Bun\u0103, Lorena,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Subiectul emailului este o trimitere la\u00a0aceast\u0103 melodie<\/a>, care explic\u0103 o bun\u0103 parte din problema cu care vin c\u0103tre tine. Nu o s-o lungesc: sunt evitant\u0103, \u00een special \u00een rela\u021biile amoroase. Lucru rar \u00een r\u00e2ndul femeilor heterosexuale, se poate spune c\u0103 sunt a woman in a male-dominated field. Dar e groaznic. M\u0103 simt ca un om foarte r\u0103u pentru c\u0103 nu am \u00eencredere p\u00e2n\u0103 la cap\u0103t \u00een nimeni: nici \u00een familie, nici \u00een prieteni, cu at\u00e2t mai pu\u021bin \u00een b\u0103rba\u021bi. Indiferent dac\u0103 am fost \u00eendr\u0103gostit\u0103 bocn\u0103 sau dornic\u0103 doar de o distrac\u021bie, am \u021binut partenerul la distan\u021ba\u00a0respectuoas\u0103 de un\u00a0bra\u021b.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Am \u00een sf\u00e2r\u0219it o rela\u021bie stabil\u0103 \u0219i chiar \u0219i \u00een aceast\u0103 rela\u021bie am f\u0103cut cu maxim\u0103 team\u0103 \u0219i am\u00e2nare mi\u0219c\u0103ri importante, precum a-i face cuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 cu ai mei sau cu cercul meu de prieteni. Am \u0219i sentimentul c\u0103 nimeni nu m\u0103 poate iubi cu adev\u0103rat, a\u0219a c\u0103 \u00eencerc mereu s\u0103 fiu amuzant\u0103 \u0219i fermec\u0103toare, chiar \u0219i c\u00e2nd mi-e lehamite de orice. \u0218i dup\u0103 tot eu m\u0103 sup\u0103r, absolut proste\u0219te, c\u0103 nu m\u0103 vede nimeni a\u0219a cum sunt, de\u0219i a fi v\u0103zut\u0103 a\u0219a cum sunt e cel mai terifiant lucru pe care \u00eel pot tr\u0103i. Tu cum ai gestiona problemele de ata\u0219ament \u00een locul meu?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Mul\u021bumesc, \u00ee\u021bi sunt recunosc\u0103toare!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n ******<\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n Preferam s-o lunge\u015fti cu detalii specifice, pentru c\u0103 acestea \u00eemi ofer\u0103 o imagine mai clar\u0103 a situa\u0163iei \u015fi nu oblig\u0103 s\u0103 bat c\u00e2mpii cu generalit\u0103\u0163i, ceea ce ur\u0103sc s\u0103 fac. Dar asta e, \u00een cazul de fa\u0163\u0103 juc\u0103m cu c\u0103r\u0163ile care ni s-au distribuit \u015fi pot spune doar at\u00e2t: <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00cen contextul \u00een care tr\u0103im, ata\u015famentul evitant \u00een cazul femeilor mi se pare un semn de s\u0103n\u0103tate mintal\u0103 \u015fi de \u00een\u0163elegere a realit\u0103\u0163ii. Statisticile spun c\u0103, s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2nal, o femeie este ucis\u0103 \u015fi o dat\u0103 pe or\u0103, o femeie este b\u0103tut\u0103 de partener, iubit sau so\u0163. Netul e plin de \u201e\u0219coli de masculinitate\u201d ca aceea a lui Andrew Tate, care trainuiesc b\u0103rba\u021bii s\u0103 mint\u0103, s\u0103 manipuleze \u0219i s\u0103 foloseasc\u0103 femei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Cum Dumnezeu s\u0103 nu devii evitant c\u00e2nd vezi toate astea? Se nume\u0219te adaptare la situa\u021bie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0218i dup\u0103 cum se vede, chiar \u0219i evitant\u0103 fiind, ai nimerit un b\u0103rbat dispus s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi demonstreze c\u0103 te place cu adev\u0103rat \u0219i s\u0103 te ia \u00een serios, \u00een timp ce disperatele at\u00e2rn\u0103 dup\u0103 fiecare iubi nou \u0219i dau totul din prima, apoi \u0103la se plictise\u0219te \u0219i nu le mai sun\u0103. Deci, nu consider c\u0103 a fi evitant\u0103 e o problem\u0103, ci o calitate. Te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 selectezi clientela \u0219i s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2i cu \u0103la care \u0219tie c\u0103 gotta put in the work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Legat de a doua problem\u0103, s\u0103 fii fermec\u0103tor \u0219i amuzant \u00een public mi se pare chestiune de civiliza\u021bie. Nu vrei s\u0103 fii t\u0103nti\u021b ciufut de la ghi\u0219eu care stric\u0103 ziua celorlal\u021bi \u0219i pare perpetuu nefu. Problemele de acas\u0103 se rezolv\u0103 acas\u0103, \u00een ora\u0219 \u0219i la munc\u0103 purt\u0103m masc\u0103 social\u0103, c\u0103 nu o intereseaz\u0103 pe Rodica de la contabilitate ce necazuri avem, ci dimpotriv\u0103, mai mult \u00eei d\u0103m subiect de b\u00e2rf\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Iar dramele astea cu \u201edar oare m\u0103 iubesc oamenii a\u0219a cum sunt\u201d se pot rezolva cu psiholog, dac\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi place s\u0103 vorbe\u0219ti mult despre tine, sau cu asumarea faptului c\u0103 oamenii au problemele lor \u0219i, de multe ori, nu suntem at\u00e2t de importan\u021bi pe c\u00e2t ne credem, \u0219i nu prea e relevant s\u0103 avem serviciu de fani la u\u0219\u0103 \u00een fiecare diminea\u021b\u0103. Cine ne iube\u0219te, bine, cine nu, s\u0103n\u0103tate \u0219i virtute, esen\u021bial e s\u0103 te iube\u0219ti tu pe tine \u0219i s\u0103-\u021bi g\u0103se\u0219ti un hobby care s\u0103 te ajute s\u0103 nu te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti toat\u0103 ziua la tine \u00eensu\u021bi, c\u0103 obiectiv e pierdere de vreme. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sper c\u0103 am fost util\u0103, <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Izbe\u015fte autorul cu o cafea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n Vrei s\u0103 m\u0103 urm\u0103re\u015fti \u00een social media? \u00cemi po\u0163i da follow pe Facebook<\/strong><\/a> \u015fi Instagram<\/a><\/strong>, subscribe pe YouTube<\/a><\/strong> \u015fi pe TikTok<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Periodic, oferim iubire cititorului nostru. \u00cen sensul \u00een care el sau ea, sau chiar tu, de ce nu, ne trimite(\u021bi) problema voastr\u0103 de suflet...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":28538,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-28537","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sweetgirl.jpg?fit=1024%2C1024&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28537","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=28537"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28537\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":28539,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28537\/revisions\/28539"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/28538"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28537"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28537"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=28537"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/paypal-.jpg?w=700&ssl=1\")
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