{"id":26513,"date":"2024-05-22T11:03:00","date_gmt":"2024-05-22T08:03:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=26513"},"modified":"2024-05-22T11:03:45","modified_gmt":"2024-05-22T08:03:45","slug":"tind-s-o-cred-pe-adina-florea","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/tind-s-o-cred-pe-adina-florea\/","title":{"rendered":"Tind s-o cred pe Adina Florea"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Ieri, jurnalista Adina Florea a zguduit presa din Rom\u00e2nia cu un breaking news care a avut-o pe post de protagonist\u0103, \u0219i nu de reporter. A relatat c\u0103, la 20 de ani, a fost vi0lat\u0103 de redactorul-\u0219ef al revistei Vice, R\u0103zvan B\u0103lt\u0103re\u021bu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/plugins\/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fadina.florea2%2Fposts%2Fpfbid02PzVGedFpDyJXTkEGDUmA2GwuQV95Tbsjs3SXGkoikhn3nwkubptSwMGnfV83Datgl&amp;show_text=true&amp;width=500&amp;is_preview=true\" width=\"500\" height=\"704\" style=\"border:none;overflow:hidden\" scrolling=\"no\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; picture-in-picture; web-share\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nu pot afirma, evident, c\u0103 a\u0219 \u0219ti sigur care e adev\u0103rul, de vreme ce nu am fost de fa\u021b\u0103 \u0219i nu am \u021binut lum\u00e2narea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dar spun c\u0103 tind s-o cred pe Adina. Pe de o parte, pentru c\u0103 e o jurnalist\u0103 implicat\u0103 \u0219i onest\u0103, care \u0219i-a f\u0103cut \u00eentotdeauna treaba cu pasiune, iar genul acesta de om nu inventeaz\u0103 minciuni pentru aten\u021bie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i \u00een al doilea r\u00e2nd, din traum\u0103 personal\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00cemi amintesc c\u0103 defini\u021bia vi0lului era mult mai vag\u0103 c\u00e2nd eram noi fete de 20 de ani. Dup\u0103 dic\u021bionarul masculin al vremii, \u201enu\u201d \u00eensemna \u201epoate\u201d, \u201epoate\u201d \u00eensemna \u201eaoleu, Costele, sunt moart\u0103 dup\u0103 tine\u201d \u0219i \u201eNu cred c\u0103 \u00een seara asta\u201d \u00eensemna \u201eAolooo, rupe textila pe mine, c\u0103 nu mai pot\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cei care m\u0103 \u00eenvinuiesc c\u0103 sunt mult prea tran\u0219ant\u0103 \u0219i brutal\u0103 c\u00e2nd oamenii m\u0103 minimalizeaz\u0103 nu \u021bin cont de nivelul de violen\u021b\u0103 al opozi\u021biei pe care trebuia s-o opui s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 \u0219i gigel c\u0103 \u201enu\u201d-ul t\u0103u e cu adev\u0103rat \u201enu\u201d, f\u0103r\u0103 vreo urm\u0103 de \u201epoate\u201d. A\u0219a mi-am \u0219i creat zeci de du\u0219mani care sunt \u00een continuare izvoare de minciuni \u0219i def\u0103imare despre mine. Lipsa mea de chef de a m\u0103 l\u0103sa f**t\u0103 de orice b\u0103g\u0103tor \u00een seam\u0103 care credea c\u0103 e suficient c\u0103 vrea el mi-a adus ura multora. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00cen acele vremuri, dac\u0103 nu cedai la insisten\u021be repetate, nu el era etichetat un h\u0103r\u021buitor narcisist care nu putea s\u0103 accepte un refuz, ci tu erai etichetat\u0103 drept nebun\u0103 dificil\u0103 \u015fi crizat\u0103, pentru c\u0103 \u201enu cooperai\u201d. Chiar \u0219i prietenele tale \u00eentrebau: \u201eP\u0103i, dac\u0103 te place Cut\u0103rescu, cum s\u0103 nu faci nimic?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu r\u0103spundeai: Pentru c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 vreau \u0219i eu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ele: E\u0219ti tu prea preten\u021bioas\u0103, \u0103la e pies\u0103! Nici v\u00e2ntul n-o s\u0103-\u021bi ridice fusta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu: Port mereu pantaloni, deci nu are ce s\u0103 ridice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pe scurt, refuzul feminin era considerat o fi\u021b\u0103 \u0219i un moft, \u0219i un semn c\u0103 \u201eai arfe pe tine \u0219i c\u0103 te crezi special\u0103\u201d, iar  gigeii, chiar \u0219i cei considera\u021bi respectabili \u0219i din lumea bun\u0103, f\u0103ceau tot posibilul s\u0103 treac\u0103 peste voin\u021ba ta ca intercity prin D\u00e2rste.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pe mine m\u0103 ajuta faptul c\u0103 eram \u00eenalt\u0103, voinic\u0103 \u0219i dac\u0103 le pfooteam una peste bot, \u00eei l\u0103sam la\u021bi. Dar erau multe fete care nu aveau suficient\u0103 for\u021b\u0103 fizic\u0103 s\u0103 se apere, \u0219i atunci, cam aceea era situa\u021bia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i nici nu te sim\u021beai confortabil s\u0103 faci pl\u00e2ngere pentru vi0l pentru c\u0103 poli\u021bia te-ar fi tratat ca pe ultima p**stituat\u0103 stradal\u0103 care \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 incrimineze un escroc care n-a pl\u0103tit-o, iar familia \u00ee\u021bi purta pic\u0103 tot \u021bie, c\u0103 \u00eei faci de r\u00e2s \u00een ochii vecinilor. \u0218i atunci, t\u0103ceai \u0219i \u00eendurai pe mute\u0219te.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201eVai, Loreno, dar a\u0219a vorbe\u0219te o doamn\u0103?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Am sc\u0103pat din multe situa\u021bii de presiune \u0219i coerci\u021bie prin faptul c\u0103 NU sunt o doamn\u0103 dec\u00e2t cu cine merit\u0103. \u00cen timp ce o gr\u0103mad\u0103 de doamne fac ani grei de terapie \u0219i se \u00eenvinuiesc obsesiv  iar \u0219i iar c\u0103 nu au \u0219tiut s\u0103-\u0219i comunice refuzul \u00eentr-un mod care s\u0103 poat\u0103 fi \u00een\u021beles \u0219i de agresor. Am multe prietene mature care nu au ie\u0219it niciodat\u0103 \u00een pres\u0103, dar se deschid c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti la cafea \u0219i ascund \u00een amintirile lor c\u00e2te o experien\u021b\u0103 abuziv\u0103, \u0219i \u00een unele cazuri, dou\u0103-trei.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i societatea \u021binea cu agresorul. Te certa tot pe tine c\u0103 \u00eel \u201eemasculezi\u201d. Pentru c\u0103 \u201emascularea\u201d lui era mai important\u0103 dec\u00e2t siguran\u021ba \u0219i integritatea ta fizic\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cred c\u0103 mul\u021bi b\u0103rba\u021bi de 30 &#8211; 40 de ani au pe r\u0103boj destule acte intime for\u021bate cu japca, dup\u0103 ce li s-a spus f\u0103r\u0103 dubiu \u201enu\u201d. \u0218i bunul lor renume e \u00een t\u0103cerea unei femei care alege s\u0103 nu ias\u0103 \u00een fa\u021b\u0103, pentru c\u0103 \u00eei \u0219tiu \u00eensura\u021bi \u0219i cu copii, \u0219i nu vor s\u0103-i ia copilului p\u00e2inea de la gur\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dar c\u00e2nd o femeie serioas\u0103 \u0219i inteligent\u0103 spune c\u0103 a fost violat\u0103 acum zece &#8211; cincisprezece &#8211; dou\u0103zeci de ani, mi se pare verosimil. \u021ainea de m\u00e2ndria de gigel ca individul s\u0103 nu se lase refuzat, \u0219i nu te jucai tu, o fraier\u0103 oarecare \u00een mintea lui, cu ditamai egoul c\u00e2t turla catedralei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ce bine c\u0103 vremurile s-au mai schimbat. 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