{"id":29416,"date":"2026-05-02T15:19:07","date_gmt":"2026-05-02T12:19:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=29416"},"modified":"2026-05-02T15:19:11","modified_gmt":"2026-05-02T12:19:11","slug":"lectia-antibullying-a-lui-bolojan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/lectia-antibullying-a-lui-bolojan\/","title":{"rendered":"Lec\u021bia antibullying a lui Bolojan"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Pe c\u00e2nd \u00eenc\u0103 \u00eemi mai trimitea\u021bi mailuri pentru rubrica Po\u0219ta redac\u021biei – cea \u00een care \u00eemi scria\u021bi anonim despre o problem\u0103 a voastr\u0103, iar noi ofeream o p\u0103rere personal\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 preten\u021bie de verdict, doar a\u0219a, s\u0103 mai schimb\u0103m idei – mul\u021bi dintre voi mi-a\u021bi descris varii ipostaze de bullying. Bullying pe care, \u00eentre noi fie vorba, l-am experimentat \u0219i eu. O dat\u0103 la \u0219coal\u0103, c\u0103 nu primeam de acas\u0103 bani de haine, ci mo\u0219teneam vechituri de la veri\u0219ori, \u0219i ar\u0103tau pe mine ca o c\u00e2rp\u0103 ag\u0103\u021bat\u0103 de un gard. Fair point, dar un copil nu are venituri, prin urmare nu are buget de Zara \u0219i Nissa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Apoi, dup\u0103 ce am intrat la teatru, am avut parte de bullying c\u0103 nu m\u0103 conformam standardelor clasice de frumuse\u021be \u0219i pupincurism. \u0218i pentru c\u0103 am refuzat s\u0103 semnez contracte unde se trecea o sum\u0103 pe h\u00e2rtie, \u0219i actorul primea mult mai pu\u021bin \u00een realitate, pentru c\u0103 anumi\u021bi intermediari furau pe rupte, am \u00eencasat bullying \u0219i \u00een showbiz. Apoi, am f\u0103cut o reclam\u0103 care nu a pl\u0103cut anumitor vede\u021bi. E adev\u0103rat, niciunul nu \u00eemi propusese \u00een prealabil vreo colaborare pl\u0103tit\u0103, s\u0103 zic\u0103: Uite, te-am f\u0103cut om \u0219i tu \u00eemi strici firma, dar to\u021bi aveau p\u0103reri legate de ce nu am voie s\u0103 fac cu o carier\u0103 la care nu contribuiser\u0103 nimic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

La asta ad\u0103ug\u0103m diverse ipostaze m\u0103runte de bullying one-on-one, dar nu intr\u0103m \u00een detalii, c\u0103 ar \u00eensemna s\u0103-i bag \u00een seam\u0103 pe cei ce m-au h\u0103r\u021buit, \u0219i sincer, d\u0103-i \u00een mor\u021bii lor. Aia s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 singura lor bucurie \u00een via\u021b\u0103. \u0218i la ce vie\u021bi jalnice au, probabil c\u0103 ESTE singura lor bucurie \u00een via\u021b\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar noi, to\u021bi, cei h\u0103r\u021bui\u021bi, primim zilele astea o mare lec\u021bie antibullying de la Ilie Bolojan. Trebuie doar s\u0103 st\u0103m aten\u021bi \u0219i s\u0103 ascult\u0103m ce spune \u0219i face acest om. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Refuz\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219eze narativa mincinoas\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Omul nostru nu cedeaz\u0103 la presiune, nu se sperie de amenin\u021b\u0103ri, nu \u00eel timoreaz\u0103 insultele, nu ia asupra lui imaginea pe care \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 o proiecteze denigratorii. Pe unde \u00eel vezi, e calm, lini\u0219tit \u0219i preocupat de priorit\u0103\u021bile jobului s\u0103u. Adic\u0103, de lucrurile care chiar conteaz\u0103. P\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een secunda \u00een care imbecilii chiar adun\u0103 al\u021bi imbecili s\u0103 \u00eel dea jos din func\u021bie, el are o responsabilitate public\u0103 \u0219i se \u021bine de ea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. E prezent la toate posturile care doresc s\u0103 converseze cu el. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un efect al bullyingului tinde s\u0103 fie ca tu s\u0103 te ascunzi \u00een col\u021bi\u0219orul t\u0103u, s\u0103 la\u0219i haita s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i urle minciunile, iar ei s\u0103 \u00eenving\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bolojan nu face asta. Se duce peste tot \u0219i vorbe\u0219te deschis, pentru c\u0103 nu are de ce s\u0103 se ascund\u0103 \u0219i nu are de ce s\u0103-i fie ru\u0219ine. Nu a \u00eencercat dec\u00e2t s\u0103 salveze bugetul unui stat, s\u0103 ob\u021bin\u0103 bani europeni, s\u0103 ajute ni\u0219te companii s\u0103 devin\u0103 profitabile \u0219i s\u0103 sparg\u0103 ni\u0219te g\u0103\u0219ti de interese. Sigur, \u00een salvarea bugetului, a luat \u0219i m\u0103suri dureroase, dar ideea e a\u0219a: cu c\u00e2t persist\u0103m \u00een haos economic pe care \u00eel cre\u0103m singuri, cu at\u00e2t deficitul se ad\u00e2nce\u0219te. Cu c\u00e2t ajungem la un echilibru mai repede, cu at\u00e2t putem discuta cre\u0219teri de pensii, ajutoare sociale \u0219i alte beneficii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Omul \u0219tie c\u0103 are dreptate \u0219i se mi\u0219c\u0103 cu relaxarea unui om care \u0219tie c\u0103 el nu face dec\u00e2t ceea ce e necesar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Discut\u0103 la obiect, calm, cu argumente economice, f\u0103r\u0103 vr\u0103jeal\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 glie, patrie, popor \u0219i alte baliverne f\u0103r\u0103 leg\u0103tur\u0103. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd te aperi de o hait\u0103 de l\u0103tr\u0103i, adev\u0103rul e cel mai bun prieten al t\u0103u. Cu c\u00e2t aju\u021bi mai multe persoane s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 punctul de vedere, anihilezi bullyingul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sigur, eu personal nu prea le am cu calmul, de aceea nu m\u0103 vede\u021bi \u00een politic\u0103. Dac\u0103 reu\u0219e\u0219te vreun gigel slugeranist s\u0103 m\u0103 enerveze \u00een vreo \u0219edin\u021b\u0103 public\u0103, a\u0219 ajunge \u021bint\u0103 de meme ca \u0218o\u0219oac\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar conversa\u021bia calm\u0103, argumentat\u0103, mereu la obiect a lui Bolojan ar trebui s\u0103 fie o lec\u021bie pentru noi to\u021bi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Ap\u0103r\u0103-te. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

USR a evoluat mult din 2020 \u0219i p\u00e2n\u0103 acum. \u00cen 2020, la c\u00e2teva provoc\u0103ri, \u0219i-au adunat juc\u0103riile \u0219i au ie\u0219it de la guvernare, contribuind implicit la na\u0219terea coali\u021biei de japc\u0103 \u00eentre partea retrograd\u0103 a PNL \u0219i PSD. Acum, oamenii mei aduc public argumente, iau m\u0103suri, \u0219i asta ne ajut\u0103 pe noi to\u021bi s\u0103-i sus\u021binem \u00een lupta lor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 tu singur nu te lup\u021bi \u0219i nu te sus\u021bii pe tine, al\u021bii nu au cum s\u0103 te sprijine, c\u0103 par ei idio\u021bi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. \u0218i dac\u0103 pierzi, m\u0103car pierzi cu fruntea sus, c\u0103 ai f\u0103cut tot ce se putea. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nimeni nu \u0219tie ce se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla mar\u021bi. Nu cred c\u0103 PSD vrea cu adev\u0103rat o guvernare cu AUR, c\u0103 \u0219tiu \u0219i ei ce foame ar fi \u00eentr-o Rom\u00e2nie prorus\u0103 izolat\u0103. \u0218i mai \u0219tiu c\u0103 Rom\u00e2nia f\u0103r\u0103 investi\u021bii str\u0103ine e o adun\u0103tur\u0103 de d\u0103r\u00e2m\u0103turi \u0219i de \u0219omeri inutili. PSD vrea s\u0103 refac\u0103 ga\u0219ca pe care o avea \u00eenainte de alegeri cu PNL aripa b\u0103tr\u00e2n\u0103 \u0219i cu UDMR, \u0219i s\u0103 fure to\u021bi lini\u0219ti\u021bi ca p\u00e2n\u0103 acum. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar indiferent ce se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla mar\u021bi, m\u0103car omul nostru \u0219tie c\u0103 a f\u0103cut tot ce se putea, c\u0103 a c\u00e2\u0219tigat suficien\u021bi sus\u021bin\u0103tori care s\u0103 \u00eel sus\u021bin\u0103 \u00een turul urm\u0103tor de alegeri. Partea bun\u0103 \u00een via\u021ba asta e c\u0103 lucrurile nu r\u0103m\u00e2n fixe \u0219i c\u0103, exact ca \u00een proverbul \u0103la asiatic, stai pe malul r\u00e2ului \u0219i vezi cum vine la vale cadavrul du\u0219manului t\u0103u. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uneori, ce conteaz\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat e c\u00e2\u0219tigul pe termen lung, iar eu am c\u00e2\u0219tigat ceva extrem de relevant. Nu mai \u00eentreb ca Cet\u0103\u021beanul Turmentat al lui Caragiale: Dar eu cu cine votez? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

AM CU CINE VOTA. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De asemenea, poate e o idee bun\u0103 s\u0103 existe alegeri libere \u0219i pentru prim ministru. E bizar s\u0103 nu alegem noi taman omul care ia toate deciziile care ne vor afecta direct \u00een urm\u0103torii patru ani. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi place ceea ce cite\u0219ti, inspir\u0103-m\u0103 cu o cafea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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