{"id":26850,"date":"2024-08-28T09:31:16","date_gmt":"2024-08-28T06:31:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=26850"},"modified":"2024-08-28T09:31:17","modified_gmt":"2024-08-28T06:31:17","slug":"posta-redactiei-sotia-mea-nu-vrea-sa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/posta-redactiei-sotia-mea-nu-vrea-sa\/","title":{"rendered":"Po\u015fta redac\u0163iei: So\u0163ia mea nu vrea s\u0103&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimi(te)\u021bi problema voastr\u0103 de suflet pe birou@lorenalupu.com. Noi citim, cuget\u0103m \u0219i analiz\u0103m, apoi propunem o solu\u021bie sau d\u0103m o opinie \u00ceNTR-UN ARTICOL PE BLOG.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sau \u00een consulta\u0163ie privat\u0103, contra cost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Scrisorica de azi spune a\u015fa:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Drag\u0103 Lorena,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Urm\u0103resc de mult ceea ce publici \u0219i mi-au pl\u0103cut de fiecare dat\u0103 p\u0103rerile tale rezonabile \u0219i echilibrate. Am \u0219i eu o problem\u0103, dar \u00eemi fac curaj de vreo c\u00e2\u021biva ani s\u0103 o prezint &#8220;public&#8221;.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Sunt c\u0103s\u0103torit de 20 de ani cu o femeie, care am constatat \u00eentr-un&nbsp;final ca este asexual\u0103. Foarte mult timp nu am \u0219tiut c\u0103 exist\u0103 aceast\u0103 orientare sexual\u0103 \u0219i am pus problemele care derivau din asta pe seama timidit\u0103\u021bii ei, a mediului (\u00eenainte de a avea apartamentul nostru propriu, am locuit \u00een c\u0103min, apoi am avut un apartament \u00eenchiriat \u00een comun cu alte persoane, apoi \u00een comun cu p\u0103rin\u021bii ei, deci nu era mediul ideal \u00een ceea ce prive\u0219te intimitatea), apoi a mea (am zis c\u0103 poate nu sunt destul de bun ca b\u0103rbat, de\u0219i ea niciodat\u0103 nu s-a pl\u00e2ns sau nu a dat vreun semn care s\u0103 indice acest lucru). Odat\u0103 ce am aflat de asexualitate, treptat, am pus cap la cap toate \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103rile \u0219i a reie\u0219it clar c\u0103 exista posibilitatea ca ea s\u0103 aib\u0103 aceasta orientare \u0219i nici m\u0103car s\u0103 nu \u0219tie. Am discutat, \u00een timp, cu ea \u0219i a admis c\u0103 acest lucru este posibil.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>A\u0219a cum cred c\u0103 \u0219tii, asexualitatea se manifest\u0103 ca o lips\u0103 a nevoii de activitate sexuala, ca o nevoie primar\u0103. Asta \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 persoana \u00een cauz\u0103 se poate bucura de actul sexual, dac\u0103 se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103, dar nu va fi niciodat\u0103 interesat\u0103 s\u0103 preia ini\u021biativa sau s\u0103 ias\u0103 din sfera de confort, special pentru acest lucru.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u00cen cazul meu, fiecare \u00eencercare de a o &#8220;cuceri&#8221; este de multe ori blocat\u0103 de &#8220;nu este momentul acum&#8221;. Acesta este pentru mine un refuz categoric iar ca s\u0103 \u00eel ocolesc, trebuie s\u0103 preg\u0103tesc momentul cu mult timp \u00eenainte, ceea ce implic\u0103 eliminarea spontaneit\u0103\u021bii, precum \u0219i at\u00e2t de mult\u0103 energie consumat\u0103, \u00eenc\u00e2t, la urm\u0103, nu mi se mai pare nimic interesant pentru a m\u0103 bucura si eu de moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Acum, problema este c\u0103 noi, except\u00e2nd aceasta problem\u0103, suntem familia ideal\u0103, avem \u00eencredere unul \u00een altul \u0219i ne sprijinim reciproc. Am \u00eencercat s\u0103 discut cu ea problema concret. C\u00e2nd \u00eei explic nevoile mele, spune &#8220;te \u00een\u021beleg, iart\u0103-m\u0103, o s\u0103 \u00eencerc s\u0103 fie ok&#8221;, dar apoi, totul este neschimbat. Am ajuns la concluzia c\u0103 \u00eei cer ceva ce ea, practic, nu \u00eemi poate oferi, a\u0219a c\u0103 m\u0103 simt \u0219i vinovat c\u00e2nd o doresc. Sunt luni \u00eentregi c\u00e2nd nu facem sex. \u021ain s\u0103 specific faptul c\u0103, \u00een cei peste 22 de ani de rela\u021bie, nu am \u00een\u0219elat-o niciodat\u0103.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Ar fi mai multe posibilit\u0103\u021bi de a aborda problema: s\u0103 o \u00een\u0219el (exclus, asta ar \u00eensemna s\u0103 \u00eei distrug \u00eencrederea \u00een mine, cl\u0103dit\u0103 \u0219i cultivat\u0103 \u00een ani de zile, pentru c\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, tot se afl\u0103, s\u0103 fim serio\u0219i), s\u0103 lu\u0103m \u00een calcul o rela\u021bie deschis\u0103 (nici asta nu este o posibilitate viabil\u0103, pentru c\u0103 nu ar accepta a\u0219a ceva \u0219i nici eu nu \u0219tiu dac\u0103 a\u0219 fi \u00eentru totul ok) \u0219i, a treia posibilitate, cea pe care am \u0219i ales-o, este s\u0103 fac fa\u021b\u0103 situa\u021biei a\u0219a cum este ea \u0219i s\u0103 continu\u0103m via\u021ba ca \u0219i p\u00e2n\u0103 acum, dar acest lucru este din ce \u00een ce mai greu, deoarece m\u0103 simt tot mai ne\u00eemplinit (p\u00e2n\u0103 acum a fost tot timpul speran\u021ba c\u0103 problemele se vor remedia \u00eentr-un fel sau altul, c\u00e2nd ne vom cunoa\u0219te bine unul pe altul, c\u00e2nd ne vom stabili la locul nostru, dac\u0103 voi avea destul\u0103 rabdare cu ea&#8230;)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>A\u0219 fi curios s\u0103 cunosc \u0219i punctul t\u0103u de vedere, dac\u0103 se poate.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Cu drag,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hai s\u0103-\u0163i spun un secret despre femei: toate suntem asexuale c\u00e2nd nu suntem atrase de b\u0103rbatul care vrea s\u0103 fac\u0103 trebu\u015foara cu pricina. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u015etiu c\u0103 e genul de veste cu care nu \u00ee\u0163i place s\u0103-\u0163i \u00eencepi diminea\u0163a, dar e posibil ca so\u0163ia ta s\u0103 nu te plac\u0103 foarte tare \u00een acel mod. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ea face parte dintr-o genera\u021bie de femei care nu \u0219i-au ales b\u0103rbatul ca arm\u0103sar n\u0103b\u0103d\u0103ios care s\u0103 le rup\u0103 \u00een orgasme. C\u00e2nd au ales un poten\u021bial so\u021b, l-au ales s\u0103 fie responsabil, serios, s\u0103 aib\u0103 o slujb\u0103 bun\u0103, s\u0103 fie tat\u0103 grijuliu pentru viitorii copii. Criterii din astea gospod\u0103re\u0219ti. Educa\u021bia aia de mod\u0103 veche te f\u0103cea perpetuu ru\u0219inat\u0103 de orice und\u0103 vag\u0103 de pl\u0103cere feminin\u0103, a\u0219a c\u0103 acesta e factorul pe care nu l-a luat deloc \u00een calcul. Nu \u0219i-a pus problema c\u0103, printre altele, c\u0103s\u0103toria presupune s\u0103 doarm\u0103 \u00een acela\u0219i pat cu tine \u00een tot restul vie\u021bii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 o femeie e fericit\u0103, sus\u021binut\u0103 \u0219i ajutat\u0103 \u00een rela\u021bie, de obicei, sexul se cam \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 de la sine, nu trebuie s\u0103 sim\u021bi c\u0103 sari ca acrobatul prin cercuri de foc doar pentru a vedea \u0219i tu ni\u0219te p\u0103s\u0103ric\u0103. Asta, dac\u0103 exist\u0103 \u0219i din partea ei atrac\u021bia sexual\u0103 de care am vorbit mai sus. Excep\u021bie f\u0103c\u00e2nd anii de dup\u0103 o na\u0219tere, dar dup\u0103 20 \u015fi ceva de ani de rela\u021bie, probabil c\u0103 nu e cazul vostru. Mi se pare dubios c\u0103, la at\u00e2\u021bia ani dup\u0103 c\u0103s\u0103torie, munce\u0219ti pentru a ajunge la sex de zici c\u0103 e\u0219ti un pu\u0219tan care o scoate la primul suc pe o duduie virgin\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Eu te pot sf\u0103tui doar din perspectiva mea, iar perspectiva mea e urm\u0103toarea. Tu spui c\u0103 \u00eei oferi acestei doamne tot ce poate oferi un so\u021b so\u021biei lui. Inclusiv \u00ee\u021bi sus\u021bii riguros partea ta de munc\u0103 domestic\u0103, sau pl\u0103te\u0219ti o tanti. Nu de alta, dar uite un mod \u00een care dispare sexul \u00een cuplu e a\u0219a: ea a f\u0103cut curat singur\u0103 \u00een toat\u0103 casa pentru c\u0103 el a fost la meci cu b\u0103ie\u021bii. Cine vine odihnit \u0219i cu ea erect\u0103 de la relaxare? El. Cine \u00eei \u0219uier\u0103 cu frustrare printre din\u021bi s\u0103 \u0219i-o taie \u0219i s\u0103 \u0219i-o bage \u00een c? Ea. Nu exist\u0103 nimic mai antisex dec\u00e2t un b\u0103rbat care las\u0103 femeia s\u0103 se chinuie singur\u0103 cu cur\u0103\u021benia, apoi mai \u0219i vrea p\u0103s\u0103ric\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Apoi, el e isteric c\u0103 n-a avut parte, ea e isteric\u0103 c\u0103 numai ea face treab\u0103 \u00een cas\u0103 \u0219i de aici, campionatul de certuri f\u0103r\u0103 finalitate sau finalizare se declar\u0103 deschis. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bun. S\u0103 zicem c\u0103 tu e\u0219ti un b\u0103rbat responsabil \u0219i con\u0219tiincios, care \u00een\u021belege c\u0103 are tovar\u0103\u0219\u0103 de via\u021b\u0103, nu slug\u0103 moca. Tu \u00ee\u021bi faci partea ta din tot ceea ce define\u0219te nevoile ei. Dar ea nu poate sau nu vrea s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 nevoia ta de sex. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Eu a\u0219 explica frumos \u0219i politicos c\u0103, \u00een aceste condi\u021bii, am nevoie de o rela\u021bie deschis\u0103. Pentru c\u0103 NU SUNT satisf\u0103cut\u0103 sexual, iar acest lucru m\u0103 frustreaz\u0103 foarte tare, at\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t consider c\u0103 fac tot ce \u021bine de un partener loial \u0219i devotat s\u0103-i ofer tot ce are ea nevoie, dar nevoile mele nu sunt \u00eendeplinite. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Obiectiv, nu po\u021bi lua o femeie cu japca. Nu o po\u021bi manipula \u0219i \u0219antaja, dac\u0103 e\u0219ti un om care se respect\u0103, pentru c\u0103 tu vrei dorin\u021b\u0103 autentic\u0103, nu sentimentul c\u0103 ai corupt o persoan\u0103 s\u0103 se culce cu tine, sau c\u0103 o face din obliga\u021bie. Nu cred c\u0103 exist\u0103 nimic mai \u00eenjositor pentru un om cu onoare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cum ne e clar \u0219i mie, \u0219i \u021bie, c\u0103 tu nu m\u0103 dore\u0219ti, c\u0103 nu am cum s\u0103 te fac s\u0103 m\u0103 dore\u0219ti \u0219i c\u0103 bat de dou\u0103zeci de ani la u\u0219i \u00eenchise, din acest moment suntem \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie deschis\u0103. Tu nu po\u021bi s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi c\u0103 sunt o fiin\u021b\u0103 sexual\u0103 \u0219i c\u0103 am nevoie s\u0103 simt c\u0103 sunt dorit, iar eu m\u0103 simt ca ultimul cer\u0219etor s\u0103 m\u0103 tot milogesc de tine s\u0103 m\u0103 f***. E\u0219ti liber\u0103 de orice a\u0219teptare pe acest plan, iar eu sunt liber s\u0103-mi g\u0103sesc pl\u0103cerea fizic\u0103 cu cineva care m\u0103 dore\u0219te. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A\u0219a a\u0219 pune eu problema. F\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 cer voie, pentru c\u0103, \u00een secunda \u00een care tu nu m\u0103 f**i, permisiunea ta pe acest plan devine irelevant\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dac\u0103 pui problema a\u0219a, nevast\u0103-ta va avea dou\u0103 mut\u0103ri de \u0219ah disponibile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">a) \u201eAoleeeu, nu pot s\u0103 cred!\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ce nu po\u021bi s\u0103 crezi? C\u0103 am \u0219i eu nevoie s\u0103 fiu f***t? Nu te pot constr\u00e2nge, m-am s\u0103turat s\u0103 m\u0103 milogesc pentru orice lab\u0103 semientuziast\u0103 ca \u0103la cu basca \u00een fa\u021b\u0103 de la gura de metrou \u0219i vreau \u0219i eu o interac\u021biune cu o femeie care se bucur\u0103 c\u0103 simte p*** \u00een ea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u0103s\u0103toria merge \u00eenainte ca \u0219i acum, singura diferen\u021b\u0103 e c\u0103 voi fi \u0219i eu un b\u0103rbat \u00eemplinit sexual. Momentan, sunt nef&#8230; din cretacicul t\u00e2rziu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Efectul secundar poate fi chiar faptul c\u0103, pus\u0103 fa\u021b\u0103 \u00een fa\u021b\u0103 cu nout\u0103\u021bile, va \u00eencerca s\u0103 se mobilizeze \u00een pat a\u0219a cum nu o face c\u00e2t timp e at\u00e2t de sigur\u0103 pe tine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">b) Dac\u0103 nu e atras\u0103 de tine, poate chiar o s\u0103 se bucure c\u0103 deschizi subiectul. Da, boss, g\u0103se\u0219te pe una care s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dea ce vrei \u0219i atunci sc\u0103p\u0103m de stres \u0219i tu, \u0219i eu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cred c\u0103 o astfel de discu\u021bie \u00ee\u021bi clarific\u0103 \u0219i \u021bie ni\u0219te direc\u021bii, \u0219i m\u0103car \u0219tii ce ai de f\u0103cut. Nu are sens s\u0103 tragi de oameni care nu te vor. Iar dac\u0103 tu \u0219i nevasta sunte\u021bi \u00een acest punct excelen\u021bi prieteni, pute\u021bi p\u0103stra asta pe mai departe, \u00een timp ce tu \u00ee\u021bi g\u0103se\u0219ti satisfac\u021bia sexual\u0103 cu o tip\u0103 dispus\u0103 s\u0103 accepte situa\u021bia. Poate fi \u0219i o escort\u0103 c\u0103reia \u00eei ceri girlfriend experience. S\u0103 nu ri\u0219ti dup\u0103 aia s\u0103 o sune bocind pe nevast\u0103-ta c\u0103 vaaai, ea s-a \u00eendr\u0103gostit de tine \u0219i c\u0103 vrea s\u0103 divor\u021ba\u021bi, \u0219i uite, mai e \u0219i gravid\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sper c\u0103 \u021bi-am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Lorena.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da like pe&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>, follow pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lorenalupu\">Twitter<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;\u015fi&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCCHBtHi6S2GlUFqETH70cjQ\">YouTube<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;\u015fi pe<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@lorena.lupu\">&nbsp;TikTok<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00ce\u021bi place contentul pe care \u00eel prime\u0219ti zilnic pe acest site? 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