{"id":5718,"date":"2012-10-08T19:12:07","date_gmt":"2012-10-08T19:12:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.wordpress.com\/?p=5718"},"modified":"2012-10-08T19:12:07","modified_gmt":"2012-10-08T19:12:07","slug":"femeile-trebuie-sa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/femeile-trebuie-sa\/","title":{"rendered":"“Femeile trebuie s\u0103…”"},"content":{"rendered":"

Aceasta e o postare adresat\u0103 \u0163ie, drag\u0103 cititoare. Dac\u0103 e\u015fti pe acest site, probabil c\u0103 nu e\u015fti genul “provincial\u0103 \u00eenchistat\u0103”, care s\u0103 moar\u0103 de inim\u0103 citind literele “p”, “u”, “l” \u015fi “\u0103”, exact \u00een aceast\u0103 ordine, \u015fi \u015ftii s\u0103 evaluezi un text dup\u0103 idei, nu dup\u0103 cantitatea de argou cu care autorul alege s\u0103-\u015fi condimenteze spusele.<\/p>\n

Voi \u00eencepe cu o revela\u0163ie. Tu, femeie, te descurci de o mie de ori mai bine singur\u0103, dec\u00e2t \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie care s\u0103 te dezavantajeze. De aceea, sfatul meu ca de la sor\u0103 la sor\u0103 e: ia o bucat\u0103 de h\u00e2rtie. Cu liniu\u0163e, num\u0103r\u0103 ce ob\u0163ii tu din rela\u0163ia cu X. Apoi, num\u0103r\u0103 ce preten\u0163ii ai de satisf\u0103cut. Dac\u0103 lista A e mai scurt\u0103 dec\u00e2t B, f\u0103-i v\u00e2nt. Poate nu m\u0103 vei crede dar exist\u0103 un univers \u00eentreg de tipi care pot fi mai buni, mai aten\u0163i, mai iubitori \u015fi mai… ce vrei tu s\u0103 fie, dec\u00e2t \u0103la care nu \u0163ine cont de dorin\u0163ele tale, dar face balamuc dac\u0103 tu nu \u0163ii cont de ale lui.<\/p>\n

Una dintre categoriile de pule cu care nu merit\u0103 s\u0103 schimbi nici m\u0103car numere de telefon e specimenul “femeile-trebuie-s\u0103”. E evident c\u0103 orice bou care bag\u0103 femeile \u00een aceea\u015fi oal\u0103 – pe toate – e \u00een totala ne\u00een\u0163elegere a faptului c\u0103 \u015fi femeile sunt oameni. Diferi\u0163i. \u015ei nu le po\u0163i da un singur set de reguli. A\u015fa cum nu le po\u0163i da acela\u015fi set de reguli lui Justin Bieber, lui Stephen Hawking \u015fi lui Boutros Boutros-Ghali.<\/p>\n

R\u0103spunsul corect e: “Nu, femeile nu trebuie s\u0103. Femeile pot alege s\u0103, sau pot refuza s\u0103. Femeile pot prefera s\u0103, sau pot prefera s\u0103 nu. Uneori, femeile ar putea s\u0103, dac\u0103 \u015ftii s\u0103 pui problema corect. Depinde de femeie. Unei femei \u00eei place s\u0103, alteia nu. E ok \u015fi e normal. Nu exist\u0103 un by default<\/em> cu ceea ce trebuie s\u0103 o femeie. Iar dac\u0103 tu vii cu\u00a0by defaults<\/em>, vin \u015fi eu cu\u00a0by defaults: B\u0103rba\u0163ii trebuie s\u0103… (\u015fi zici ce crezi tu c\u0103 “trebuie s\u0103…” b\u0103rba\u0163ii).\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Nu de alta, dar exist\u0103 foarte mult misoginism retardat \u00een Rom\u00e2nia – \u00a0\u015fi o parte din el se manifest\u0103 sub forma autorit\u0103\u0163ii iritante: “femeile trebuie s\u0103”. Singurul lucru pe care “femeile trebuie s\u0103” \u00eel fac\u0103 e s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 moduri de a nu se l\u0103sa manipulate de pro\u015fti.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Aceasta e o postare adresat\u0103 \u0163ie, drag\u0103 cititoare. Dac\u0103 e\u015fti pe acest site, probabil c\u0103 nu e\u015fti genul “provincial\u0103 \u00eenchistat\u0103”, care s\u0103 moar\u0103 de...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5718","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5718","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5718"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5718\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5718"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5718"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5718"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}