{"id":27164,"date":"2024-11-10T13:14:52","date_gmt":"2024-11-10T10:14:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=27164"},"modified":"2024-11-10T22:08:10","modified_gmt":"2024-11-10T19:08:10","slug":"e-ok-sa-nu-te-mariti-foarte-tanara","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/e-ok-sa-nu-te-mariti-foarte-tanara\/","title":{"rendered":"E ok s\u0103 nu te m\u0103ri\u021bi foarte t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u00cen ultima vreme, au explodat incelii \u0219i \u201ealfamasculii\u201d pe net, iar t\u00e2mpeniile pe care le debiteaz\u0103 ei sunt regurgit\u0103ri ale acestei scheme: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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E complet implauzibil c\u0103 vei v\u00e2na la 30 de ani tipul pe care l-ai refuzat la 20. Probabil c\u0103 e filmul pe care \u0219i-l proiecteaz\u0103 \u00een cap Cezar Iona\u0219cu, c\u0103 la un moment dat o s\u0103 se \u00eentoarc\u0103 Ozana Barabancea la el \u00een genunchi, s\u0103-i cear\u0103 scuze pentru modul \u00een care i-a dat flit, iar el o s\u0103 o refuze ca un campion. De\u0219i \u00een lumea real\u0103, \u0219tim c\u0103 Ozana are un milion de alte priorit\u0103\u021bi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar dincolo de improbabil \u0219i imposibil, obiectiv nu e cazul s\u0103 te arunci \u00eentr-o c\u0103s\u0103torie de cum ai str\u00e2ns decorul petrecerii de majorat. \u0218i asta pentru c\u0103:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. O s\u0103 fii un adult frustrat, care nu a tr\u0103it \u0219i nu vrea s\u0103-i lase nici pe al\u021bii s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen fiecare club, exist\u0103 c\u00e2teva figuri deprimante: b\u0103tr\u00e2nul sau b\u0103tr\u00e2na care face pe pu\u0219tiul \/ pu\u0219toaica. \u0218i nu spun cu asta c\u0103 nu te po\u021bi distra de la o v\u00e2rst\u0103 \u00een sus. Spun doar c\u0103, de la o v\u00e2rst\u0103 \u00een sus, dac\u0103 e\u0219ti un om umblat prin via\u021b\u0103, \u0219tii c\u00e2t s\u0103 bei, s\u0103 nu devii penibil, \u0219tii ce glume s\u0103 faci, s\u0103 nu devii deplasat \u0219i \u0219tii s\u0103 dansezi, nu s\u0103 te sc\u0103l\u00e2mb\u0103i. B\u0103tr\u00e2nul netr\u0103it, care are sentimentul c\u0103 a trecut via\u021ba pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 el, se \u00eembat\u0103 rang\u0103, sparge bani de parc\u0103 \u0219i-ar putea cump\u0103ra tinere\u021bea \u00eenapoi \u0219i simte musai nevoia s\u0103 apuce gagicile de s\u00e2ni, ceea ce e cu at\u00e2t mai dizgra\u021bios la v\u00e2rsta lui. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De aceea, fiin\u021ba uman\u0103, b\u0103rbat sau femeie, are nevoie de c\u00e2\u021biva ani de petrecere f\u0103r\u0103 responsabilit\u0103\u021bi. S\u0103 apuce s\u0103 se plictiseasc\u0103 de cluburi, baruri \u0219i dans pe mese. Mai bine faci asta la 20 de ani, c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u021bi st\u0103 bine, dec\u00e2t s\u0103 dormi la cr\u00e2\u0219m\u0103 c\u0103 nu \u021bii pasul cu tineretul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. La 20, rar \u0219tii ce vrei cu adev\u0103rat. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd e\u0219ti nou ie\u0219it de sub papucul p\u0103rintesc, e\u0219ti \u00eenc\u0103 incomplet format ca individualitate cu nevoi proprii \u0219i mai mult un mic papagal ce repet\u0103 mecanic ideile m\u0103micii sau prietenilor (depinde de cine te-ai ata\u0219at mai mult \u0219i nu, nu e obligatoriu s\u0103 fie p\u0103rin\u021bii). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cel mai bun mod de a descoperi cine e\u0219ti de fapt \u0219i ce \u00ee\u021bi dore\u0219ti TU PERSONAL, nu ce \u021bi se dicteaz\u0103 s\u0103 dore\u0219ti, e locuitul de unul singur, pe cont propriu. Nu prea ai cum s\u0103 te oferi \u00een totalitate unei pove\u0219ti de iubire, c\u00e2nd nici tu nu \u0219tii ce e cu tine? Discerni greu esen\u021bialul de neesen\u021bial, te nemul\u021bumesc lucruri \u0219i nu po\u021bi explica, pentru c\u0103 nici tu nu \u0219tii ce e cu tine, te enervezi pe fleacuri \u0219i ignori fapte importante, \u0219i nici nu are rost s\u0103 vorbesc despre nivelul de a\u0219tept\u0103ri nerealiste pe care \u021bi le transmit comediile romantice \u0219i telenovelele de tip \u201e\u00cen mrejele iubirii\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Maturiz\u00e2ndu-te, descoperi c\u0103 ai cu totul alte nevoi. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cum s\u0103 fie, c\u00e2nd ai 20 de ani? Frumos, hazliu \u0219i solist de trup\u0103 rock. Cum s\u0103 fie, c\u00e2nd ai 35 de ani? Echilibrat, r\u0103bd\u0103tor \u0219i stabil din toate punctele de vedere. Portrete total diferite, nu-i a\u0219a? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nevoia de aventur\u0103 \u0219i de experiment de la 20 de ani e real\u0103. Dac\u0103 o strive\u0219ti pentru a asuma nevoi care s-ar potrivi unei persoane de 35 de ani, ajungi \u00een scurt timp s\u0103-\u021bi dete\u0219ti via\u021ba. Nevoia de a construi stabilitate \u0219i lini\u0219te de la 35 de ani e \u0219i ea real\u0103. Atunci e\u0219ti preg\u0103tit\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat s\u0103-\u021bi asumi o rela\u021bie cu tot efortul, sui\u0219urile \u0219i cobor\u00e2\u0219urile ei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i presupun\u00e2nd c\u0103 \u0103la de la 20 de ani insista agresiv \u0219i te convingea s\u0103 te m\u0103ri\u021bi: nu ar fi ob\u021binut versiunea ta de acum. Ci una imatur\u0103 \u0219i mereu pus\u0103 pe cheltuieli excesive \u0219i decizii neprev\u0103zute. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Apari\u021bia copiilor echivaleaz\u0103 cu finalul libert\u0103\u021bii personale, m\u0103car pentru primii 14 ani. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cine \u00eemi spune c\u0103 are copii mici, dar face tot ce vrea c\u00e2nd vrea, sau are o mam\u0103 foarte iubitoare care preia \u00eengrijirea copiilor, sau are milioane de lei de investit \u00een menajere \u0219i bone, sau minte. Noi, oamenii simpli, \u0219i mai ales femeile, devenim brusc assistant manager full time, \u0219i prin full time vreau s\u0103 spun 24 de ore pe zi, la dispozi\u021bia copiilor no\u0219tri. Mereu le trebuie c\u00e2te ceva, mereu le e foame, sau sete, sau dor de codru verde, sau se pi\u0219\u0103, sau se cac\u0103, sau au de \u00eentrebat 5679 de \u00eentreb\u0103ri, sau de pl\u00e2ns zgomotos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E perfect \u00een regul\u0103 s\u0103 nu te \u00eenhami la asta p\u00e2n\u0103 nu \u00een\u021belegi complexitatea responsabilit\u0103\u021bii \u0219i nu \u0219tii ce te a\u0219teapt\u0103. C\u0103 dac\u0103 vrei s\u0103 afli cum e cu adev\u0103rat miracolul maternit\u0103\u021bii, nu trebuie s\u0103 te ui\u021bi la un recital de 8 martie, ci la o ga\u0219c\u0103 de mame u\u0219or pilite. C\u00e2nd se apuc\u0103 s\u0103 suduie tot ce au de f\u0103cut \u0219i m\u00e2ine, \u0219i poim\u00e2ine, \u0219i r\u0103spoim\u00e2ine. Atunci auzi cu adev\u0103rat ce te a\u0219teapt\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. E ok s\u0103 te asiguri c\u0103 e\u0219ti stabil\u0103 material <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 ai banii t\u0103i e cel mai important lucru \u00een zilele noastre. Omul care are banii lui poate p\u0103r\u0103si joburi abuzive, c\u0103s\u0103torii abuzive, chiar \u0219i ora\u0219e \u00een care nu se simte bine. Omul care intr\u0103 \u00eentr-o c\u0103s\u0103torie de la 20 de ani \u0219i \u00ee\u0219i investe\u0219te toate veniturile numai \u00een bunuri comune nu are un plan B, dac\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi alesul se treze\u0219te \u0219i-\u021bi spune c\u0103 te p\u0103r\u0103se\u0219te pentru una mai t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd e\u0219ti pe picioarele tale, z\u00e2mbe\u0219ti \u0219i-i urezi drum bun \u0219i mult\u0103 Viagra. C\u00e2nd depinzi financiar, e semnul oficial c\u0103 \u00eencep vremuri grele. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Indiferent ce abereaz\u0103 incelii, nu v\u0103 pripi\u021bi s\u0103 v\u0103 arunca\u021bi \u00een c\u0103s\u0103torii de care nu sunte\u021bi preg\u0103tite. Lor le e u\u0219or s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103. Unui b\u0103rbat s\u0103tul de obliga\u021bii p\u0103rinte\u0219ti \u00eei e simplu s\u0103 plece dup\u0103 \u021big\u0103ri \u0219i s\u0103 dispar\u0103 20 de ani. De aceea suntem to\u021bi crescu\u021bi de mame singure. Dar ca femeie, odat\u0103 ce ai dulcele prunc \u00een bra\u021be, va at\u00e2rna de fusta ta m\u0103car 18 ani. Decide informat dac\u0103 vrei sau nu, dac\u0103 po\u021bi sau nu, dac\u0103 acum sau mai t\u00e2rziu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Iar prostul care are o obiec\u021bie c\u0103 \u201ete-au folosit al\u021bii\u201d spune doar c\u0103 inten\u021bia lui personal\u0103 era \u00een primul r\u00e2nd s\u0103 te foloseasc\u0103. Unul care se bucur\u0103 de prezen\u021ba ta are o singur\u0103 \u00eentrebare legat\u0103 de al\u021bii: Sigur au disp\u0103rut din peisaj? OK. S\u0103 bem pentru asta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi plac aceste articole, po\u021bi alege s\u0103-mi oferi sus\u021binerea de care am nevoie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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