{"id":8712,"date":"2014-11-20T08:59:28","date_gmt":"2014-11-20T08:59:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.wordpress.com\/?p=8712"},"modified":"2014-11-20T08:59:28","modified_gmt":"2014-11-20T08:59:28","slug":"momentul-debutului-cum-sa-eviti-sa-devii-un-cacat-cu-ochi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/momentul-debutului-cum-sa-eviti-sa-devii-un-cacat-cu-ochi\/","title":{"rendered":"Momentul debutului: cum s\u0103 evi\u0163i s\u0103 devii un c\u0103cat cu ochi"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nu vreau s\u0103 m\u0103 transform \u00een haterul debutan\u0163ilor. Cred din toat\u0103 inima c\u0103 un om care \u015fi-a descoperit talentul \u015fi e la \u00eenceput de drum trebuie \u00eencurajat s\u0103 capete \u00eencredere \u00een talentul lui.<\/p>\n

Dar, mai ales dac\u0103 succesul vine din prima – ceea ce e destul de u\u015for \u00een perioada Facebook – pe nepus\u0103 mas\u0103, \u015fi d\u0103 peste cineva care pierde u\u015for busola, omul cu pricina tinde s\u0103 se transforme \u00een ceva complet imposibil de digerat f\u0103r\u0103 Triferment, Colebil, Mezym forte \u015fi o vadr\u0103 de ceai de mu\u015fe\u0163el. Subit \u00eel n\u0103p\u0103de\u015fte un amestec de egocentrism, attention whoring \u015fi impresie a unicit\u0103\u0163ii pe p\u0103m\u00e2nt \u00eenc\u00e2t \u00eei faci pe to\u0163i cunoscu\u0163ii t\u0103i s\u0103-\u015fi dea cu palma peste ochi \u015fi s\u0103 zic\u0103: “Cine c\u0103cat era de fapt Gigelu sau Getu\u0163a asta care p\u0103rea ok \u00eenainte?”<\/p>\n

Nu, doar pentru c\u0103 ai scris tu o carte care a pl\u0103cut, ai avut un hit la radio sau un rol cu care ai luat aplauze, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 soarele \u015fi-a mutat punctul de r\u0103s\u0103rit \u00een distinsu-\u0163i cur. \u015ei, ce e mai trist: nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 succesul va dura p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd moartea v\u0103 va desp\u0103r\u0163i. Dimpotriv\u0103. Tocmai au trecut ni\u015fte alegeri electorale \u00een care succesul i-a dat cu flit candidatului care se fela singur cu nesa\u0163 \u015fi s-a dus la \u0103la care, de\u015fi nu p\u0103rea foarte vesel \u015fi nici nu dansa the chilly cha cha, ar\u0103ta a om normal.<\/p>\n

De aceea, f\u0103r\u0103 hatereal\u0103, c\u0103, p\u0103truns de tine cum e\u015fti la primul succes, vei tinde s-o iei personal, cum a f\u0103cut-o superba Petronela<\/a>, hai s\u0103 facem un curs rapid de managementul primului succes.<\/p>\n

A) Mai scrie \u015fi despre altceva, u\u0103i! <\/strong><\/p>\n

Da, ok, ai avut acel succes. \u00cen\u0163elegem. Da, \u00een\u0163elegem c\u0103 e pl\u0103cut s\u0103 zg\u00e2nd\u0103ri punctul G al respectivului succes iar, \u015fi iar, \u015fi iar, \u015fi iar, \u015fi iar, \u015fi iar, \u015fi iar, \u015fi iar, \u015fi iar, ca s\u0103 te \u00eemp\u0103nezi \u00een fa\u0163a poporului rom\u00e2n.<\/p>\n

Problema e c\u0103 o bun\u0103 parte dintre oameni o s\u0103 se sature p\u00e2n\u0103 peste cap. Inclusiv \u0103ia care la \u00eenceput te pl\u0103ceau. Inclusiv \u0103ia care la \u00eenceput, c\u00e2nd nu te credeai miezul, te urm\u0103reau.<\/p>\n

Bun, we got it, ai avut un succes. Bun, we got it, ai scris o carte care a pl\u0103cut. DAR C\u00c2T PULA NOASTR\u0102 NE MAI FRECI CU ASTA?<\/p>\n

Logic, e wallul t\u0103u, s\u0103-mi v\u0103d de al meu. Zis \u015fi f\u0103cut. Am o pl\u0103cere nebun\u0103 s\u0103 dau unsubscribe oamenilor care se feleaz\u0103 singuri p\u00e2n\u0103 le \u0163\u00e2\u015fne\u015fte sperma proprie pe ochi. \u015ei din c\u00e2te am discutat eu cu lume, mul\u0163i fac fix asta.
\nCred c\u0103 limitarea la 30%, hai 40% chestii despre c\u00e2t de unic \/ minunat \/ neasemuit e\u015fti tu \u015fi restul de 70% (hai 60%) teme de discu\u0163ie care s\u0103 intereseze \u015fi omul normal e cea mai bun\u0103.<\/p>\n

\u00cen fond, g\u00e2nde\u015fte-te la iubire. Nici iubirea nu e 100% sex. Mai schimbi \u015fi tu o vorb\u0103, mai bei un vin, mai ron\u0163\u0103i un covrig. Monotonia e moartea tragic\u0103 a pasiunii. Insist: MONOTONIA E MOARTEA DUREROAS\u0102, \u00ceN CHINURI, CU SPUME PE N\u0102RI, A PASIUNII.<\/p>\n

B) Nu insista cu un obositor CUMP\u0102R\u0102-M\u0102 CUMP\u0102R\u0102-M\u0102 CUMP\u0102R\u0102-M\u0102.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bine, asta nici nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 dai ap\u0103 la moar\u0103 genului sloboz-cu-ochi care, dup\u0103 ce c\u0103 te troleaz\u0103 cu zeci de comentarii, mai are \u015fi impresia c\u0103 e foarte interesant c\u00e2nd face pe clientul dificil: Nu \u015ftiu dac\u0103 s-o cump\u0103r.<\/p>\n

Vorbesc de oamenii normali. Pe care-i obose\u015fti dac\u0103 la orice compliment f\u0103cut \u00een trecere \u00eei \u00eentrebi: “Ai cump\u0103rat?” Pari \u0163igan \u015fmenar care trage de om s\u0103-i v\u00e2nd\u0103 cu sila \u015fampoane contraf\u0103cute.<\/p>\n

Una dintre cele mai enervante muieri pe care le-am cunoscut era o tip\u0103 care, de c\u00e2te ori f\u0103ceai un compliment a\u015fa, s\u0103 face\u0163i conversa\u0163ie, voia s\u0103-\u0163i v\u00e2nd\u0103 ceva. Citez:
\n“Ai un pulov\u0103r frumos.”
\n“Vrei s\u0103-l cumperi? \u00cel v\u00e2nd cu un milion.”
\n“\u00ce\u0163i st\u0103 bine cum te-ai machiat azi.”
\n“Vrei s\u0103 cumperi fardurile? Le v\u00e2nd cu trei sute de mii.”
\nEtc. etc.
\nDac\u0103-i complimentai baia, sigur \u0163i-ar fi v\u00e2ndut un sul de h\u00e2rtie igienic\u0103 pe jum\u0103tate folosit.<\/p>\n

Am ajuns s\u0103-mi \u00eenghit orice form\u0103 de compliment fa\u0163\u0103 de fiin\u0163a aia. S\u0103 mi le reprim cu pumni pe interior. Senza\u0163ia c\u0103 un om se uit\u0103 la tine \u015fi vede un sac de bani, ca-n desene animate, e absolut terifiant\u0103. Da, bun. Vrei s\u0103 vinzi. Am \u00een\u0163eles cu to\u0163ii. D\u0103-ne voie ca decizia de cump\u0103r\u0103tor s\u0103 fie a noastr\u0103. Nu vine niciodat\u0103 restaurantul dup\u0103 tine, s\u0103 te trag\u0103 de m\u00e2neci s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nci acolo. M\u0103n\u00e2nci acolo fiindc\u0103 vezi reclama \u015fi \u0163i se pare interesant. Dar decizia e a celui care cump\u0103r\u0103. Nu a ta.<\/p>\n

C. Nu \u00eencepe s\u0103 dai comenzi \u00een jur cu “d\u0103-mi like”, “d\u0103-mi share”, “f\u0103-mi”, “cite\u015fte-mi”, “scrie despre”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Un efect secundar al succesului la oameni slabi de \u00eenger e c\u0103 \u00eencep s\u0103 aib\u0103 impresia c\u0103 lumea din jur le datoreaz\u0103 chestii. \u015ei subit te pomene\u015fti c\u0103 \u0162I SE COMAND\u0102: sharuie\u015fte-mi \u015fi mie aia \/ recomand\u0103 \u015fi la prieteni \/ scrie \u015fi despre mine \/ f\u0103 \u015fi mie cutare.<\/p>\n

Dragi pretena\u015fi debutan\u0163i cu impresii mari despre voi. Fie AI BANI \u015eI ANGAJEZI UN OM s\u0103-\u0163i fac\u0103 aia, aia \u015fi aia, fie PROPUI \/ SUGEREZI \/ ROGI FRUMOS.
\n“\u00cen caz c\u0103 ave\u0163i timp” \/ “Dac\u0103 ai pl\u0103cerea” \/ “Pot s\u0103 te rog ceva” \/ “Uite de ce ar fi frumos s\u0103 facem asta”.<\/p>\n

\u015ei superawesome e s\u0103 nu porunce\u015fti nici m\u0103car celor pe care-i pl\u0103te\u015fti. S\u0103 le c\u00e2\u015ftigi respectul, nu supunerea. S\u0103 te aprecieze, nu s\u0103 execute o sarcin\u0103.<\/p>\n

D) \u015ei nu umili public oameni care te sus\u0163in.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pentru c\u0103 va fi ultima sus\u0163inere pe care o vei mai pupa din partea omului respectiv. Chiar dac\u0103 e prea domn \/ doamn\u0103 s\u0103 te fut\u0103-n gur\u0103 public \u00een revan\u015f\u0103.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nu vreau s\u0103 m\u0103 transform \u00een haterul debutan\u0163ilor. Cred din toat\u0103 inima c\u0103 un om care \u015fi-a descoperit talentul \u015fi e la \u00eenceput de...<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8712","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-spicy"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8712","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8712"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8712\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8712"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8712"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8712"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}