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Da, p\u0103pu\u015f\u0103. S\u0103 stai singur\u0103. Mai deschizi o carte, mai faci un cornet. Mai ie\u015fi \u00een lume, cuno\u015fti oameni, \u00eei studiezi, descoperi natura uman\u0103, cu urcu\u015furile \u015fi cobor\u00e2\u015furile ei. Legi prietenii, iar astea te \u00eenva\u0163\u0103 responsabilitatea fa\u0163\u0103 de starea de bine a altuia. Faptul c\u0103 fug\u0103re\u015fti pxla nu te \u00eembog\u0103\u0163e\u015fte pe termen lung cu nimic.<\/p>\n
B) \u015ei ce zic vecinele?<\/strong><\/p>\n S\u0103 te m\u0103ri\u0163i de gura lumii cu un b\u0103rbat nepotrivit e cea mai mare prostie din univers. Nu vecinele o s\u0103 ia b\u0103taie c\u00e2nd o s\u0103 vin\u0103 beat de la cr\u00e2\u015fm\u0103, nu vecinele o s\u0103 se ia de cap descoperind c\u0103 \u00eel caut\u0103 rake\u0163ii pentru datorii de zeci de mii de euro, nu vecinele o s\u0103 \u00eenghe\u0163e c\u00e2nd o s\u0103 dea \u00een baie peste o lingur\u0103, o brichet\u0103 \u015fi o sering\u0103. C) “\u015fi dac\u0103 \u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2nesc singur\u0103?”<\/strong><\/p>\n S\u0103 definim ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 singur. Dac\u0103 ai prieteni care-\u0163i plac, cu care ie\u015fi \u00een ora\u015f c\u00e2nd vrei tu, oameni care te iubesc \u015fi pe care-i iube\u015fti, nu po\u0163i zice c\u0103 e\u015fti singur, nu? D) “Dac\u0103 m\u0103 scoate \u00een ora\u015f, trebuie s\u0103-i bag aluzii de c\u0103s\u0103torie. Oric\u0103rui poten\u0163ial pretendent. Tuturor.”<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00cel cuno\u015fti? Da, de patru zile. \u00cel supui deja rafalei clasice de \u00eentreb\u0103ri de femeie disperat\u0103: ce inten\u0163ii ai? \/ vrei copii? \/ ai job bun? E) “El a zis c\u0103 m-ar lua, dar trebuie s\u0103 renun\u0163 la asta \u015fi asta.” <\/strong><\/p>\n Un om care vrea s\u0103 te schimbe e un om care nu te place a\u015fa cum e\u015fti. \u015ei v-o spune cea mai dificil\u0103 femeie din lume: exist\u0103 b\u0103rba\u0163i care se \u00eendr\u0103gostesc EXACT de ce te face pe tine s\u0103 fii tu. \u015ei \u00eei sim\u0163i. Ai instinct. Nu-\u0163i reteza personalitatea pentru diver\u015fi indivizi care au impresia c\u0103 de\u0163in adev\u0103rul universal; simte-te bine cu tine, tr\u0103ie\u015fte-\u0163i via\u0163a \u015fi la un moment dat, vezi c\u0103 apare unul c\u0103ruia \u00eei str\u0103lucesc ochii c\u00e2nd te vede, chiar dac\u0103 por\u0163i ba\u015fche\u0163i \u015fi un tricou l\u0103l\u00e2i \u00een ziua aia. Ei bine, \u0103la e.<\/p>\n F) “\u015ei totu\u015fi, c\u0103s\u0103toria mi-ar rezolva problemele.” <\/strong><\/p>\n Care probleme? Momentan, problemele tale de nec\u0103s\u0103torit\u0103 sunt: vreau s\u0103 nu m\u0103 mai frece p\u0103rin\u0163ii la cap \/ vreau un job mai bine pl\u0103tit \/ sunt gras\u0103 \u015fi nu m\u0103 \u00eencape nimic. 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\nPrin urmare, secretul e s\u0103 le explici vecinelor c\u0103 e\u015fti o domni\u0219oar\u0103 cu standarde \u015fi c\u0103 miza \u00een joc e chiar restul vie\u0163ii ta. Nu arunci cu ea a\u015fa u\u015for \u00een st\u00e2nga \u015fi-n dreapta, c\u0103 nu e minge de baschet. Alea mai de\u015ftepte o s\u0103 te aprobe. Alea mai proaste oricum nu conteaz\u0103.<\/p>\n
\nPe de alt\u0103 parte, am c\u00e2teva prietene divor\u0163ate care v\u0103 pot vorbi despre singur\u0103tatea \u00een cuplu. Despre c\u00e2t de groaznic e s\u0103 fii legat\u0103 contractual de un om cu care n-ai ce vorbi. Abia oamenii \u0103\u015ftia au cunoscut adev\u0103rata singur\u0103tate.
\n\u00cen plus, faptul c\u0103 la 35 de ani e\u015fti m\u0103ritat\u0103 nu garanteaz\u0103 c\u0103 vei fi \u015fi la 55. \u015etii c\u00e2t de u\u015for divor\u0163eaz\u0103 un tip care nu te iube\u015fte, c\u00e2nd \u00eent\u00e2lne\u015fte una mai t\u00e2n\u0103r\u0103 \u015fi mai frumoas\u0103?<\/p>\n
\nDac\u0103 e \u015fi el la v\u00e2rsta disper\u0103rii, v\u0103 ve\u0163i c\u0103s\u0103tori repede, ve\u0163i face un copil cu graba oamenilor care vor s\u0103 profite de ultima lun\u0103 de dinainte de menopauz\u0103 \u015fi ve\u0163i constata, c\u00e2t de cur\u00e2nd, c\u0103 disperarea nu \u0163ine loc iubirii. C\u0103 n-ave\u0163i nimic \u00een comun \u015fi v\u0103 plictisi\u0163i reciproc.
\nDar dac\u0103 nu e la v\u00e2rsta disper\u0103rii, o s\u0103-l apuce aceea\u015fi sil\u0103 care te apuc\u0103 pe tine c\u00e2nd te scoate unu’ la cafea \u015fi hodoronc-tronc, \u00eencepe: “Mie \u00eemi place sexul \u00een locuri neconven\u0163ionale. \u0162ie? Dar deep-throat faci? \u015etii c\u0103 secretul s\u0103 nu te \u00eeneci e s\u0103 relaxezi bine g\u00e2tul, nu?”
\nDisperarea femeii de a lega masculul cu certificat e la fel de resping\u0103toare ca disperarea masculului de a marca cu tot dinadinsul la poarta advers\u0103. Pentru c\u0103 cel\u0103lalt se va sim\u0163i folosit. Mai bine relaxeaz\u0103-te \u015fi prive\u015fte cafeaua aia ca pe un prilej de discu\u0163ie \u015fi distrac\u0163ie.<\/p>\n
\nProblemele unei c\u0103s\u0103torite, \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie vie, sunt: “Nu mai iau nici o decizie f\u0103r\u0103 s-o discut \u00eent\u00e2i cu el.” \/ “Trebuie s\u0103 \u00eei spun unde m\u0103 duc, s\u0103 nu se \u00eengrijoreze.” \/ “Oare unde e acum, c\u0103 are telefonul \u00eenchis” \/ “Trebuie s\u0103-l duc \u00een mall, s\u0103-i cump\u0103r haine” \/ “Trebuie s\u0103 \u0163in cont s\u0103 nu g\u0103tim asta \u015fi asta, c\u0103 nu-i plac” \/ “Mai am fix trei sferturi de or\u0103 s\u0103 fac curat, c\u0103 vine soacr\u0103-mea” \/ “Pare cam mut \u015fi sup\u0103rat, ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 oare cu el” \/ “Oare ne permitem acum s\u0103 avem al doilea copil?” \/ “La dracu’, a r\u0103mas \u015fomer exact c\u00e2nd \u00eemi ref\u0103ceam dantura.” “Cu ce hr\u0103nesc o familie de patru persoane c\u00e2nd salariul vine abia peste o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103” \u015fi tot a\u015fa, plus “vreau s\u0103 nu m\u0103 mai frece p\u0103rin\u0163ii la cap \/ vreau un job mai bine pl\u0103tit \/ sunt gras\u0103 \u015fi, dup\u0103 dou\u0103 na\u015fteri, nu m\u0103 \u00eencape nici u\u015fa de la intrare”.<\/p>\n
\nE responsabilitate. Dragostea fa\u0163\u0103 de altcineva e doar un sfert pl\u0103cere \u015fi trei sferturi responsabilitate. N-ave\u0163i cum s\u0103 pretinde\u0163i realist asta de la primul care se nimere\u015fte. Mai bine construi\u0163i-v\u0103 o via\u0163\u0103 de sine st\u0103t\u0103toare, iar c\u00e2nd apare un b\u0103rbat perfect pentru voi, savura\u0163i rela\u0163ia, nu trage\u0163i de ea ca de cal mort.<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i2.wp.com\/lorenalupu.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/cafea-300x300.jpg?resize=300%2C300\")
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