, o bun\u0103 parte din ele au zero chef s\u0103 mai fie vreodat\u0103 submisive \u0219i guess what: e dreptul lor s\u0103 stabileasc\u0103 \u00een ce tip de raport se simt confortabil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    (C\u00e2t timp nu devin teroriste turbate \u0219i obsedate \u0219i nu se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 fug\u0103reasc\u0103 oameni care le-au spus clar \u0219i ferm c\u0103 nu sunt interesa\u021bi. Asta e de neiertat, fie c\u0103 e\u0219ti femeie, fie c\u0103 e\u0219ti b\u0103rbat. \u00cenva\u021b\u0103 s\u0103 iei un \u201enu\u201d, iar dac\u0103 nu po\u021bi, du-te la Obregia \u0219i cere pastilele adecvate, care \u00ee\u021bi deschid mintea p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een punctul \u00een care \u00een\u021belegi c\u0103 \u201enu\u201d e \u201enu\u201d.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u00cenainte s\u0103 te lauzi c\u00e2t de dominator e\u0219ti tu, verific\u0103 dac\u0103 discu\u021bi cu o submisiv\u0103. C\u0103 dac\u0103 nu, nu faci dec\u00e2t s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi iei sictir din prima secund\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    4. Domina\u021bia real\u0103 presupune boundaries <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Punctam mai sus c\u0103 domina\u021bia \u00eencepe cu consim\u021b\u0103m\u00e2ntul submisivului. Dar odat\u0103 cu consim\u021b\u0103m\u00e2ntul submisivului, ar trebui \u00een mod ideal s\u0103 urmeze o negociere clar\u0103 legat\u0103 de limite personale. Lucruri care fac obiectul jocului \u0219i lucruri de care nu te atingi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u0218i da, boundaries trebuie respectate. Altfel, nu e\u0219ti dominator, ci doar idiot. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    De aceea se stabile\u0219te mereu un safeword, pentru ca persoana submisiv\u0103 s\u0103 indice c\u00e2nd e \u00een disconfort real. \u0218i asta pentru c\u0103 un dominator adev\u0103rat nu dore\u0219te niciodat\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 r\u0103u submisivilor s\u0103i \u0219i nici s\u0103 for\u021beze nota \u00een direc\u021bii pe care submisivul nu le poate tolera. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    5. \u0218i nu e at\u00e2t de simplu s\u0103 fii dominator <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u00cen ultima vreme, v\u0103d frecvent cuplul femeie de\u0219teapt\u0103 \u0219i descurc\u0103rea\u021b\u0103 – b\u0103rbat care depinde de ea din toate punctele de vedere, dar totodat\u0103 e frustrat pe ea, de parc\u0103 ea l-ar \u00eempiedica s\u0103 fie alfa male. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Realitatea e c\u0103 nu te \u00eempiedic\u0103 nimeni s\u0103 get a better job, s\u0103 aduci mai mul\u021bi bani acas\u0103, s\u0103 creezi mai mult\u0103 valoare cu faptele tale, s\u0103 \u00eenve\u021bi s\u0103 repari robinetul defect, s\u0103 faci lucruri utile care s\u0103 genereze \u00een mod \u00eentemeiat respect \u0219i s\u0103 arate c\u0103 e\u0219ti alfa. Dar c\u00e2nd tu nu faci nimic, c\u0103 nu po\u021bi sau c\u0103 nu te duce capul, nu pe femeie ar trebui s\u0103 fi furios. Prin inutilitatea ta de ficus de apartament, o obligi s\u0103 fie dominatoare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Fii furios pe tine, c\u0103 stagnezi \u0219i procrastinezi \u00een nimic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    Concluzie: a fi dominator presupune s\u0103 ai cu ce \u0219i s\u0103 aib\u0103 cel\u0103lalt de ce. Dac\u0103 nu e cazul, stai pe c*rul t\u0103u. \u00cenva\u021b\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2i s\u0103 domini o factur\u0103 la ENEL. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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