{"id":26541,"date":"2024-05-27T12:23:40","date_gmt":"2024-05-27T09:23:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=26541"},"modified":"2024-05-27T12:23:44","modified_gmt":"2024-05-27T09:23:44","slug":"toti-ar-trebui-sa-devenim-mai-sinceri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/toti-ar-trebui-sa-devenim-mai-sinceri\/","title":{"rendered":"To\u0163i ar trebui s\u0103 devenim mai sinceri"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u00cenc\u0103 \u00eemi amintesc un viral de acum c\u00e2\u0163iva ani, cu o postare a unei domni\u015foare dintr-un sat moldovenesc, care c\u0103uta un h\u0103ndr\u0103l\u0103u dispus s\u0103 fie pl\u0103tit pentru a se duce de s\u0103rb\u0103tori acas\u0103 cu ea, s\u0103 n-o mai frece rudele la icre c\u0103 nu se m\u0103rit\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u015ei nu \u00eencetez s\u0103 m\u0103 minunez de c\u00e2te minciuni au nevoie oamenii \u00een vie\u0163ile lor, \u00een loc s\u0103 aleag\u0103 cea mai simpl\u0103 \u015fi direct\u0103 politic\u0103. Aceea a sincerit\u0103\u0163ii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A. Nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 o c\u0103s\u0103torie \u015fi subiectul e \u00eenchis. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

At\u00e2t. Iar c\u00e2nd spui c\u0103 subiectul e \u00eenchis, refuzi orice insisten\u0163\u0103 a celuilalt de a continua. Dac\u0103 nu \u00een\u0163elege de vorb\u0103 bun\u0103, \u00eenchizi telefonul sau ie\u015fi din \u00eenc\u0103pere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stau \u015fi m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc c\u00e2t de chinuitor era pentru vedetele gay ale trecutului s\u0103 mimeze o rela\u0163ie cu o femeie care nu le pl\u0103cea de fapt. Via\u0163a e prea scurt\u0103 pentru a\u015fa ceva. Spune direct \u015fi scurt ce ai pe suflet. Nimeni nu are dreptul s\u0103-\u0163i spun\u0103 cum s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u015fti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

B. Nu \u00eemi placi \u00een acel mod. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Multe persoane se simt vinovate s\u0103 refuze frontal un pretendent la amor. Se tot fofileaz\u0103 elegant, \u00een speran\u0163a c\u0103 \u0103la se prinde \u015fi singur, iar \u0103la insist\u0103 ca boul, pentru c\u0103 un om \u00eendr\u0103gostit e orb la aluzii fine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spune-i direct c\u0103 nu e cazul s\u0103 continue. Da, \u015ftiu, mul\u0163i devin agresivi \u015fi abuzivi, \u015fi categoria pro\u015ftilor caut\u0103 s\u0103 se \u015fi r\u0103zbune. Dar tu m\u0103car \u0163i-ai luat o piatr\u0103 de pe suflet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C. Mi-a\u015f dori cutare. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 vrei un anumit cadou de ziua ta, cere-l. Scurt \u015fi la obiect. Las\u0103 vr\u0103jeala cu \u201evreau s\u0103 fiu surprins\u0103\u201d. Dac\u0103 nu ai genul de b\u0103rbat intuitiv care chiar te cunoa\u0219te – iar \u0103\u0219tia sunt unul la un milion – o s\u0103 te alegi cu un mu\u021bunache roz de 10 lei \u0219i tot tu o s\u0103 fii bosumflat\u0103. De ce s\u0103 nu practic\u0103m onestitatea \u0219i s\u0103 nu spunem exact lucrurile care ne-ar bucura? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

D. Nu, nu te doare capul. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Refuzi s** c\u00e2nd e\u0219ti sup\u0103rat\u0103, cu pretextul c\u0103 te doare capul. Apoi, \u00een c\u00e2\u021biva ani, descoperi c\u0103 gicu are o aventur\u0103 cu alta, pentru c\u0103 a ajuns la concluzia c\u0103 e\u0219ti frigid\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spune-i exact ce te nemul\u021bume\u0219te \u0219i care sunt chestiile care \u00ee\u021bi taie libidoul. Nu, nu are de unde s\u0103 le ghiceasc\u0103. Oamenii nu citesc g\u00e2nduri, \u0219i preten\u021bia asta, ca ei s\u0103 \u0219tie ce vrei f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 le spui, ucide multe conexiuni, pentru c\u0103 e mai simplu s\u0103 renun\u021bi dec\u00e2t s\u0103 te tot lup\u021bi cu absen\u021ba comunic\u0103rii \u0219i preten\u021bia s\u0103 fii mama Omida cu glob de cristal. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exist\u0103 dou\u0103 versiuni: cea \u00een care \u00eei pas\u0103 ce te nemul\u021bume\u0219te \u0219i e dispus s\u0103 lucreze la asta. Ceea ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 rela\u021bia are o \u0219ans\u0103. \u0218i cea \u00een care nu \u00eei pas\u0103. \u0218i m\u0103car \u0219tii c\u0103 a sosit momentul s\u0103 te ui\u021bi pe grupurile de chirii de pe Facebook. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E. E ok s\u0103 nu ai chef de ie\u0219it \u00een ora\u0219. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cenc\u0103 \u021bin minte cum, la 20 de ani, eram rupt\u0103 de oboseal\u0103, dar cedam mereu insisten\u021bei \u0219i presiunii de a ie\u0219i, chit c\u0103 timpul meu de somn era limitat de facultate \u0219i de job. Apoi, \u00een ora\u0219, m\u0103 luptam cu somnul \u0219i cu extenuarea, \u0219i cum st\u0103team la o mas\u0103, mim\u00e2nd c\u0103 ascult discu\u021bii care nu m\u0103 interesau, \u00een filmul meu interior m\u0103 proiectam pe un pat moale \u0219i pufos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu te duce nic\u0103ieri unde nu ai chef s\u0103 te duci. O s\u0103 la\u0219i altora impresia fals\u0103 c\u0103 e\u0219ti distant\u0103 \u0219i antipatic\u0103, pe c\u00e2nd tu de fapt e\u0219ti doar obosit\u0103 \u0219i ai nevoie s\u0103 dormi. O s\u0103 ie\u0219i c\u00e2nd vei fi \u00eentr-o form\u0103 mai bun\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

F. E ok s\u0103 spui pe \u0219leau c\u0103 un buget \u021bi se pare mic. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zilele trecute m-au contactat unii pentru o reclam\u0103. Bani insult\u0103tor de pu\u021bini. E ok s\u0103 spui c\u0103 apreciezi c\u0103 s-au g\u00e2ndit la tine, dar c\u0103 suma nu \u00ee\u021bi convine \u0219i preferi s\u0103 v\u0103 auzi\u021bi la alte proiecte. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nimic nu e mai nasol dec\u00e2t s\u0103 faci ceva \u00een sil\u0103, cu sentimentul c\u0103 oferi poman\u0103, \u00een timp ce interlocutorul nu \u0219tie ce buget te-ar coafa \u0219i crede c\u0103 e\u0219ti doar ciufut\u0103 tu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regret situa\u021biile din via\u021b\u0103 \u00een care am acceptat gratuit\u0103\u021bi f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 vreau cu adev\u0103rat, \u0219i reac\u021bionam cu iritare la orice preten\u021bie suplimentar\u0103 a persoanei pentru care f\u0103ceam gratuitatea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E ok s\u0103 nu vrei s\u0103 faci gratuit\u0103\u021bi. Say it. Say it like you mean it. Automat, pe un buget bun, vei reac\u021biona cu gra\u021bie \u0219i \u00eenc\u00e2ntare la idei noi. Nu mai accepta situa\u021bii care nu-\u021bi convin, pentru c\u0103 astea scot micul monstru r\u0103ut\u0103cios din tine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

G. E ok s\u0103 \u00eentrerupi sec certuri de care n-ai chef. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u021ai-ai spus punctul de vedere o dat\u0103. De dou\u0103 ori. De trei ori. Dar cel\u0103lalt pare s\u0103 se distreze cert\u00e2ndu-se \u0219i face \u00eendelung pe prostul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E perfect \u00een regul\u0103 s\u0103 pui cap\u0103t abrupt \u0219i s\u0103 declari tema definitiv \u00eenchis\u0103, pentru c\u0103 dac\u0103 omul chiar voia s\u0103 ajung\u0103 la o \u00een\u021belegere cu tine, se concentra s\u0103 vad\u0103 ce vrei. Nu face asta? \u00censeamn\u0103 c\u0103 pierzi timp. \u0218i chiar nu ai de pe s\u0103 pierzi timp. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prin urmare: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

H. E ok s\u0103 pleci. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 nu sim\u021bi c\u0103 po\u021bi stabili o punte de comunicare cu cineva \u0219i c\u0103 vorbe\u0219ti cu pere\u021bii, nu ai motive s\u0103 te consumi suplimentar. Via\u021ba e scurt\u0103, resursele limitate. G\u0103se\u0219te cea mai apropiat\u0103 ie\u0219ire \u0219i nu te uita \u00eenapoi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dac\u0103 apreciezi acest articol, po\u021bi sus\u021bine la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u site-ul \u00een singurul mod care conteaz\u0103. Aici<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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