{"id":26782,"date":"2024-08-14T10:07:45","date_gmt":"2024-08-14T07:07:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=26782"},"modified":"2024-08-14T10:07:48","modified_gmt":"2024-08-14T07:07:48","slug":"nimeni-nu-ti-datoreaza-un-raspuns","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/nimeni-nu-ti-datoreaza-un-raspuns\/","title":{"rendered":"Nimeni nu-\u0163i datoreaz\u0103 un r\u0103spuns"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Zilele trecute, circula pe net chestia asta: <\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"700\" height=\"759\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/image-1.png?resize=700%2C759&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-26784\" style=\"width:389px;height:auto\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/image-1.png?w=720&amp;ssl=1 720w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/image-1.png?resize=277%2C300&amp;ssl=1 277w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/image-1.png?resize=138%2C150&amp;ssl=1 138w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 700px) 100vw, 700px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I-am dat \u015fi eu share pe pagina mea, \u015fi, slav\u0103 Domnului, 90% dintre cititori au r\u0103spuns cu glumi\u0163e care reflectau viziunea noastr\u0103 comun\u0103: nu te apuci s\u0103 \u00eenjuri ca un animal, dac\u0103 mai vrei vreodat\u0103 vreo interac\u0163iune decent\u0103 cu persoana vizat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Apoi, eventual, tot tu s\u0103 ragi c\u0103 femeile rom\u00e2nce devin nefeminine, dup\u0103 ce le \u00eenjur\u0103 din nimic 30 de t\u00e2rle\u0163i rata\u0163i ca tine \u015fi ajung la un punct \u00een care furia astfel acumulat\u0103 erupe ca un vulcan. Nimic nu nimice\u015fte cheful de feminitate ca ghiolb\u0103neala. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So: cum ziceam, 90% dintre cititori au fost pe aceea\u015fi lungime de und\u0103. Dar au existat \u015fi acei 10% care au afirmat c\u0103 persoana care ignora mesajele nedorite merita \u00eenjurat\u0103. C\u0103 nu e de bun sim\u0163 s\u0103 ignori mesaje nedorite. (Dar e de bun sim\u0163 s\u0103 \u00eenjuri, sau ceva.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Acestor oameni am c\u0103utat s\u0103 le explic cu frumosul urm\u0103toarele: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Nici un str\u0103in nu \u00ee\u0163i datoreaz\u0103 timpul lui. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Faptul c\u0103 tu dore\u015fti o interac\u0163iune nu presupune obliga\u0163ia reciprocit\u0103\u0163ii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sunt oameni care, pur \u015fi simplu, nu sunt interesa\u0163i de tine. Arunc\u0103 un ochi pe profilul t\u0103u, nu le capteaz\u0103 nimic aten\u0163ia, \u015fi consider\u0103 c\u0103 e mai simplu s\u0103 nu se angajeze \u00eentr-o interac\u0163iune care, \u00een mod evident, nu duce nic\u0103ieri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sunt oameni care nu sunt \u00een c\u0103utare de fuflet pereche, sau de flirt, sau de ag\u0103\u0163at. \u015ei atunci, \u00een special, mesajele de tip \u201ebun\u0103\u201d, \u201ebun\u0103, cf?\u201d \u0219i \u201esalut\u201d sunt cele peste care dau scroll ca acceleratul prin D\u00e2rste, pentru c\u0103, dac\u0103 un om te contacteaz\u0103 cu o treab\u0103, nu cu b\u0103gare \u00een seam\u0103 aiurea, de obicei te ia cu \u201eBun\u0103, sunt Grigore, a\u0219 vrea s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi propun x \u0219i y.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i pot fi \u0219i oameni care au extrem de mult\u0103 treab\u0103, \u0219i pur \u0219i simplu nu au timp de tranca-fleanca doar de dragul de a face tranca-fleanca. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Oricum o fi, dac\u0103 nu ai o anumit\u0103 familiaritate cu persoana respectiv\u0103, acea persoan\u0103 are tot dreptul s\u0103 decid\u0103 c\u0103 nu dore\u0219te s\u0103 piard\u0103 timp cu herp &#8211; derp. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u0218i, c\u00e2nd te apuci s\u0103 \u00eenjuri ca un apucat, nu faci dec\u00e2t s\u0103 confirmi c\u0103 decizia ei ini\u021bial\u0103 de a nu aloca timp interac\u021biunii este cea corect\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Acum, eu recunosc, fiind o fire coleric\u0103, nu l\u0103sam \u00eenjur\u0103turile alea a\u0219a. Fie c\u0103 m\u0103 prindea nervoas\u0103, \u0219i-mi b\u0103gam o mie de pwle \u00een mor\u021bi\u0219orii lui, p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een punctul \u00een care se g\u00e2ndea de zece ori s\u0103 mai deranjeze vreo femeie pe internet. Fie m\u0103 prindea ocupat\u0103 sau doar chill, \u0219i \u00eei tufleam un block, s\u0103 o \u00eenjure pe acest model pe m\u0103mi\u021bica lui \u0219toarf\u0103, care a preferat s\u0103 presteze alte activit\u0103\u021bi \u00een loc s\u0103-l educe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Un lucru cert e c\u0103 gigel n-ar mai fi apucat s\u0103-mi trimit\u0103 siropo\u0219enii generice de s\u0103rb\u0103tori, pe criteriul \u201es\u0103 fim mai buni, dar numai atunci\u201d, dup\u0103 ce s-a dezbr\u0103cat de caracter \u00een acest mod. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Oricum, cei care ap\u0103r\u0103 acest comportament prezint\u0103 un mare red flag. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pe c\u00e2nd eram scriitor \u0219i blogger \u00eencep\u0103tor, \u00eencercam s\u0103 aplic bune maniere occidentale cu to\u021bi poten\u021bialii cititori. \u0218i r\u0103spundeam la orice \u201ebun\u0103\u201d, \u201ebun\u0103, cf?\u201d \u0219i \u201esalut\u201d cu mult\u0103 polite\u021be. C\u0103utam s\u0103 explic la fel de politicos c\u0103 eu nu sunt pe net s\u0103 caut maskul ferok &#8211; dac\u0103 eram \u00een c\u0103utare, ini\u021biam \u0219i eu un business de natur\u0103 s**ual\u0103, s\u0103 monetizez acel tip de aten\u021bie, dar nu e cazul &#8211; \u0219i c\u0103 \u00eei invit s\u0103-\u0219i caute aleasa inimii \u00een alt\u0103 parte \u0219i s\u0103 se limiteze la citit texte \/ comentat on topic pe aceste meleaguri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i evident c\u0103 \u0103ia nu f\u0103ceau dec\u00e2t s\u0103 insiste, \u0219i s\u0103 insiste, \u0219i s\u0103 insiste. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sau dac\u0103 se opreau atunci, reveneau peste dou\u0103 zile, cu acelea\u0219i tentative de ag\u0103\u021bat. \u0218i se presupunea c\u0103 mai trebuie s\u0103 investe\u0219ti dou\u0103 ore s\u0103 le redesenezi ce le-ai desenat o dat\u0103 data trecut\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pe urm\u0103, tot ei se frustrau \u0219i tot la \u00eenjurat ajungeau, chit c\u0103 tu, \u00een polite\u021bea ta prost direc\u021bionat\u0103, b\u0103gase\u0219i mai multe ore \u00een c**l lor, s\u0103 le prezin\u021bi un refuz argumentat \u0219i corect politic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Prin urmare: tentativa de a fi om cu aceste otrepe abuzive e sortit\u0103 e\u0219ecului. PENTRU C\u0102 LOR LI SE CUVIN CANTIT\u0102\u021aI NELIMITATE DIN TIMPUL T\u0102U, \u00een mintea lor, \u0219i \u00een secunda \u00een care nu le stai la dispozi\u021bie, pentru c\u0103 ai treburi, jignirea poate \u00eencepe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>De aceea, versiunea scurt\u0103 \u0219i eficient\u0103 e s\u0103 ignori pur \u0219i simplu mesaje care nu te intereseaz\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 te concentrezi pe ce te preocup\u0103 pe tine. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Unul dintre gigei se \u00eencinsese tare \u00een a-mi perora c\u0103 nu po\u021bi ignora un salut, c\u0103 e culmea nesim\u021birii, c\u0103 e obliga\u021bia ta s\u0103 r\u0103spunzi, c\u0103 altfel \u0103la poate reac\u021biona cum vrea el \u0219i etc. Dup\u0103 30 de tentative de a explica tot ce am scris \u00een acest text, i-am zis: \u201eOk, v\u0103d c\u0103 nimic nu te poate convinge c\u0103 nu e normal s\u0103 pretinzi \u00een mod agresiv timp unor femei necunoscute pe net, \u0219i nici nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 s\u0103 te conving de nimic. \u00cen fond, e via\u021ba ta, \u0219i tu vei pl\u0103ti pre\u021bul propriului comportament, c\u00e2nd alea \u00eenjurate \u00ee\u021bi vor da block peste block peste block, \u0219i vei obosi de l@b\u0103. Ce vreau \u00een schimb e s\u0103 te opre\u0219ti din a insista aici pe subiect. OK?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Evident c\u0103 nu era ok. Doar nu crede\u021bi c\u0103 un bou care crede c\u0103 e normal s\u0103 \u00eenjuri femei doar pentru c\u0103 nu au chef de interac\u021biunea cu tine prinde aluzia fin\u0103 c\u0103 a dep\u0103\u0219it momentul \u00een care era binevenit. Mi-a postat alt c\u00e2rnat interminabil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Am mai zis o dat\u0103: \u201eAmice, se pare c\u0103 n-ai prins mesajul comentariului precedent. Am \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 asta crezi tu \u0219i c\u0103 nu la\u0219i logica s\u0103 te ating\u0103 nici c\u00e2t negru sub unghie, prin urmare, renun\u021b la a mai pierde timpul. Vreau doar s\u0103 te opre\u0219ti din comentat, pentru c\u0103 e vizibil c\u0103 nu \u00een\u021belegi nimic. Stop.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Alt c\u00e2rnat interminabil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0218i atunci, mi-am dat seama c\u0103 tot la \u00eenjur\u0103turi se ajunge, \u0219i, ca s\u0103 nu risc o lun\u0103 de zucc, l-am blocat pur \u0219i simplu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cen nici un minut, a ap\u0103rut un cont fake cu zero urm\u0103ritori s\u0103 m\u0103 fac\u0103 zdrean\u021b\u0103, panaram\u0103 \u0219i t\u00e2rf\u0103. Jeap, un block \u0219i pe acest cont fake. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Pentru c\u0103, desigur, cel care ap\u0103r\u0103 acest tip de comportament se reg\u0103se\u0219te \u00een el. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Omul care nu \u00een\u021belege c\u0103 timpul altuia e resursa celui \u00een cauz\u0103 \u0219i c\u0103 o po\u021bi solicita doar dac\u0103 \u0219i celuilalt i se pare c\u0103 are ce discuta cu tine trebuie pus pe silen\u021bios de cum identific\u0103m patternul de comportament. Pentru c\u0103 singurul mod de a limita abuzul pe care \u00eel \u00eenduri \u00een interac\u021biunea cu acest tip de om e s\u0103-l \u021bii c\u00e2t mai departe de tine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 s\u0103 pierzi \u0219i bani c\u00e2nd dai jet acestui tip de individ? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Uneori da. Dar de fiecare dat\u0103, sunt cei mai greu c\u00e2\u0219tiga\u021bi bani din cariera ta. Pentru c\u0103 \u0103la deja crede c\u0103 timpul \u0219i eforturile tale i se cuvin de la sine, iar dac\u0103 d\u0103 \u0219i bani pe ceva, are o list\u0103 de preten\u021bii \u0219i de a\u0219tept\u0103ri mult peste valoarea eventualului beneficiu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sooo, block e cea mai s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103 mintal \u0218I avantajoas\u0103 economic solu\u021bie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Iar lipsa r\u0103spunsului e bun\u0103 \u0219i ca test psihologic. Se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eenjure dac\u0103 nu e b\u0103gat \u00een seam\u0103 cum crede c\u0103 i s-ar cuveni? M\u0103car \u00eel blochezi cu inima lini\u0219tit\u0103 c\u0103 ai evacuat un imbecil din experien\u021ba ta online. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;\u015fi&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCCHBtHi6S2GlUFqETH70cjQ\">YouTube<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;\u015fi pe<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@lorena.lupu\">&nbsp;TikTok<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi plac aceste articole, po\u021bi alege s\u0103-mi oferi sus\u021binerea de care am nevoie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.paypal.com\/paypalme\/Trollywood\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"250\" height=\"82\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/paypal-.jpg?w=700&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-25884\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/paypal-.jpg?w=250&amp;ssl=1 250w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/paypal-.jpg?resize=150%2C49&amp;ssl=1 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 250px) 100vw, 250px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Zilele trecute, circula pe net chestia asta: I-am dat \u015fi eu share pe pagina mea, \u015fi, slav\u0103 Domnului, 90% dintre cititori au r\u0103spuns cu&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":13658,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26782","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/monkeyseen.jpg?fit=620%2C344&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26782","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26782"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26782\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26785,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26782\/revisions\/26785"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13658"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26782"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26782"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26782"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}