\u0218i nu e singura. Statisticile referitoare la mame minore sunt la fel de \u00eengrijor\u0103toare ca \u00een anii 90. \u00cen anii 80, era comunism \u0219i acest tip de informa\u021bii nu erau f\u0103cute publice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Cum ajunge o feti\u021b\u0103 de 15 ani la o sarcin\u0103 \u00een luna a patra, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u0219tie? Sub 16 ani, un minor nu are v\u00e2rsta legal\u0103 pentru a consim\u021bi la un act s*xual. De ce nu a \u0219tiut s\u0103 evite o situa\u021bie de aceast\u0103 natur\u0103? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pentru c\u0103 to\u021bi sp\u0103la\u021bii pe creier se opun educa\u021biei s*xuale, iar p\u0103rin\u021bii, mai ales \u00een ora\u0219e mici, neglijeaz\u0103 s\u0103-\u0219i educe fiicele. \u00cen ideea c\u0103, dac\u0103 urli la ele, vor \u00een\u021belege s\u0103 fie cumin\u021bi p\u00e2n\u0103 la majorat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Spre ghinionul general, adolescen\u021ba e exact v\u00e2rsta c\u00e2nd urlatul devine nu doar 100% ineficient, ci, mai mult dec\u00e2t at\u00e2t, o provocare \u00een direc\u021bia opus\u0103. \u201eNu face asta!!!\u201d e perceput de minor ca \u201dBa da, numai de-al naibii.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dac\u0103 minorul nu \u00een\u021belege logica din spatele \u201ecumin\u021beniei\u201d (aka abstinen\u021bei s*xuale), va vedea asta drept fructul interzis de care adul\u021bii nu-\u021bi permit s\u0103 te bucuri, pentru c\u0103 sunt rigizi \u0219i \u00eencuia\u021bi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cen plus, \u00eentr-o cu p\u0103rin\u021bi ocupa\u021bi, neglijen\u021bi \u0219i dezinteresa\u021bi, care au sentimentul c\u0103 o rund\u0103 de urlat \u0219i eventual o b\u0103taie cu cureaua au rezolvat orice nevoie a copilului, feti\u021bele sunt vulnerabilizate spre exploatare \u00een primul r\u00e2nd de comportamentul p\u0103rintesc. Familia \u00ee\u021bi sugereaz\u0103 c\u0103 nu d\u0103 doi bani pe tine, dar str\u0103inul prietenos de pe net te ascult\u0103 \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi arat\u0103 c\u0103 e\u0219ti special\u0103. Familia nu \u00ee\u021bi d\u0103 bani pentru nevoile tale de t\u00e2n\u0103r care descoper\u0103 cochet\u0103ria, dar str\u0103inul prietenos de pe net se ofer\u0103 s\u0103-\u021bi vireze o sum\u0103 oarecare prin Revolut. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Coruperea minorelor \u00eencepe, \u00een majoritatea cazurilor, din nep\u0103sarea \/ brutalitatea propriei familii \u0219i prin ignoran\u021b\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mi-aduc aminte, c\u00e2nd eram eu adolescent\u0103, c\u0103 aveam o bun\u0103 prieten\u0103 care-mi povestea \u00eenc\u00e2ntat\u0103 c\u00e2t de frumos se poart\u0103 cu ea patronul barului de rockeri, \u0219i cum o invit\u0103 pe la el pe acas\u0103. Ca idee, printre rockeri, patronul barului de rockeri era versiunea local\u0103 de Dumnezeu. El f\u0103cea petrecerille, el punea muzica, to\u021bi \u00eel adorau. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Apoi, \u00een c\u00e2teva s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni, a venit s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 c\u0103 s-a dus la om acas\u0103, iar acesta a dezbr\u0103cat-o \u0219i s-a culcat cu ea. \u201e\u0218i tu?\u201d \u201eP\u0103i eu nu puteam s\u0103-l refuz. Cum s\u0103-l refuzi pe Cut\u0103ric\u0103?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Autoritatea asupra g\u0103\u0219tii \u00eel f\u0103cea pe individ s\u0103 aib\u0103 putere asupra fiec\u0103rei persoane \u00een parte, \u0219i minorele nu aveau curajul s\u0103 i se opun\u0103, dac\u0103 le chema la el acas\u0103 \u0219i le lua pe sus, ca \u0219i cum \u021bi-ai desface o bere dup\u0103 munc\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Evident c\u0103 nu a spus nimic p\u0103rin\u021bilor, pentru c\u0103 se temea c\u0103 ar fi urlat la ea. \u0218i evident c\u0103, din acel punct, individul o chema la el acas\u0103 de c\u00e2te ori voia s\u0103 fff ceva. Mie mi se p\u0103rea \u00eenc\u0103 de atunci \u00eengrozitor cum un b\u0103rbat de 30 \u0219i ceva de ani profit\u0103 \u00een acest mod de o copil\u0103 de 16, dar tot ce a avut ea de comentat e c\u0103 sigur sunt invidioas\u0103 c\u0103 nu m\u0103 num\u0103r printre fetele pe care le cheam\u0103 la el acas\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Chiar nu eram. Nici eu nu primisem prea mult\u0103 educa\u021bie s*xual\u0103, dar din instinct recuno\u0219team situa\u021bia abuziv\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
E cutremur\u0103tor faptul c\u0103, 20 de ani mai t\u00e2rziu, nu s-a schimbat nimic. OK, m\u0103car \u0103la n-a l\u0103sat-o gravid\u0103 pe prietena mea, deci era doar abuzator de minore, nu \u0219i idiot. Dar c\u00e2t timp nici familia, nici \u0219coala nu \u00ee\u0219i asum\u0103 un mod de a educa \u0219i preveni minorii legat de toate riscurile pe care le presupune s\u0103 devii activ s*xual la o v\u00e2rst\u0103 la care nu e\u0219ti preg\u0103tit \u00een niciun mod s\u0103 gestionezi consecin\u021bele, fie c\u0103 vorbim de o blenoragie, pe care o rezolvi din trei vizite la medic, fie c\u0103 vorbim de o sarcin\u0103, care \u00ee\u021bi va r\u0103sturna toat\u0103 via\u021ba, pentru c\u0103 nu \u0219tii s\u0103 ai grij\u0103 nici de tine, d-apoi de un copil – astfel de situa\u021bii se vor repeta iar \u0219i iar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Cum de nu au remarcat p\u0103rin\u021bii schimb\u0103rile aferente sarcinii la fata lor? Faptul c\u0103 nu-i venea ciclul? Faptul c\u0103 pachetul de tampoane r\u0103m\u00e2ne neatins? Faptul c\u0103 are st\u0103ri de grea\u021b\u0103? Cum de nu au deschis o discu\u021bie cu ea, s-o \u00eentrebe ce e \u00een neregul\u0103? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pentru c\u0103, mai ales \u00een micile ora\u0219e, a fi p\u0103rinte \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 urli la copil tot ce are de f\u0103cut, \u0219i s\u0103 nu-\u021bi pese nici c\u00e2t negru sub unghie cum se simte sau ce probleme are. S\u0103-i spunem parenting tradi\u021bionalist. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u021aip\u0103 to\u021bi cegeii c\u0103 vor s\u0103 apere copiii de curcubeu. Dar nu \u00ee\u0219i pune niciunul problema cine \u00eei ap\u0103r\u0103 de abuz \u0219i neglijen\u021b\u0103 parental\u0103. De h\u0103ndr\u0103l\u0103ul din vecini care se uit\u0103 pofticios la fata lor de 14 ani \u0219i urze\u0219te un plan s-o aib\u0103 la a\u0219ternut. Ca, dup\u0103 ce r\u0103m\u00e2ne cu burta la gur\u0103, s\u0103 se dea disp\u0103rut, c\u0103 el nu are nicio leg\u0103tur\u0103 \u0219i c\u0103 sarcina e treaba ei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bine c\u0103 avem olimpiade de religie. Chiar dac\u0103 premiul aferent primului loc va fi folosit pentru a cump\u0103ra scutece copilului f\u0103r\u0103 tat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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