{"id":26688,"date":"2024-07-18T11:30:07","date_gmt":"2024-07-18T08:30:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=26688"},"modified":"2024-07-18T12:49:10","modified_gmt":"2024-07-18T09:49:10","slug":"intalnire-cu-o-haterita","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/intalnire-cu-o-haterita\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00cent\u00e2lnire cu o hateri\u021b\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

N-am \u00een\u021beles niciodat\u0103 oamenii care dau cu hate online. OK, dac\u0103 e\u0219ti ca fra\u021bii Tate \u0219i ai un discurs de tipul femeia la crati\u021b\u0103 \u0219i tu, gigele, tu \u00eei confi\u0219ti to\u021bi banii din munca ei, pentru c\u0103 a fi b\u0103rbat \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 jecm\u0103ne\u0219ti femeia de toate resursele ei, atunci s\u0103 zicem c\u0103 \u00een\u021beleg c\u0103 anumite femei vor sim\u021bi nevoia s\u0103-\u0219i bage p \u00een m lor. Dar dac\u0103 discursul nu trimite pe nimeni la nicio crati\u021b\u0103, nu \u00een\u021beleg de ce s\u0103 stai s\u0103 dai cu hate \u00een creatorul X, \u00een loc s\u0103 te duci s\u0103 cau\u021bi pe creatorul Y, care face ceva mai apropiat de sufletul t\u0103u.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i totu\u0219i, pu\u021bin\u0103 lume a avut parte de mai mult bullying online dec\u00e2t mine. De obicei, de la oameni c\u0103rora nu le datoram nimic \u0219i care nu donau nimic, s\u0103 se justifice c\u0103 pretind altceva \u0219i recompenseaz\u0103 ceea ce pretind. Hateul \u00eencasat de mine a fost mereu la modul \u201evreau s\u0103-\u021bi spun ce s\u0103 faci, doar pentru c\u0103 am eu gura mare \u0219i multe jigniri \u00een arsenal, \u0219i nu trebuie s\u0103 ofer nimic pe l\u00e2ng\u0103.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De obicei, pe contul personal, unde nu e nimic monetizat, dau block instant, dar pe pagina de Facebook, las s\u0103 latre \u0219i mai dau c\u00e2te o replic\u0103, s\u0103 mai latre o dat\u0103, c\u0103 se contorizeaz\u0103 ca trafic \u0219i engagement. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u0219a s-a oplo\u0219it pe pagina mea o tanti tare crizat\u0103. Genul care venea s\u0103 dea verdicte foarte agresive, de la \u00een\u0103l\u021bimea piedestalului ei imaginar – \u00een realitate, era proast\u0103 cu spume – iar c\u00e2nd \u00eei luai la mi\u0219to abera\u021biile, \u00eencepea s\u0103 te amenin\u021be, c\u0103 te-a v\u0103zut la metrou la Titan \u0219i data viitoare dac\u0103 te vede, te ia de p\u0103r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen cele din urm\u0103, at\u00e2rna at\u00e2t de obsesiv pe pagina mea cu amenin\u021b\u0103rile, \u00eenc\u00e2t am blocat-o, s\u0103 plictiseasc\u0103 cu ie\u0219irile astea isterice pe \u0103la care o tufe. M\u0103car \u0103la prime\u0219te ceva \u00een schimb. Eu nu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Azi, m-am urcat \u00een metrou, \u00een drum spre munc\u0103. O femeie a dat s\u0103 se a\u0219eze l\u00e2ng\u0103 mine, apoi a tres\u0103rit \u0219i s-a dus urgent mult mai \u00eencolo. Viteza mi\u0219c\u0103rii mi-a atras aten\u021bia, m-am uitat cine era. Ei bine? Era chiar hateri\u021ba mea blocat\u0103. \u00cemi invadase pagina ca o infesta\u021bie de p\u0103duchi, \u0219i deja \u00eei \u0219tiam mutra ca pe mere p\u0103dure\u021be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

M-am uitat lung la ea cu privirea care \u00eentreba: Parc\u0103 ziceai c\u0103 m\u0103 iei de p\u0103r, nu c\u0103 o rupi la fug\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se uita fix \u00een alt\u0103 direc\u021bie, cu privirea omului care te simte \u0219i mimeaz\u0103 \u00eencr\u00e2ncenat c\u0103 nu e\u0219ti acolo. \u0218i a \u00eenceput brusc s\u0103 dea necontrolat din cap \u0219i din umeri. Ca un fel de ticuri nervoase mici, dar redundante. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O doamn\u0103 \u00een v\u00e2rst\u0103. Una care ar fi trebuit s\u0103 aib\u0103 cu totul alte ocupa\u021bii \u00een via\u021ba ei dec\u00e2t s\u0103 h\u0103r\u021buiasc\u0103 pe net pe una care nu-i convine. Mai ales c\u0103 netul rom\u00e2nesc e plin de m\u0103mici iubitoare, prin\u021bese urbane, experte \u00een dezvoltare personal\u0103, care ar fi putut s-o satisfac\u0103 \u00een nevoia ei de frumos \u0219i bine. \u0218i acum mai avea pu\u021bin \u0219i se zv\u00e2rcolea pe jos de stinghereal\u0103 \u0219i stres c\u0103 se uit\u0103 la ea una pe care o tot amenin\u021base pe net. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar din ticurile alea, mi-am dat seama c\u0103 femeia are multe alte probleme, Care nu aveau leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu mine. \u0218i m\u0103 alesese pe mine, din tot internetul, \u021bap isp\u0103\u0219itor pentru toate aceste probleme. Nu \u0219tim de ce, \u0219i probabil c\u0103 nici nu are vreo importan\u021b\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S-a ridicat iar \u0219i s-a dus mult, mult mai \u00eencolo, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd a ie\u0219it din orizontul meu vizual. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ea m\u0103 jignise \u00een fel \u0219i chip online. eu am recompensat-o doar cu o privire. \u0218i se pare c\u0103 ea a fost cea care n-a putut suporta. \ud83d\ude00 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce vreau eu s\u0103 spun cu acest text: dac\u0103 via\u021ba ta de acum nu te satisface: nu-\u021bi c\u0103uta sac de box emo\u021bional online. Da, poate c\u0103 o s\u0103 derivi c\u00e2teva minute de adrenalin\u0103 din r\u0103utatea pe care o vei proiecta asupra sacului de box. Dar \u00een fond, via\u021ba ta va r\u0103m\u00e2ne aceea\u0219i. Mai bine, rezolv\u0103-\u021bi problemele, dac\u0103 ai cum. \u0218i caut\u0103 blogurile, vlogurile, podcasturile care te \u00eemplinesc. Azi, sunt at\u00e2tea, \u00eenc\u00e2t sigur e undeva pe internet omul care vorbe\u0219te pe limba ta. Mai bine \u00eel sus\u021bii pe el, dec\u00e2t s\u0103 m\u0103 freci la cap pe mine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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N-am \u00een\u021beles niciodat\u0103 oamenii care dau cu hate online. OK, dac\u0103 e\u0219ti ca fra\u021bii Tate \u0219i ai un discurs de tipul femeia la crati\u021b\u0103...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":18558,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26688","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry222.jpg?fit=800%2C600&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26688","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26688"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26688\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26690,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26688\/revisions\/26690"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18558"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26688"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26688"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26688"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}