{"id":29705,"date":"2026-08-14T12:09:54","date_gmt":"2026-08-14T09:09:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=29705"},"modified":"2026-08-14T12:16:13","modified_gmt":"2026-08-14T09:16:13","slug":"ce-mare-lucru-e-un-pahar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/ce-mare-lucru-e-un-pahar\/","title":{"rendered":"Ce mare lucru e un pahar?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Ieri seara, m\u0103 uitam la un film. Beam o can\u0103 de lapte cu turmeric, obicei cules din Asia, unde \u00eenc\u0103lze\u0219ti ni\u0219te lapte integral \u0219i \u00eei adaugi turmeric, ghimbir, scor\u021bi\u0219oar\u0103 \u0219i ce alte buruieni mai ai \u00een buc\u0103t\u0103rie, pentru c\u0103 astfel corpul t\u0103u beneficiaz\u0103 de o mul\u021bime de vitamine \u0219i minerale \u00een mod natural. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar laptele cald cu toate astea \u00een el mai are o calitate: E absolut delicios. \u0218i \u00een timp ce \u00eel sorbeam a\u0219a, mi-am dat seama, brusc c\u0103 m\u0103 simt incredibil de bine fizic. Mai bine dec\u00e2t acum zece ani. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 maturitatea e bun\u0103 la ceva, iat\u0103: \u00eenve\u021bi s\u0103-\u021bi accep\u021bi propriul corp \u0219i propriul creier, \u0219i nu mai \u00eencerci cu disperare s\u0103 fii Nadia Com\u0103neci. (Glum\u0103: e ca \u0219i cum o c\u0103r\u0103mid\u0103 ar \u00eencerca cu mult\u0103 ambi\u021bie s\u0103 fie un elastic.) Nu mai \u021bii diete retardate, Nu mai faci antrenamente demente, de dou\u0103 ori pe zi la sal\u0103, urmate de luni \u00eentregi de z\u0103cut. Nu mai plimbi dup\u0103 tine disfunc\u021bie emo\u021bional\u0103, pe care o amu\u021be\u0219ti cu m\u00e2ncat compulsiv \u0219i b\u0103ut p\u00e2n\u0103 diminea\u021ba, dup\u0103 care gole\u0219ti trei red bulluri \u0219i patru cafetiere s\u0103 nu se vad\u0103 c\u0103 tu de fapt e\u0219ti praf de mahmur. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Devii o c\u0103r\u0103mid\u0103 jovial\u0103, perfect satisf\u0103cut\u0103 cu c\u0103r\u0103mid\u0103ria ta, \u0219i automat, c\u00e2\u0219tigi pace. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Problema mea cu alcoolul era complex\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pe de o parte, era b\u0103utul de \u00eenecat amarul. Ceea ce, \u0219tim cu to\u021bii, e o minciun\u0103 cu care te p\u0103c\u0103le\u0219ti mai mult pe tine. Amarul \u00eenoat\u0103 mai bine chiar dec\u00e2t David Popovici. \u0218i chiar dac\u0103 tace pu\u021bin dup\u0103 ce \u00eel lini\u0219te\u0219ti cu un pahar, devine hiperactiv de la prima or\u0103 a doua zi, s\u0103 recupereze, s\u0103 nu piard\u0103 medalii. Probabil c\u0103 tot ca David Popovici. \u0218i atunci, putem spune c\u0103 b\u0103utul mai mult contribuie la cariera de \u00eenot a amarului, nu invers. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, amarul s-a rezolvat singur, c\u00e2nd m-am concentrat pe ce pot face pozitiv \u0219i bun \u00een via\u021ba mea \u0219i a altora, \u0219i s\u0103 las rahaturile toxice \u0219i disfunc\u021bionale \u00een urm\u0103. Acesta e singurul mod verificabil de a \u00eeneca cu adev\u0103rat amarul, iar dac\u0103 ai un terapeut bun, unul care s\u0103 \u00eembine armonios ascultatul de v\u0103ic\u0103reli cu \u201dok, ce faci s\u0103 rezolvi asta?\u201d, s\u0103 nu te lase s\u0103 b\u0103lte\u0219ti \u00een propria nimicnicie – e \u0219i \u0103la un pericol – \u021bine de el cu din\u021bii. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dar adev\u0103rata problem\u0103 cu b\u0103utul, \u00een cazul meu, era alta. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E mitul \u0103la asiatic cu be\u021bivul maimu\u021b\u0103, be\u021bivul tigru, be\u021bivul bivol \u0219i be\u021bivul tigru. Eu am fost \u00eentotdeauna be\u021bivul maimu\u021b\u0103. Alcoolul \u00eemi activa umorul \u0219i veselia, m\u0103 f\u0103cea zglobie \u0219i juc\u0103u\u0219\u0103, \u0219i \u00eemi revela adev\u0103rata personalitate. \u0218i, al naibii, \u00eentotdeauna am scris mai bine c\u00e2nd m\u0103 serveam printre fraze direct din sticla de vin ro\u0219u sec. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aceasta este partea cea mai dificil\u0103 de dep\u0103\u0219it a dependen\u021bei. Faptul c\u0103 ai sentimentul c\u0103 o s\u0103 pierzi accesul la cea mai bun\u0103 parte a ta. Cred c\u0103 asta face \u0219i cocaina s\u0103 fie at\u00e2t de greu de l\u0103sat. Sau alte droguri de tip \u201dupper\u201d, care \u00ee\u021bi dau energie, carism\u0103, str\u0103lucire \u0219i rezisten\u021ba unui cuirasat. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00e2n\u0103 \u00eenve\u021bi s\u0103-\u021bi accesezi cea mai bun\u0103 parte a ta prin simpl\u0103 relaxare \u0219i medita\u021bie, e drum lung. \u201dEi, hai, Lorena, c\u00e2t o fi de greu s\u0103 meditezi?\u201d Uhm, depinde cum o faci. Pe principiul \u201dCe faci, bade, \u0219\u0103zi \u0219i cuje\u021bi\u201d sau pe principiul \u201dNuma \u0219\u0103d.\u201d C\u0103 dac\u0103 numa \u0219\u0103zi, medita\u021bia e simpl\u0103 \u0219i cu exact zero efect. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dac\u0103 oamenii care au trecut \u0219i ei prin varii dependen\u021be te felicit\u0103 din inim\u0103 c\u00e2nd spui c\u0103 ai renun\u021bat, mai e \u0219i categoria aia extrem de iritant\u0103 de b\u0103g\u0103tor \u00een seam\u0103 care nu \u00een\u021belege nimic din via\u021b\u0103 \u0219i te \u00eentreab\u0103: \u201dDar ce mare lucru un pahar?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pentru tine nu e mare lucru. A\u0219a cum pentru mine nu e niciodat\u0103 doar un pahar. E toat\u0103 sticla, sau nimic. \u0218i dac\u0103 sticla e goal\u0103, \u0219i \u0219tii c\u0103 mai ai una \u00een c\u0103mar\u0103, o desfaci \u0219i pe aia. \u0218i tot a\u0219a. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Problema celor cu dependen\u021be e c\u0103 n-au fr\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een dotare. \u0218tii c\u00e2nd te apuci de b\u0103ut, dar nu \u0219tii c\u00e2nd te opre\u0219ti, mai ales dac\u0103 e\u0219ti la c\u00e2rcium\u0103 sau ai magazin nonstop \u00een vecini. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De aceea, cei ca noi nu pot \u201dbea ocazional\u201d sau \u201dfuma pe la evenimente\u201d. Cei ca noi dau pagub\u0103 fundamental\u0103 sau se ab\u021bin cu totul. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu e\u0219ti ca noi? Bravo \u021bie. Dar tocmai faptul c\u0103 nu e\u0219ti ca noi implic\u0103 \u0219i incapacitatea ta de a te pune \u00een croc\u0219ii no\u0219tri Balenciaga (glum\u0103, dar croc\u0219ii de la Balenciaga mi se par obiectiv amuzan\u021bi) \u0219i a ne spune ce s\u0103 facem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bea tu un pahar, c\u0103 tu te po\u021bi opri \u0219i te po\u021bi duce la culcare \u00eemp\u0103cat. Nu ne spune nou\u0103 c\u0103 \u201dun pahar nu stric\u0103\u201d, pentru c\u0103 e exact retorica celor care cad din nou \u00een dependen\u021b\u0103 \u0219i prostia ta binevoitoare poate avea efecte dezastruoase asupra altora. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Merci de \u00een\u021belegere. \u0218i da, pe canicula asta beau oceane de ap\u0103 cu l\u0103m\u00e2ie. Nu m-am sim\u021bit niciodat\u0103 mai bine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dac\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi place ceea ce cite\u0219ti, inspir\u0103-m\u0103 cu o cafea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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