{"id":26671,"date":"2024-07-11T09:55:28","date_gmt":"2024-07-11T06:55:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=26671"},"modified":"2024-07-11T09:55:30","modified_gmt":"2024-07-11T06:55:30","slug":"ce-inseamna-love-bombing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/ce-inseamna-love-bombing\/","title":{"rendered":"Ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 love bombing?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Ieri, \u00eemi povestea un cunoscut c\u0103 femeile au o repulsie fa\u021b\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u021bi \u0219i g\u0103sesc un termen negativ pentru orice. Nuuu mai spune, am zis eu, mie mi se pare c\u0103, dimpotriv\u0103, femeile sunt mult mai \u00een\u021beleg\u0103toare \u0219i tolerante cu b\u0103rba\u021bii dec\u00e2t cu alte femei. Las\u0103 el dezordine? Ea \u00eei str\u00e2nge t\u0103cut\u0103 tricourile \u0219i cutiile goale de bere. Las\u0103 colega de camer\u0103 dezordine? Urmeaz\u0103 o lung\u0103 conversa\u021bie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uite, zice cunoscutul, p\u00e2n\u0103 acum, femeile se pl\u00e2ngeau de cei care le bat, le jignesc sau le neglijeaz\u0103. Acum, se pl\u00e2ng \u0219i de cei care le fac prea multe cadouri \u0219i complimente. Chestia asta se nume\u0219te \u201elove bombing\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stai, ce? Tu crezi c\u0103 love bombing \u00eenseamn\u0103 a curta romantic pe cineva? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u0103i nu asta \u00eenseamn\u0103? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

NU. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i a\u0219a mi-a venit ideea acestui articol. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exist\u0103 atrac\u021bie la prima vedere. to\u021bi am sim\u021bit-o de c\u00e2teva ori \u00een via\u021b\u0103. C\u00e2nd cuno\u0219ti un om \u0219i te sim\u021bi fascinat \u0219i interesat, \u0219i vrei s\u0103 afli mai mult. \u0218i atrac\u021bia asta la prima vedere poate evolua \u00eentr-o frumoas\u0103 poveste de dragoste, sau dac\u0103 apar varii probleme la a doua \u0219i a treia vedere, poate muri ante portas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen acest caz, \u00ee\u021bi place persoana a\u0219a cum e ea, c\u0103 de aceea e\u0219ti acolo, \u0219i evolu\u021bia rela\u021biei se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een mod natural, pentru c\u0103 oamenii sunt compatibili \u0219i pot s\u0103 f\u0103ureasc\u0103 ceva armonios \u0219i echilibrat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mbun. Dar exist\u0103 \u0219i atrac\u021bia la prima vedere cu interes ascuns. Ca s\u0103 nu se umfle iar t\u0103r\u00e2\u021ba \u00een gigei c\u0103 b\u0103rbatul e mereu personajul negativ, hai s\u0103 alegem o situa\u021bie cu o femeie care face love bombing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 zicem, Alinu\u021ba vrea s\u0103 se m\u0103rite. S\u0103 fie fericite m\u0103tu\u0219ile c\u00e2nd vine de Cr\u0103ciun cu so\u021bul la bra\u021b \u0219i cu trei plozi de fust\u0103. \u0218i \u00eel cunoa\u0219te pe Gigel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nici m\u0103car nu-\u0219i d\u0103 prea mult timp s\u0103-l cunoasc\u0103 mai bine pe Gigel, pentru c\u0103 urgen\u021ba ei este s\u0103 aib\u0103 un so\u021b, oricum o fi el. Nevoia real\u0103 e cea de validare social\u0103 \u00een familia ei, iar validarea asta se poate \u00eent\u00e2mpla doar dac\u0103 fata pune pirostriile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i atunci, Alinu\u021ba \u00eencepe s\u0103-l complimenteze intens pe Gigel, s\u0103-i trimit\u0103 multe mesaje, s\u0103 \u00eel invite pe la ea, s\u0103 \u00eei arate de 3567890 pe zi c\u0103 via\u021ba f\u0103r\u0103 el e pustiu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spre deosebire de atrac\u021bia de la prima vedere, care e urmat\u0103 de un proces natural de apropiere, love bombingul are un vibe extrem de for\u021bat. Prea mult, prea din senin. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E adev\u0103rat, dac\u0103 victima (Gigel \u00een acest caz) e privat\u0103 fie de afec\u021biune, fie de aten\u021bie, fie de resurse materiale, va \u00eenghi\u021bi momeala ca un pe\u0219ti\u0219or naiv \u0219i va crede c\u0103 da, asta e marea iubire. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar exist\u0103 \u0219i varianta \u00een care \u021binta love bombingului zice, ia hai, mai u\u0219urel cu invazia t\u0103tar\u0103, c\u0103 eu mai am \u0219i treburi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen secunda \u00een care tu ceri spa\u021biu, cel care face love bombing agresiv \u00ee\u0219i va schimba atitudinea cu 180 de grade \u0219i va deveni la fel de agresiv, dar pe hate. Exemplu: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eSalut, frumoasa, \u021bi-am v\u0103zut pozele, e\u0219ti pies\u0103. Vrei s\u0103 ne cunoa\u0219tem?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pauz\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eHeey, minunato, \u021bi-am dat like la poza de profil. Te plac foarte tare.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pauz\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eFrumoaso, vreau s\u0103 te cunosc mai bine.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pauz\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eE\u0219ti o c**\u0103 ur\u00e2t\u0103 \u0219i proast\u0103, \u0219i f\u0103ceam mi\u0219to cu mesajele alea de dinainte!\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Iat\u0103 cel mai basic exemplu de love bombing, pe care toate femeile \u00eel au \u00een mesageria lor privat\u0103. Un om s\u0103n\u0103tos cu capul poate s\u0103 te plac\u0103, poate s\u0103 \u0219i \u00eencerce s\u0103-\u021bi cear\u0103 un date, dar nu devine brusc abuziv verbal dac\u0103 vede c\u0103 interesul lui nu e reciproc. C\u00e2nd un individ te fug\u0103re\u0219te nu pentru tine, ci pentru c\u0103 el e netufut \/ nem\u0103ritat\u0103 \u0219i tu trebuie s\u0103 fii r\u0103spunsul la nevoia lui, fie c\u0103 vrei, fie c\u0103 nu, vorbim de love bombing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Pe scurt, dac\u0103 e\u0219ti cinic \u0219i ne\u00eencrez\u0103tor, ca mine, pojghi\u021ba de pe love bombing cade repede. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar dac\u0103 e\u0219ti Gigel naiv din exemplul de mai sus \u0219i pui botul la vr\u0103jeal\u0103, o crezi pe Alinu\u021ba \u0219i te \u00eensori, \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 totul e bine, nu? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

NU. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu pentru c\u0103 Alinu\u021ba nu te place cu adev\u0103rat pe tine ca persoan\u0103, nu e interesat\u0103 de nevoile tale \u0219i nu \u00ee\u021bi vrea binele, a\u0219a cum nici l\u0103b\u0103ric\u0103 din mesaje private citat mai sus nu te place cu adev\u0103rat pe tine ca persoan\u0103, nu e interesat de nevoile tale \u0219i nu \u00ee\u021bi vrea binele. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ambii urmeaz\u0103 o agend\u0103. Alinu\u021ba, s\u0103 aib\u0103 un prost l\u00e2ng\u0103 ea, s\u0103-l prezinte triumf\u0103toare m\u0103tu\u0219ilor \u0219i s\u0103 se valideze social. L\u0103b\u0103ric\u0103, s\u0103 aib\u0103 ceva de tufut \u0219i s\u0103 nu dea \u0219i \u00een seara asta banii pe profesioniste. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i de aceea, ambii se r\u0103zbun\u0103 crunt, dac\u0103 nu vrei s\u0103 fii r\u0103spunsul la nevoia lor. Pe c\u00e2nd, dac\u0103 vorbim de atrac\u021bie real\u0103 care din varii motive nu se concretizeaz\u0103, oamenii r\u0103m\u00e2n cu nostalgie \u0219i regret, \u0219i \u00een niciun caz cu nevoia s\u0103 terorizeze persoana iubit\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

OK, s\u0103 revenim: dar dac\u0103 Gigel chiar o crede pe Alinu\u021ba \u0219i se \u00eensoar\u0103 cu ea? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u0103i, dup\u0103 ce Alinu\u021ba se vede cu sacii \u00een c\u0103ru\u021b\u0103, love bombingul dispare automat \u0219i urmeaz\u0103 lista de atribu\u021bii pe care Gigel trebuie s\u0103 le execute, \u00een calitatea lui de r\u0103spuns la o nevoie. \u0218i \u00een scurt timp, Gigel devine, din \u201eiubi meu dulce\u201d, \u201eboul de b\u0103rbatu-miu.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love bomberul NU are afec\u021biune real\u0103 fa\u021b\u0103 de persoana pe care o acoper\u0103 cu complimente \u0219i cadouri. \u0218i asta se vede din momentul \u00een care consider\u0103 c\u0103 a ob\u021binut ceea ce \u0219i-a dorit. Comportamentul romantic dispare f\u0103r\u0103 urme. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pe de alt\u0103 parte, c\u00e2nd rela\u021bia e bazat\u0103 pe sentimente reale care se amplific\u0103 \u00een timp, comportamentul romantic r\u0103m\u00e2ne. Da, nu mai e at\u00e2t de intens c\u00e2nd vin chiria, facturile, rata la banc\u0103 \u0219i \u0219edin\u021ba cu p\u0103rin\u021bii, dar oamenii nu uit\u0103 c\u0103 se iubesc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen concluzie: c\u00e2nd femeile vorbesc despre love bombing, acuz\u0103 cumva faptul c\u0103 primesc prea multe cadouri \u0219i c\u0103 \u0103sta e un lucru r\u0103u? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spun doar c\u0103 se citesc foarte clar presiunea \u0219i agresiunea de dincolo de pojghi\u021ba de sirop, \u0219i acest lucru le face s\u0103 vrea s\u0103 fug\u0103. Pe bun\u0103 dreptate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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