{"id":28176,"date":"2025-06-30T11:32:12","date_gmt":"2025-06-30T08:32:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=28176"},"modified":"2025-06-30T11:32:15","modified_gmt":"2025-06-30T08:32:15","slug":"multumim-draga-oana","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/multumim-draga-oana\/","title":{"rendered":"Mul\u0163umim, drag\u0103 Oana"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Azi diminea\u0163\u0103, un share al unei cuno\u015ftin\u0163e m-a dus la articolul devenit viral al Oanei Vasiliu. O doamn\u0103 psiholog din Ia\u015fi, mam\u0103 a trei copii, supus\u0103 constant h\u0103r\u0163uirii \u015fi presiunii unui fost iubit violent, care o caut\u0103 cu regularitate, o bate, o abuzeaz\u0103, o amenin\u0163\u0103, pentru a o constr\u00e2nge s\u0103 se \u00eentoarc\u0103 la el. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-embed-handler wp-block-embed-embed-handler\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<div class=\"fb-post\" data-href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/oanavasiliu13\/posts\/pfbid02qx4rhxYMvadvSwDftXwbr8Vi7BUbgB46r4Kanc36isCsXpu5EQgqp6gPZBgMqK7Ml\" data-width=\"552\" style=\"background-color: #fff; display: inline-block;\"><\/div>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">B\u0103rba\u0163i care \u00eenjur\u0103, atac\u0103, amenin\u0163\u0103 femei sunt marele flagel al societ\u0103\u0163ii rom\u00e2ne\u015fti. Cred c\u0103 nu exist\u0103 femeie care s\u0103 nu fi avut parte de ei. Eu, spre norocul meu, nu am avut nicio rela\u0163ie cu un astfel de individ, c\u0103 am un instinct aparte care \u00eemi dezv\u0103luie din cinci minute de conversa\u0163ie caracterul interlocutorului. Dar am avut interac\u0163iuni cu tot soiul de dobitoci care au \u00eencercat s\u0103 m\u0103 \u015fantajeze \u00een fel \u015fi chip, \u015fi c\u00e2nd au v\u0103zut c\u0103 nu func\u0163ioneaz\u0103, au \u00eenceput s\u0103 \u00eempr\u0103\u015ftie minciuni despre mine. Multe probleme profesionale pe care le-am avut se trag din astfel de situa\u0163ii, \u015fi din faptul c\u0103 versiunea femeii e mereu cea pus\u0103 sub semnul \u00eentreb\u0103rii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dar tu tr\u0103ie\u015fti o tragedie \u00een plin\u0103 desf\u0103\u015furare, jegul \u00eenc\u0103 te caut\u0103 \u015fi \u00eenc\u0103 \u00ee\u015fi desf\u0103\u015foar\u0103 arsenalul de tic\u0103lo\u015fii, \u015fi faptul c\u0103 descrii cu at\u00e2ta sinceritate toate astea ne ajut\u0103 pe noi, restul, care am \u00eenfruntat \u00een mai mic\u0103 m\u0103sur\u0103 h\u0103r\u0163uiri \u015fi \u015fantaj, s\u0103 nu ne sim\u0163im singure. Nu, nu sunt un caz izolat, e un flagel social. Un flagel social care, iat\u0103, afecteaz\u0103 alte persoane mult mai mult dec\u00e2t pe mine. Flagel social care ne cost\u0103 nervi, energie, efort, drumuri, \u015fanse, oportunit\u0103\u0163i, bani \u015fi timp. Flagel social care nu poate fi comb\u0103tut dec\u00e2t atunci c\u00e2nd absolut toate femeile vorbesc despre asta. \u015ei atunci c\u00e2nd se sus\u0163in. Atunci c\u00e2nd societatea \u00ee\u015fi va schimba mentalitatea. C\u00e2nd nu \u00eel vom crede pe gher\u0163oiul care afirm\u0103 despre femeia X c\u0103 e o c**v\u0103 nenorocit\u0103 \u015fi c\u0103 el nu gre\u015fea cu nimic, ci pe femeia X c\u00e2nd spune c\u0103 nu are nicio treab\u0103 cu gher\u0163oiul, iar acesta nu de\u0163ine date reale despre ea, ci d\u0103 glas doar propriului venin. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u00e2nd nu \u00eel vom crede pe gher\u0163oiul care afirm\u0103 c\u0103 e t\u0103tic grijuliu \u015fi c\u0103 te-a \u00eempins pu\u0163intel a\u015fa, ci pe femeia plin\u0103 de v\u00e2n\u0103t\u0103i, folosit\u0103 pe post de sac de box, pentru c\u0103 tentativa aia jalnic\u0103 de b\u0103rbat nu e \u00een stare s\u0103 se ia de cineva cu for\u0163\u0103 egal\u0103, ci doar de persoane mai slabe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00cemi dau seama c\u0103 a descrie ce \u0163i se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 te cost\u0103 enorm, pentru c\u0103 amintirea umilin\u0163elor \u015fi a abuzurilor redeschide r\u0103nile. Dar curajul de a vorbi salveaz\u0103 alte vie\u0163i pe viitor. Vie\u0163ile femeilor care sunt ajutate s\u0103 con\u015ftientizeze ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103, s\u0103 plece dup\u0103 prima palm\u0103, s\u0103 nu cread\u0103 c\u0103 a doua nu se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla. S\u0103 con\u015ftientizeze c\u0103 agresorul poate min\u0163i lumea despre tine doar dac\u0103 tu taci. S\u0103 con\u015ftientizeze c\u0103 e bine s\u0103 p\u0103r\u0103se\u015fti astfel de rela\u0163ii \u00eenainte de primul copil, pentru c\u0103 nimic nu te leag\u0103 de altcineva a\u015fa cum te leag\u0103 copiii comuni. C\u0103 e mai u\u015for s-o iei de la zero c\u00e2nd nu ai \u015fi alte guri de hr\u0103nit. S\u0103 con\u015ftientizeze c\u0103 nu putem presa institu\u0163iile statului s\u0103-\u015fi fac\u0103 datoria dac\u0103 nu le solicit\u0103m ferm cooperarea \u015fi nu scriem mult despre asta. S\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi cel mai misogin poli\u0163ist c\u0103 e pl\u0103tit din impozitele tale, iar tu c\u00e2nd mergi s\u0103 faci o pl\u00e2ngere, e\u015fti un cet\u0103\u0163ean cu drepturi, care trebuie tratat ca atare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Faptul c\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i retr\u0103ie\u015fti trauma personal\u0103 pentru a ne ajuta pe noi, toate, s\u0103 lupt\u0103m mai eficient, e un act de eroism \u015fi de curaj. \u015ei sper \u00eentr-un final fericit \u00een care gunoiul care nu \u00een\u0163elege nicicum c\u0103 e cazul s\u0103-\u0163i respecte dorin\u0163a de a nu avea nimic de a face cu el ajunge dup\u0103 gratii, acolo unde \u00eei este locul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mul\u0163umesc din suflet pentru ceea ce scrii \u015fi \u00ee\u0163i doresc toat\u0103 puterea de pe p\u0103m\u00e2nt. Mai ales c\u0103 trei copila\u015fi au nevoie de o mam\u0103 lupt\u0103toare \u015fi curajoas\u0103, iar tu e\u015fti singurul lor sprijin responsabil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Izbe\u015fte autorul cu o cafea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.paypal.com\/paypalme\/Trollywood\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"250\" height=\"82\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/paypal-.jpg?w=700&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-25884\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/paypal-.jpg?w=250&amp;ssl=1 250w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/paypal-.jpg?resize=150%2C49&amp;ssl=1 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 250px) 100vw, 250px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">***<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da follow pe&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lorenaalmighty\/\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>&nbsp;\u015fi&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lorena.lup\/\">Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe&nbsp;<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCCHBtHi6S2GlUFqETH70cjQ\">YouTube<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;\u015fi pe<strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@lorena.lupu\">&nbsp;TikTok<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Azi diminea\u0163\u0103, un share al unei cuno\u015ftin\u0163e m-a dus la articolul devenit viral al Oanei Vasiliu. O doamn\u0103 psiholog din Ia\u015fi, mam\u0103 a trei&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":28209,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-28176","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/oana.jpg?fit=435%2C435&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28176","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=28176"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28176\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":28210,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28176\/revisions\/28210"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/28209"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28176"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28176"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=28176"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}