Tendin\u0163a natural\u0103, c\u00e2nd apare \u00eenc\u0103 un specimen care se ia de tine aiurea, e s\u0103 faci un rant lung \u015fi plin de furie despre cum, toat\u0103 via\u0163a ta, diver\u015fi imbecili \u015fi idio\u0163i au c\u0103utat s\u0103 te minimalizeze \u015fi s\u0103 te umileasc\u0103 \u00een diverse moduri. \u015ei da, ai dreptate s\u0103 faci asta. Noi toate avem podul plin de traume provocate de imbecili \u015fi idio\u0163i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dar nu face asta. D\u0103-i specimenului un avertisment scurt c\u0103 se potole\u015fte sau \u00eencheia\u0163i interac\u0163iunea \u015eI ALEGE DELIBERAT S\u0102 NU MAI DAI IMPORTAN\u0162\u0102 INTERAC\u0162IUNII. Dac\u0103 nu \u00een\u0163elege din avertisment, \u0163ine-te de cuv\u00e2nt. \u00cencheie interac\u0163iunea. No contact dac\u0103 interac\u0163iunea e \u00een via\u0163a de zi cu zi, block dac\u0103 interac\u0163iunea e online. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
D\u0103 importan\u0163\u0103 interac\u0163iunii cu b\u0103rba\u0163i de la care prime\u015fti respect \u015fi civiliza\u0163ie. Tratamentul pe care pui lumina de reflector e tratamentul pe care \u00eel atragi. Te pl\u00e2ngi de idio\u0163i? Vei atrage al\u0163i idio\u0163i la fel de idio\u0163i ca \u0103ia. Dai jet la idio\u0163i \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i concentrezi energia pe oamenii inteligen\u0163i, educa\u0163i, cu care po\u0163i conversa? Rezultatul va fi c\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi idiotul se va str\u0103dui s\u0103 par\u0103 mai pu\u0163in idiot, s\u0103 se ridice la standardele tale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. Nu promite consecin\u0163e pe care nu le aplici.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n Un mod de a transmite c\u0103 e\u015fti o g\u00e2sc\u0103 cu care gigel poate face orice e s\u0103-i promi\u0163i repetat c\u0103 \u00eel p\u0103r\u0103se\u015fti, sau c\u0103 \u00eei dai block, sau c\u0103 \u00eel sco\u0163i \u00een \u015futuri din cas\u0103, apoi s\u0103 nu follow through. Un b\u0103rbat care are pentru tine m\u0103car un strop de respect nu te irit\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103-n punctul \u00een care ajungi la soma\u0163ii, iar dac\u0103 ai ajuns la soma\u0163ii, APLIC\u0102-LE. Nu promite ceva ce nu e\u015fti preg\u0103tit\u0103 s\u0103 faci. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 \u00eei tot promi\u0163i c\u0103 pleci \u015fi nu pleci, \u00eei ar\u0103\u0163i doar c\u0103 permi\u0163i \u015fi tolerezi orice. Ce motiv are s\u0103 renun\u0163e la \u0163op\u00e2rl\u0103nie, dac\u0103 tu o \u00eencasezi sp\u0103sit \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 reac\u0163ie, doar cu proteste anemice pe care oricum nu ai c0@!e s\u0103 le pui \u00een practic\u0103? <\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Renun\u0163\u0103 la certuri. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Spune scurt, la obiect \u015fi clar ce dore\u015fti. Unele persoane vor fi dispuse s\u0103 ofere ce vrei, altele nu. Scandalul \u015fi cearta nu vor schimba deciziile oamenilor. Le vor confirma doar faptul c\u0103 au dreptate s\u0103 te trateze ur\u00e2t. Repet ce am punctat mai sus: concentreaz\u0103-te pe cei cu care e\u015fti \u00een armonie, pentru c\u0103 atragi exact lucrurile pe care pui reflectorul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti atent certurile lui \u015eo\u015foac\u0103, observi c\u0103 de multe ori are dreptate. C\u00e2nd te bagi \u00een clica celor mai josnice specimene din \u0163ara asta, evident c\u0103 vei avea multe cizme misogine de \u00eenfruntat. Dar, cum lumea nu are r\u0103bdare s\u0103 urm\u0103reasc\u0103 de la ce s-a luat cu \u0103ia, \u015fi vede doar o femeie isteric\u0103, faptul c\u0103 are dreptate \u00een situa\u0163ia X e partea pe care n-o remarc\u0103 nimeni. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. Arat\u0103 apreciere pentru comportamentul pe care-l dore\u015fti. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 ignori amabilitatea, pozitivitatea \u015fi generozitatea, oamenii \u00een\u0163eleg doar faptul c\u0103 astea nu te impresioneaz\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n S\u0103 lu\u0103m eternul exemplul unei rubrici de comentarii \u00een care treizeci spun: \u201eMul\u021bumesc, \u00eemi faci ziua mai bun\u0103\u201d \u0219i unul singur spune: \u201eE\u0219ti o g\u0103in\u0103 ur\u00e2t\u0103 \u0219i proast\u0103.\u201d Evident, tendin\u021ba uman\u0103 normal\u0103 e s\u0103 treci peste cele treizeci de zile mai bune \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eencasezi hate-ul exact cu rana din copil\u0103rie, c\u00e2nd maic\u0103-ta \u00ee\u021bi spunea c\u0103 nu se va alege nimic de tine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nope. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ia decizia con\u0219tient\u0103 de a te bucura de zilele pe care le-ai f\u0103cut mai bune \u0219i d\u0103-i \u0103luia cu g\u0103ina proast\u0103 avertismentul meu preferat: \u201ete civilizezi sau block\u201d. \u0218i dac\u0103 nu se civilizeaz\u0103, block. Nu-\u021bi strica ziua cu prostia \u0219i r\u0103utatea nim\u0103nui. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. \u201eTe rog\u201d \u0219i \u201dMul\u021bumesc\u201d. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nimeni nu-\u021bi datoreaz\u0103 nimic. Prin urmare, cere tot ce \u00ee\u021bi dore\u0219ti cu o rug\u0103minte, \u0219i dac\u0103 prime\u0219ti ceva ce dore\u0219ti, mul\u021bume\u0219te. Exist\u0103 extrem de mult\u0103 ingratitudine pe lume \u0219i da, femeile se fac la fel de vinovate de ea ca b\u0103rba\u021bii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218i dac\u0103 ai avut mereu parte de ajutorul cuiva, nu te da Casper, fantoma prietenoas\u0103, c\u00e2nd el are nevoie de ajutorul t\u0103u. A\u0219a ajung oamenii s\u0103 se sc\u00e2rbeasc\u0103 s\u0103 mai fac\u0103 bine \u0219i s\u0103 se \u00eenchid\u0103 \u00eentr-o ur\u0103 generalizat\u0103 fa\u021b\u0103 de restul lumii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 6. F\u0103-i s\u0103 se simt\u0103 auzi\u021bi. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Recompenseaz\u0103 comportamentul pozitiv \u0219i civilizat cu aten\u021bie \u0219i bun\u0103voin\u021b\u0103. Mereu spun c\u0103 nu am de ce s\u0103 fiu doamn\u0103 cu gher\u021boii, dar cu domnii, da, fii c\u00e2t se poate de doamn\u0103. S\u0103 se vad\u0103 de la o po\u0219t\u0103 versiunea de protocol pe care o prime\u0219te atitudinea dorit\u0103 de tine, \u00een opozi\u021bie cu versiunea de ciocu’ mic \u0219i joc de glezn\u0103, pe care o primesc nesim\u021birea \u0219i agresivitatea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n A\u0219a ajungi ca, \u00een loc s\u0103 te tot cer\u021bi cu aceia\u0219i \u021b\u0103r\u0103noi slino\u0219i c\u0103rora de fapt le place s\u0103 se certe \u0219i care oricum nu-\u021bi vor oferi niciodat\u0103 respect, pentru c\u0103 au v\u0103zut c\u0103 \u021bine \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103, s\u0103 elimini nesim\u021birea din via\u021ba ta \u0219i s\u0103 alegi persoane care s\u0103 corespund\u0103 a\u0219tept\u0103rilor tale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Incelii ador\u0103 s\u0103 numeasc\u0103 asta hipergamie \u0219i s\u0103 gui\u021be c\u0103 e un lucru r\u0103u. E r\u0103u doar pentru ei. \u00cei oblig\u0103 s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i revizuiasc\u0103 via\u021ba \u0219i comportamentul. Pentru c\u0103 a\u0219a cum tendin\u021ba uman\u0103 normal\u0103 e s\u0103 re\u021bii comentariul cu g\u0103ina proast\u0103, tendin\u021ba asta exist\u0103 \u0219i la gigei: s\u0103 re\u021bin\u0103 femeia care \u0219i-a b\u0103gat pwla \u00een mor\u021bii lor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 apreciezi acest articol, po\u021bi sus\u021bine la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103. Aici<\/strong><\/a>. Pentru dona\u021bii de 50 de euro sau mai mult, \u00eemi po\u021bi propune tu un subiect. 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