{"id":26352,"date":"2024-04-17T10:46:05","date_gmt":"2024-04-17T07:46:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=26352"},"modified":"2024-04-17T10:46:08","modified_gmt":"2024-04-17T07:46:08","slug":"nu-exagera-cu-complimentele","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/nu-exagera-cu-complimentele\/","title":{"rendered":"Nu exagera cu complimentele"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Sunt unele persoane cu care discu\u0163ia curge a\u015fa: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Salut, e\u015fti at\u00e2t de frumoas\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Mul\u0163umesc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Serios, e\u015fti absolut superb\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Serios, mul\u0163umesc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Ochii t\u0103i mari sunt minuna\u0163i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Apreciez din baierele sufletului, putem trece la urm\u0103torul subiect? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-\u015ei f\u0103\u0163uca ta de \u00eenger pogoar\u0103 raiul pe p\u0103m\u00e2nt. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Fr\u0103\u0163ioare sau surioar\u0103, am prins ideea. Sunt pies\u0103. Acum. Putem. Trece. La. Urm\u0103torul. Subiect? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

UN compliment, c\u00e2nd te revezi cu cineva, e o idee minunat\u0103. Relaxeaz\u0103 interac\u0163iunea, face interlocutorul s\u0103 se simt\u0103 v\u0103zut \u015fi apreciat, d\u0103 un mood pozitiv. De aceea se pl\u00e2ng majoritatea nevestelor c\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163ii nu le mai complimenteaz\u0103. De fapt, se pl\u00e2ng c\u0103 nu se simt v\u0103zute sau apreciate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen schimb, c\u00e2nd partea de complimente a interac\u0163iunii se lunge\u015fte obositor \u015fi redundant, omul \u00eencepe s\u0103 se simt\u0103 ciudat. Dac\u0103 cel cu complimentele e genul caterincos, omul se simte luat la mi\u015ftouri. Dac\u0103 cel cu complimentele e genul at\u00e2rn\u0103tor disperat, omul se simte sufocat \u015fi agresat, Dac\u0103 cel cu complimentele e genul care caut\u0103 obsesiv s\u0103 fwt\u0103 ceva, omul se simte carne de tun. Numitorul comun al acestor st\u0103ri e disconfortul, urmat de iritare \u015fi nevoia de a scurta interac\u0163iunea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu, complimentele nu sunt puncte acumulabile \u00een aplica\u0163ie, care la un anumit num\u0103r se traduc automat \u00een orice vrei s\u0103 ob\u0163ii de la persoana pe care o complimentezi monoton \u015fi redundant. C\u00e2nd sunt prea multe, par mai degrab\u0103 o declara\u0163ie de disperare \u015fi de lips\u0103 a altor subiecte \u00een conversa\u0163ie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201e\u0218i atunci ce s\u0103 fac, Lorena? S\u0103 fac insulte \u0219i negging?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 alienezi \u0219i s\u0103 iri\u021bi persoana, s-o faci s\u0103 te deteste din r\u0103runchii fiin\u021bei, poate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eu nu cunosc pe nimeni care s\u0103 se amorezeze de modul sublim \u00een care a fost insultat, \u0219i dac\u0103 vii s\u0103 m\u0103 jigne\u0219ti, nu am nici o problem\u0103 s\u0103-\u021bi spun s\u0103 te cari \u00een mor\u021bii m\u0103-tii, c\u0103 probabil a\u0219a au tratat-o \u0219i pe ea clien\u021bii ei camionagii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Apoi, e distractiv cum \u0103la care te jignise o d\u0103 la \u00eentors: \u201eDar eu am glumit!\u201d \u0218i tu, sec: \u201eEu nu!\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tehnic, complimentele sunt expresia entuziasmului, c\u00e2nd dai cu ochii de o alt\u0103 persoan\u0103 \u0219i te fascineaz\u0103 frumuse\u021bea \/ inteligen\u021ba \/ elegan\u021ba \/ etc. S\u0103 stai entuziasmat jum\u0103tate de or\u0103 e neverosimil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Da, s\u0103 dai cu ochii de Marcela \u0219i s\u0103 spui: \u201eVai, Marcela, ce bine ar\u0103\u021bi azi!\u201d e credibil. A\u0219a o bucuri \u0219i pe Marcela, care probabil c\u0103 a stat o or\u0103 \u00een oglind\u0103 s\u0103 se aranjeze. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 te tot miri zece minute ce frumoas\u0103 e Marcela sun\u0103 a \u00eencercare de a o ag\u0103\u021ba foarte repede pe Marcela s\u0103-i bagi bursucul \u00een scorbur\u0103, sau de lips\u0103 de imagina\u021bie legat de ce altceva a\u021bi putea s\u0103 discuta\u021bi. Iar c\u00e2nd, de exemplu, chiar ave\u021bi ce s\u0103 discuta\u021bi, pentru c\u0103 v\u0103 vede\u021bi pentru o colaborare, iar tu o agasezi interminabil cu c\u00e2t e de frumoas\u0103, \u0219i nu treci naibii odat\u0103 la obiectul colabor\u0103rii, treaba devine cringe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De aceea e bine s\u0103 limita\u021bi num\u0103rul de complimente. Face\u021bi-le s\u0103 sune sincer, evident, dar ajunge unul. Hai, dou\u0103, dac\u0103 persoana \u0219i-a schimbat coafura, a sl\u0103bit zece kilograme \u0219i arat\u0103 a top model sau \u0219i-a cump\u0103rat ceva de \u00eembr\u0103cat care \u00eentr-adev\u0103r face diferen\u021ba. \u00cen rest, mai citi\u021bi \u0219i voi \u0219tiri, mai vede\u021bi filme, mai asculta\u021bi muzic\u0103, \u0219i g\u0103si\u021bi subiecte de discutat care s\u0103 men\u021bin\u0103 conversa\u021bia interesant\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau, dac\u0103 v\u0103 vede\u021bi cu Marcela pentru o colaborare, trece\u021bi direct la subiect. Prin acest gest \u00eei complimenta\u021bi inteligen\u021ba \u0219i \u00eei economisi\u021bi timpul, cea mai pre\u021bioas\u0103 resurs\u0103 uman\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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