\u00cen leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu complimentele, b\u0103rba\u0163ii sunt din dou\u0103 categorii mari \u015fi late. \u0102ia care n-ar spune un compliment nici mor\u0163i \u015fi \u0103ia care au impresia c\u0103, exact cum punctele de fidelitate de la Vodafone se pot schimba \u00eentr-un telefon nou la un moment dat, un num\u0103r oarecare de complimente se schimb\u0103 \u00een sex la un moment dat. \u015ei a\u015fa se nasc dialoguri de genul:
\n-M\u0103i, mi-e team\u0103 pentru Andreea, pare cam trist\u0103 \u015fi palid\u0103 \u00een ultima vreme.
\n-E\u015fti at\u00e2t de frumoas\u0103.
\n-Da, bine, mul\u0163umesc. Dar nu crezi c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 facem ceva?
\n-E\u015fti infinit de frumoas\u0103.
\n-Mul\u0163umesc, dar m\u0103 ascul\u0163i ce pula mea \u00eencerc s\u0103 zic eu aici?
\n-E\u015fti cea mai frumoas\u0103 femeie de pe p\u0103m\u00e2nt. \u015ei de pe primele trei planete cu via\u0163\u0103 de dincolo de.<\/p>\n
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Sincer, \u00eei prefer de la o po\u015ft\u0103 pe cei care nu fac complimente.<\/p>\n
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Nu \u015ftiu cum sunt femeile care n-au \u00eencredere \u00een ele \u015fi au nevoie s\u0103 aud\u0103 de o mie de ori pe zi c\u0103 sunt frumoase. Pe mine m\u0103 enerveaz\u0103 paroxistic conversa\u0163iile \u00een care el nu face dec\u00e2t s\u0103 te dezbrace \u00een g\u00e2nd \u015fi s\u0103 anticipeze cum o s\u0103 \u0163i-o bage. \u00cen special dac\u0103 tu nu \u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u015fe\u015fti numita emo\u0163ie. Sau dac\u0103 o \u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u015fe\u015fti, dar \u00een clipa aia e evident c\u0103 te preocup\u0103 altceva. E o lips\u0103 de respect cumplit\u0103. E ca \u015fi cum i-ai spune uneia c\u0103 o crezi curv\u0103 proast\u0103, pentru c\u0103 oricum, cu atitudinea asta – ignorat ostentativ al lucrurilor care o preocup\u0103 – o tratezi ca atare.<\/p>\n
Poate e adev\u0103rat c\u0103 unele femei se simt r\u0103nite dac\u0103 nu aud c\u0103 sunt frumoase. Zilnic. De zeci de ori pe zi. Habar n-am, o s\u0103 le invit pe ele s\u0103 zic\u0103. Pe mine \u00eens\u0103 m\u0103 obose\u015fte \u00eengrozitor avalan\u015fa de complimente. Mi se pare un balast \u00een adev\u0103rata comunicare. Pentru c\u0103, dac\u0103 nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 un tip, nu m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103 nici dac\u0103 m\u0103 crede frumoas\u0103 sau nu. Iar dac\u0103 m\u0103 intereseaz\u0103, o m\u00e2n\u0103 corect plasat\u0103 face c\u00e2t 3000 de complimente b\u0103\u015fite.<\/p>\n
\u015ei apoi, enervant cu spume e imbecilul c\u0103ruia \u00eei spui: “Te rog, nu m\u0103 complimenta, arat\u0103-\u0163i aprecierea, dac\u0103 exist\u0103, prin aten\u0163ie.” \u015ei \u0103la \u00eencepe:<\/p>\n
a) “Aaa, de fapt e\u015fti timid\u0103”.<\/p>\n
Nu, boule. Nu-s. Sau sunt, dar nu cu tine. Faptul c\u0103 m\u0103 agasezi cu redundan\u0163a unei constat\u0103ri nu are nimic de natur\u0103 s\u0103 intimideze. Da, \u015ftiu c\u0103 dac\u0103 m\u0103 machiez cum trebuie, par frumoas\u0103. Nu e nimic nou \u00een asta.<\/p>\n
b) “Nu \u015ftii s\u0103 prime\u015fti complimente”.<\/p>\n
Ba am \u015ftiut. Le-am primit perfect pe primele 5676453. Pe ultimele le-am \u00eenghi\u0163it cu noduri marin\u0103re\u015fti. Acum putem vorbi despre ceva cu sens?<\/p>\n
c) “Nu-\u0163i plac b\u0103rba\u0163ii!”.<\/p>\n
O, ba da. Mor dup\u0103 ei. Faptul c\u0103 m\u0103 iri\u0163i nu are nici o leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu ce simt eu fa\u0163\u0103 de al\u0163i b\u0103rba\u0163i.<\/p>\n
d) “Hai, nu-\u0163i fie ru\u015fine, de fapt \u00ee\u0163i plac!”.<\/p>\n
U\u0103\u0103\u0103\u0103! Dac\u0103 e ceva ce merit\u0103 b\u0103tut p\u00e2n\u0103 la s\u00e2nge, \u0103la e genul de ins care te crede mai proast\u0103 dec\u00e2t e\u015fti de fapt. B\u0103i, retarzeal\u0103, nu-s copil t\u00e2mpit. N-am ce de s\u0103 pretind c\u0103 nu-mi place o chestie care-mi place. \u015ei dac\u0103-\u0163i spun c\u0103 nu-mi place faptul c\u0103 divaghezi mereu spre “ce frumoas\u0103 e\u015fti”, \u00ceNSEAMN\u0102, LA DRACU’, C\u0102 FIX A\u015eA E.<\/p>\n
e) “Aaaa, tu ai o problem\u0103 cu self-esteemul?”<\/p>\n
TOCMAI. N-AM. Un om cu o imagine oabl\u0103 de sine trebuie s\u0103 aud\u0103 \u00een mod repetat c\u0103 e frumos. Un om care se simte perfect \u00een pielea lui \u015eTIE c\u0103 e ok, c\u0103 merge de una mic\u0103, c\u0103 \u00een hainele potrivite merge \u015fi de una mare, iar \u00een haine de f\u0103cut curat arat\u0103 absolut banal.<\/p>\n
f) “Dar eu vreau s\u0103 exprim c\u00e2t de mult te plac”<\/p>\n
Superb. Exprim\u0103 asta particip\u00e2nd real la conversa\u0163ie. Ascult\u0103 \u015fi r\u0103spunde. F\u0103 ce \u0163i se cere. Adecvarea la cel\u0103lalt e singurul compliment adev\u0103rat pe care \u00eel recunosc.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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