{"id":28485,"date":"2025-09-01T12:38:55","date_gmt":"2025-09-01T09:38:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=28485"},"modified":"2025-09-01T12:38:58","modified_gmt":"2025-09-01T09:38:58","slug":"tzanca-uraganul-si-instigarea-la-violenta-domestica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/tzanca-uraganul-si-instigarea-la-violenta-domestica\/","title":{"rendered":"Tzanca Uraganul \u015fi instigarea la violen\u0163\u0103 domestic\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Fie c\u0103 ne place sau nu mie \u015fi celor c\u00e2teva mii de oameni cu gusturi delicate care m\u0103 urm\u0103resc, Tzanca Uraganul e un superstar. Anul trecut, f\u0103ceam de c\u00e2teva ori pe s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 un mic show live cu dedica\u0163ii muzicale pe TikTok \u015fi, spre masiva mea surprindere, fiecare a treia melodie solicitat\u0103 de ascult\u0103tori era un hit al lui Tzanca. Dac\u0103 intrai pe Spotify, unde popularitatea unui hit se reflect\u0103 \u00een cifre, nu \u00een baliverne, Tzanca era perpetuu \u00een top 10 cu una sau mai multe melodii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd Tzanca afirm\u0103 public \u00eentr-un podcast c\u0103 e ok s\u0103-\u0163i altoie\u015fti femeia, milioane de b\u0103ie\u0163i \u00een\u0163eleg c\u0103 violen\u0163a e o solu\u0163ie \u015fi milioane de fete \u00een\u0163eleg c\u0103 nu e nimic \u00een neregul\u0103 ca partenerul, \u0103la care pretinde c\u0103 te iube\u015fte \u015fi c\u0103 e sufletul t\u0103u pereche, s\u0103 te abuzeze fizic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

O dinamic\u0103 care ne-a dus \u00een punctul \u00een care suntem acum: \u0163ara cu c\u00e2te o femeie ucis\u0103 pe s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Problema cu violen\u0163a e a\u015fa: o dat\u0103 ce ea devine permis\u0103, respectul dispare. Odat\u0103 ce aceast\u0103 limit\u0103, a respectului integrit\u0103\u0163ii corporale a celuilalt, se desfiin\u0163eaz\u0103, \u00eencepe un cerc vicios al agresiunii care se termin\u0103 la urgen\u0163e sau la morg\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Niciodat\u0103 nu exist\u0103 \u201edoar o palm\u0103\u201d. Dac\u0103 palma devine acceptabil\u0103, po\u021bi miza c\u0103 va deveni practic\u0103 curent\u0103, \u0219i vor urma pumni, picioare, obiecte dure, obiecte contondente \u0219i a\u0219a mai departe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sigur, nu exist\u0103 cuplu care s\u0103 nu aib\u0103 ne\u00een\u021belegeri. Doi oameni, oric\u00e2t de apropia\u021bi ar fi ca viziune de via\u021b\u0103 – \u0219i e recomandat ca oamenii s\u0103 fac\u0103 abstrac\u021bie de magnetismul sexual \u0219i s\u0103 se apuce de o rela\u021bie serioas\u0103 doar dac\u0103 trag c\u0103ru\u021ba \u00een aceea\u0219i direc\u021bie, altfel rela\u021bia va deveni un continuu r\u0103zboi pentru suprema\u021bie care \u00eei va l\u0103sa pe am\u00e2ndoi \u00een ruine – vor avea momente \u00een care vor vedea lucrurile diferit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Diferen\u021ba \u00eentre o rela\u021bie disfunc\u021bional\u0103 \u0219i una armonioas\u0103 e modul \u00een care sunt gestionate aceste diferen\u021be. Exist\u0103 posibilitatea unui dialog deschis \u0219i onest? Exist\u0103 disponibilitatea ambelor p\u0103r\u021bi s\u0103 discute problema \u0219i s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 punctul de vedere al celuilalt? Exist\u0103 disponibilitatea pentru o cale de mijloc, care s\u0103 ofere ambelor p\u0103r\u021bi ceva mul\u021bumitor? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 nu, solu\u021bia nu e abuzul, fizic sau verbal, ci desp\u0103r\u021birea. Pentru c\u0103 via\u021ba e prea scurt\u0103 s\u0103 tr\u0103ie\u0219ti \u00een toxicitate \u0219i frustr\u0103ri. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un b\u0103rbat normal \u0219i s\u0103n\u0103tos mintal nu simte nevoia s\u0103 loveasc\u0103 femei. Un b\u0103rbat care iube\u0219te o femeie simte nevoia s\u0103 o protejeze \u0219i s\u0103 o apere, nu s\u0103 o distrug\u0103 fizic. Un b\u0103rbat normal \u0219i s\u0103n\u0103tos mintal simte nevoia s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 o solu\u021bie, nu s\u0103 caute scandalul sau, dac\u0103 apare independent de voin\u021ba lui, s\u0103 \u00eel escaladeze. Un b\u0103rbat normal \u0219i s\u0103n\u0103tos mintal nu \u00ee\u0219i folose\u0219te partenera pe post de sac de box pentru rahaturile \u00eent\u00e2mplate la munc\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Taman de aceea, ar trebui s\u0103 existe o lege \u00een Rom\u00e2nia care s\u0103 condamne specific instigarea la violen\u021b\u0103 domestic\u0103. Speechurile ca acela al lui Tzanca Uraganul. O amend\u0103 ustur\u0103toare \u0219i to\u021bi vede\u021bii \u0103\u0219tia care influen\u021beaz\u0103 milioane de oameni vor \u00eenceta s\u0103 instige la abuz. Oricum avem deficit bugetar, iat\u0103 o solu\u021bie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oricum avem nevoie de fonduri pentru ad\u0103posturi care s\u0103 protejeze victimele violen\u021bei domestice, iat\u0103 o solu\u021bie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u0219 scrie proiectul de lege cu m\u00e2na mea. Am prietene avocate \u0219i juriste care \u0219tiu sigur c\u0103 m-ar ajuta s\u0103 formulez \u00een legalez\u0103. Discursul care trebuie s\u0103 existe public \u00eentr-o \u021bar\u0103 cu at\u00e2tea crime, b\u0103t\u0103i \u0219i violuri ar trebui s\u0103 fie promovarea respectului reciproc \u00een rela\u021bii. \u0218i subliniez ideea de reciprocitate, pentru c\u0103 \u00eei dau dreptate lui Tzanca \u00eentr-un punct: chiar exist\u0103 femei care \u00ee\u021bi identific\u0103 punctul slab \u0219i te freac\u0103 la icre cu pl\u0103cere sadic\u0103, p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi vine s\u0103 le calci \u00een picioare cu bocanci cu cuie \u00een talp\u0103. Been there, felt that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar solu\u021bia nu e s\u0103 le calci \u00een picioare, pentru c\u0103, \u00een fond, sunt \u0219i ele oameni. Solu\u021bia e s\u0103 te extragi din situa\u021bie \u0219i s\u0103 cau\u021bi companie pl\u0103cut\u0103 \u0219i pozitiv\u0103. S\u0103n\u0103tos \u0219i pentru tine, \u0219i pentru ele. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Orice demers care promoveaz\u0103 violen\u021ba domestic\u0103 trebuie sanc\u021bionat instant. Abia a\u0219a vom avea o \u021bar\u0103 \u00een care femeile se vor sim\u021bi \u00een siguran\u021b\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00e2n\u0103 nu ne sim\u021bim \u00een siguran\u021b\u0103, nu ne po\u021bi repro\u0219a sc\u0103derea drastic\u0103 a natalit\u0103\u021bii. At\u00e2tea femei ucise au copii mici, care r\u0103m\u00e2n orfani, iar jegurile care le ucid nu \u00ee\u0219i pun problema ce va fi cu respectivii copii. De ce am face copii dac\u0103 nu \u0219tim sigur c\u0103 le putem fi al\u0103turi? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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