\u00ce\u021bi scriu pentru c\u0103 am ajuns \u00eentr-un punct \u00een care nu mai vreau s\u0103 m\u0103 pl\u00e2ng, ci s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleg ce am de f\u0103cut mai departe.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Am 52 de ani. Am fost profesoar\u0103 \u00een Rom\u00e2nia \u0219i de trei ani tr\u0103iesc \u00een America. M-am rec\u0103s\u0103torit aici cu un b\u0103rbat bun, harnic, responsabil, ,a good provider… un om care ofer\u0103 siguran\u021b\u0103 \u0219i stabilitate. \u0218tiu c\u0103 m\u0103 iube\u0219te, chiar dac\u0103 felul lui de a iubi e mai degrab\u0103 practic dec\u00e2t emo\u021bional. A venit \u00een America de c\u00e2nd avea 10 ani, acum are 53 \u0219i e \u0219i el la a doua c\u0103s\u0103torie. Oarecum \u00eel in\u021beleg. Sunt diferen\u021be multe \u00eentre noi\u00a0 \u0219i, de\u0219i ne iubim , nu avem un\u00a0 limbaj comun \u00een momentele dificile. Eu am nevoie de prezen\u021b\u0103 \u0219i dialog atunci c\u00e2nd sunt vulnerabil\u0103. El se retrage. Se sperie. Nu din r\u0103utate, ci din neputin\u021b\u0103,cred. Iar asta m\u0103 face adesea s\u0103 o iau pe ar\u0101tur\u0103, s\u0103 m\u0103 crizez. Menopauza, hormonii – femeile \u0219tiu.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 asta, \u00ee\u0219i dore\u0219te s\u0103 dorm cu el. \u00cens\u0103 na, el sfor\u0103ie \u0219i e imposibil pt mine. \u0218i asa dorm pu\u021bin.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n De cur\u00e2nd am \u00eenceput s\u0103 lucrez ca substitute teacher, predau si Pilates online (lucrez cu 3-4 fete, e pasiunea mea), \u00eencerc s\u0103-mi construiesc o identitate profesional\u0103 nou\u0103. \u00cenc\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021b s\u0103 predau Pilates in englez\u0103 \u0219i visez s\u0103 am propriul meu studio \u00eentr-o zi. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Exist\u0103 momente \u00een care m\u0103 g\u00e2ndesc la \u00eentoarcerea \u00een Rom\u00e2nia. Idealizez via\u021ba la \u021bar\u0103, lini\u0219tea… Alteori \u0219tiu clar c\u0103 aici am mai mult spa\u021biu de dezvoltare. Rom\u00e2nia r\u0103m\u00e2ne locul sufletului meu \u2014 p\u0103rin\u021bii mei, copiii mei (sunt mari ,e adev\u0103rat), prietenii mei, m\u0103n\u0103stirile, r\u0103d\u0103cinile. Vin de dou\u0103 ori pe an \u00een Rom\u00e2nia \u0219i greu ma desprind de cei dragi. Sunt o femeie credincioas\u0103 \u0219i caut profunzimea, sensul, adev\u0103rul.Iubesc c\u0103r\u021bile, \u00eel redescop\u0103r pe Lucian Blaga. Tocmai de aceea nu vreau s\u0103 tr\u0103iesc \u00eentr-o nostalgie continu\u0103 sau \u00eentr-o a\u0219teptare ca cineva s\u0103 m\u0103 \u201esalveze” emo\u021bional.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00centrebarea mea nu mai este \u201ede ce nu e el altfel?”, ci:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n cum \u00ee\u0219i construie\u0219te o femeie matur\u0103, aflat\u0103 \u00eentre dou\u0103 lumi, o via\u021b\u0103 coerent\u0103, vie \u0219i demn\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103-\u0219i tr\u0103deze nevoia de profunzime?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2i, s\u0103 cre\u0219ti \u0219i s\u0103 nu te pierzi pe tine?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n A\u0219 aprecia perspectiva ta, ador umorul t\u0103u… Mul\u021bumesc din suflet.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Cu respect,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n X. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Drag\u0103 X., <\/p>\n\n\n\n Am citit de trei ori mailul t\u0103u, pentru c\u0103 nu \u00een\u021beleg, sincer \u0219i cu m\u00e2na pe inim\u0103, ce e incoerent, mort \u0219i nedemn \u00een via\u021ba ta de acum. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Omul nu \u021bine neap\u0103rat pasul cu efuziunile tale sentimentale, dar te bazezi pe el, \u0219i asta e cel mai important. Ai timp de un job pe care \u021bi l-ai dorit, chiar \u0219i pentru hobby-ul la care visezi, mai trebuie s\u0103 cau\u021bi clien\u021bi, s\u0103 po\u021bi face banii pentru studioul visat. Ai resurse s\u0103 vii \u00een \u021bar\u0103 de dou\u0103 ori pe an \u0219i s\u0103 te plimbi pe unde vrei tu. Obiectiv, mi se pare o via\u021b\u0103 \u00eemplinit\u0103, compus\u0103 \u00een m\u0103sur\u0103 de 99% din tot ce \u00ee\u021bi dore\u0219ti \u0219i, cel pu\u021bin din ce mi-ai descris aici, nu v\u0103d ce-\u021bi lipse\u0219te. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nimeni nu are cum s\u0103 fie r\u0103spunsul universului la toate nevoile tale, \u0219i pariez c\u0103 dac\u0103 \u00eel \u00eentreb\u0103m pe so\u021bul t\u0103u, \u0219i el ar g\u0103si defecte pe care s\u0103 \u021bi le repro\u0219eze, dar sunt oameni care prefer\u0103 s\u0103 se uite la partea plin\u0103 a paharului \u0219i al\u021bii care caut\u0103 doar ce mai au de obiectat azi. How about: just give him a break? Eu \u00eencep s\u0103 fug de crizele altora c\u00e2nd mi se pare c\u0103 le fac din absolut orice r\u0103h\u0103\u021bel \u0219i c\u00e2nd \u00eemi ignor\u0103 eforturile doar ca s\u0103 se lege de futilit\u0103\u021bi. Poate c\u0103 e \u0219i cazul lui. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Nu vrei s\u0103 dormi cu el? Nu dormi cu el. Dar exist\u0103 \u0219i solu\u021bii de compromis: Uite, dragul meu, nu pot dormi c\u00e2nd sfor\u0103i, dar \u00eenainte de culcare, putem s\u0103 ne uit\u0103m \u00eempreun\u0103 la televizor \u00een pat p\u00e2n\u0103 adormi. Cum el e cel ce munce\u0219te 8 ore, probabil c\u0103 adoarme repede. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 vrei o identitate profesional\u0103, tu trebuie s\u0103 lucrezi la o strategie de business, la ceea ce ai tu de oferit ca antreprenor, la modul \u00een care prezin\u021bi public oferta \u0219i atragi clien\u021bii. \u0218i poate \u00eei ceri ajutorul omului de l\u00e2ng\u0103 tine. Cred c\u0103 va fi o u\u0219urare pentru el c\u0103 nu avem pe meniu pandalii, ci o discu\u021bie cu subiect \u0219i predicat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Din nou: \u00eencerc s\u0103 v\u0103d vreo problem\u0103 real\u0103 \u00een ce mi-ai scris \u0219i v\u0103d doar un om care are de toate \u0219i face tot ce vrea. Care e nemul\u021bumirea, mai exact? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dac\u0103 tot e\u0219ti un om credincios, recomand s\u0103 ridici privirea \u00een sus \u0219i s\u0103 zici urm\u0103toarele: Mul\u021bumesc, Dumnezeule, pentru tot ce am \u0219i pentru tot ce pot s\u0103 fac. Con\u0219tientizez c\u0103 sunt milioane de oameni care se zbat la limita subzisten\u021bei, care lucreaz\u0103 \u00een joburi pe care nu le suport\u0103, pentru c\u0103 nu au alte solu\u021bii, \u0219i care nu \u0219i-au v\u0103zut \u021bara natal\u0103 cu anii. \u00cen\u021beleg c\u0103 e treaba mea, \u0219i nu a lui Vasile din deal, s\u0103 ofer mai mult\u0103 gra\u021bie omului de l\u00e2ng\u0103 mine \u0219i s\u0103 pun um\u0103rul la un brand personal, pentru c\u0103 nimic \u00een via\u021b\u0103 nu vine f\u0103r\u0103 efort. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sper c\u0103 \u021bi-am fost util\u0103,<\/p>\n\n\n\n Lorena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n ***<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00ce\u021bi place s\u0103 cite\u0219ti aceste articole? Po\u021bi ajuta \u00een mod direct la scrierea lor. 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