{"id":9203,"date":"2015-03-30T10:28:03","date_gmt":"2015-03-30T10:28:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/?p=9203"},"modified":"2018-01-05T00:27:30","modified_gmt":"2018-01-04T21:27:30","slug":"uite-nu-n-am-chef-sa-mi-platesc-cafeaua-daca-m-ai-invitat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/uite-nu-n-am-chef-sa-mi-platesc-cafeaua-daca-m-ai-invitat\/","title":{"rendered":"Uite, nu, n-am chef s\u0103-mi pl\u0103tesc cafeaua, dac\u0103 m-ai invitat"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Face valuri pe net \u00een momentele astea <a href=\"http:\/\/www.catchy.ro\/te-superi-daca-ti-platesti-consumatia-egala-mea\/70652\">un articol de mare angajament<\/a>, \u00een care un b\u0103iat \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103-\u015fi promoveze cu disperare romanul pe care nu i-l cump\u0103r\u0103 nici pulea \u015fi, concomitent, ne explic\u0103 cum ar trebui s\u0103 ne pl\u0103tim singure cafeaua, firesc \u015fi natural, c\u00e2nd NE INVIT\u0102 \u00een ora\u015f.<\/p>\n<p>Da, \u00eemi pl\u0103tesc cafeaua c\u00e2nd e vorba de o \u00eent\u00e2lnire profesional\u0103, o negociere sau un viitor contract, iar tu e\u015fti partenerul meu de business. Da, \u00eemi pl\u0103tesc cafeaua c\u00e2nd e o \u00eent\u00e2lnire de munc\u0103. Nu m\u0103 a\u015ftept ca, \u00eentr-un proiect profesional de o lun\u0103, s\u0103-mi pl\u0103te\u015fti zi de zi cafeaua, de\u015fi mul\u0163i o fac.<\/p>\n<p>Dar c\u00e2nd e vorba de via\u0163\u0103 personal\u0103, d\u0103 zg\u00e2rcenia la o parte \u015fi scoate \u00een mor\u0163ii t\u0103i \u0103ia 7 lei, sau dac\u0103 nu po\u0163i face asta, taie-\u0163i-o \u015fi bag-o \u00een fund.<\/p>\n<p>Nu, b\u0103rba\u0163ii \u015fi femeile nu sunt egali dintr-un punct de vedere. Disperarea interac\u0163iunii cu sexul opus.<\/p>\n<p>Am mailurile, c\u0103su\u0163ele po\u015ftale, telefoanele pline cu SMS-uri de la in\u015fi mai mult sau mai pu\u0163in cunoscu\u0163i, care vor s\u0103 ie\u015fim \u00een ora\u015f, s\u0103 bem cafele, s\u0103 m\u00e2nc\u0103m, s\u0103 bem un vin, s\u0103 ne futem cu sau f\u0103r\u0103 obliga\u0163ii. Pe de alt\u0103 parte, foarte pu\u0163ini b\u0103rba\u0163i se pot l\u0103uda c\u0103 au din partea mea mesaje, mailuri, milogeli de petrecut timp \u00eempreun\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Idem toate femeile pe care le cunosc. Sunt mult mai intens h\u0103r\u0163uite, c\u0103utate, milogite, cer\u015fite, solicitate, dec\u00e2t o fac ele.<\/p>\n<p>Ideea b\u0103rbatului modern, c\u0103 tot acest timp al unei persoane care nu-i datoreaz\u0103 nimic i se cuvine moca, a\u015fa pur \u015fi simplu, e motivul pentru care din ce \u00een ce mai mul\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i sunt complet nefrecventabili ca parteneri. Nimeni nu le mai cere azi b\u0103rba\u0163ilor s\u0103 cumpere locuin\u0163e pentru femei, s\u0103 le d\u0103ruiasc\u0103 bijuterii scumpe, s\u0103 \u00eentre\u0163in\u0103 femeia sau s\u0103 \u00eei pun\u0103 universul la picioare. Dar dac\u0103 nici m\u0103car o cafea nu pot oferi, ce rost are s\u0103 mai doreasc\u0103 interac\u0163iune cu sexul opus?<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>E chestiune de protocol p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103. O firm\u0103 care vrea s\u0103-\u0163i sugereze c\u0103 are o ofert\u0103 demn\u0103 de luat \u00een considerare face asta cu un party impresionant de lansare. Un b\u0103rbat care vrea s\u0103-\u0163i sugereze c\u0103 e demn de luat \u00een considerare ar trebui s\u0103 nu se zg\u00e2rceasc\u0103 la o cafea. Pentru c\u0103 nu vrem un \u015fomer lamentabil c\u0103ruia s\u0103-i pl\u0103tim noi facturile. Avem vie\u0163i destul de complicate \u015fi a\u015fa. Un zg\u00e2rie-br\u00e2nz\u0103 penibil e ultimul lucru care lipse\u015fte din ele.<\/p>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei da, \u00een pofida egalit\u0103\u0163ii \u00ceN \u015eANSE PROFESIONALE, a fi femeia din rela\u0163ie presupune s\u0103 fii iubit\u0103 \u015fi r\u0103sf\u0103\u0163at\u0103. S\u0103 \u0163i se d\u0103ruiasc\u0103 lucruri. S\u0103 fii tratat\u0103 cu generozitate, cu ging\u0103\u015fie, s\u0103 nu \u015ftie \u0103la ce s\u0103 inventeze s\u0103-\u0163i fie bine. Abia atunci po\u0163i s\u0103-\u0163i dai armura jos \u015fi s\u0103 te deschizi, s\u0103 fii receptiv\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 d\u0103ruie\u015fti la r\u00e2ndul t\u0103u. Altminteri, te descurci de o mie de ori mai bine de una singur\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>\u015ei nu \u00een ultimul r\u00e2nd, a fi femeie presupune s\u0103 faci, la un moment dat, copii. S\u0103 devii indisponibil\u0103 profesional pentru c\u00e2teva luni, s\u0103 fii neajutorat\u0103 \u015fi instabil\u0103. \u015ei s\u0103 cheltuie\u015fti bani cu nemiluita \u00een tot acel timp. \u015ei, da, dac\u0103 un b\u0103rbat se zg\u00e2rce\u015fte la o banal\u0103 cafea, po\u0163i s\u0103-l suspectezi c\u0103 \u015fi-ar asuma astfel de responsabilit\u0103\u0163i?<\/p>\n<p>Mar\u015f, m\u0103. Du-te-n codru. Stai pe YouPorn. \u00cempu\u015fc\u0103-te. Dispari.<\/p>\n<p>A fi b\u0103rbat \u00een rela\u0163ia cu o femeie \u00eenseamn\u0103 a fi protector. Dac\u0103 n-ai \u00een\u0163eles asta, e\u015fti degeaba.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Face valuri pe net \u00een momentele astea un articol de mare angajament, \u00een care un b\u0103iat \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103-\u015fi promoveze cu disperare romanul pe care&#46;&#46;&#46;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":13741,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9203","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-bitter"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/thumb-down-1426814_640.png?fit=617%2C640&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9203","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9203"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9203\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9204,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9203\/revisions\/9204"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13741"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9203"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9203"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9203"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}