Se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een via\u0163a oric\u0103ruia dintre noi. Pur \u015fi simplu, se termin\u0103 o poveste. \u015ei cum rareori termini la unison, rareori \u00ee\u0163i termini sentimentele la unison. Mereu e cineva care r\u0103m\u00e2ne cu ni\u015fte dragoste neconsumat\u0103 \u015fi cu un imens “dup\u0103 tot ce-am f\u0103cut pentru tine. Porcule”. <\/p>\n
\u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, dac\u0103 nu suferi de o form\u0103 oarecare de sindrom al lui Asperger, afirma\u0163ia “Iubesc pe altcineva” nu te prinde niciodat\u0103 neavertizat. “Dar, Lorena, pe mine m-a luat cuomplet p\u0103 nepreg\u0103tite, ca un tunet din cer senin!!” \u00censeamn\u0103 c\u0103 e\u015fti genul autist, care nu se uit\u0103 deloc la omul din fa\u0163a lui \u015fi nu-l ascult\u0103. Altminteri, te prinzi. Sim\u0163i c\u0103 vibe-ul nu mai e acela\u015fi. Sim\u0163i c\u0103 plute\u015fte ceva fals prin aer. Sim\u0163i c\u0103 apar t\u0103ceri \u015fi eschive care nu erau acolo \u00eenainte. Iar dac\u0103 nu le sim\u0163i, meri\u0163i \u00eempu\u015fcat, pentru c\u0103 e\u015fti genul proprietar. “Dac\u0103 mi-ai zis o dat\u0103 c\u0103 m\u0103 iube\u015fti, e un act semnat \u00een s\u00e2nge”. Mar\u015f m\u0103, ISIS. <\/p>\n
Deci, instinctul, intui\u0163ia, ficatul \u015fi splina \u00ee\u0163i spun c\u00e2nd un om caut\u0103 s\u0103-\u015fi fac\u0103 ie\u015firea din scen\u0103. \u015ei tu ce faci? <\/p>\n
Exist\u0103 un singur r\u0103spuns corect: Las\u0103-l s\u0103 mearg\u0103 \u015fi caut\u0103 s\u0103 dep\u0103\u015fe\u015fti faza. <\/p>\n
NU, s\u0103 lup\u0163i pentru oameni nu e o solu\u0163ie. Nu pe plan erotic, pentru c\u0103 dragoste nu se poate nici cu sila \u015fi nici cu logica. OK, poate cu portofelul, pentru o or\u0103-dou\u0103-trei. Dac\u0103 omul nu mai vrea s\u0103 stea, nu mai vrea. Pace. <\/p>\n
Nici s\u0103 sco\u0163i ochii din str\u0103fundurile cavit\u0103\u0163ilor nu e o solu\u0163ie. “Dup\u0103 ce c\u0103 mi-am irosit tinere\u0163ea p\u0103 tine!” “\u015ei ce, eu nu mi-amm irosit-o!?” “Am f\u0103cut sacrificii!” “\u015ei ce, eu nu?”
\nRar, \u00eentr-o rela\u0163ie armonioas\u0103, faci numai tu sacrificii. De obicei sunt reciproce, c\u00e2t timp vibe-ul e reciproc. Apoi, c\u00e2nd devin unilaterale, e ca \u015fi cum ai linge un perete. Peretele nu e impresionat. <\/p>\n
S\u0103 faci acuza\u0163ii.
\n“\u00cel \/ o omor cu m\u00e2na mea \/ a vecinului \/ a SRI-ului \/ te zic la to\u0163i prietenii no\u015ftri comuni c\u0103 te pi\u015fi \u00een du\u015f.”
\nNimic din toate astea nu readuce o emo\u0163ie care a apus. Cel mult, dac\u0103 tipul \/ tipa e \u015fantajabil(\u0103), te mai suport\u0103 o vreme. INB4 “\u015ftii ceva, coaie? spune cui vrei tu ce vrei tu, eu vomit c\u00e2nd te v\u0103d”. <\/p>\n
S\u0103 visezi la infinit ce frumos era pe c\u00e2nd era.
\n“Dar e posibil s\u0103 nu mai simt\u0103 farmecul infinitezimal care-i str\u0103pungea \u00eentreaga fiin\u0163\u0103 c\u00e2nd m\u00e2na lui o atingea ca din \u00eent\u00e2mplare pe a mea”. DA, E POSIBIL. I-A TRECUT. SENTIMENTELE TREC. UNELE. \u0102STA E DINTRE CELE CARE TREC. PRICEPE ODAT\u0102. <\/p>\n
\u015ei, \u00een mod absolut, nu-\u0163i exaspera prietenii cu monoloage zilnice de 4 ore c\u0103 uite, era a\u015fa frumos, \u015fi acum e a\u015fa ur\u00e2t, \u015fi ce-am f\u0103cut eu s\u0103 merit \u015fi cum s\u0103 fac s\u0103 vin\u0103 \u00eenapoi, \u015fi oricum dac\u0103 vine \u00eenapoi \u00eel chi\u015f \u00een frez\u0103.
\nPoate c\u0103 prietenii t\u0103i n-o s\u0103 \u0163i-o spun\u0103 niciodat\u0103, dar \u00een ad\u00e2ncul sufletului lor, chinuit de futere interminabil\u0103 la icre, vor empatiza cu \u0103la \/ aia care s-a c\u0103rat. <\/p>\n
Solu\u0163ia e s\u0103 dai shift delete. S\u0103 iei o foaie alb\u0103 de h\u00e2rtie. OK, po\u0163i lua un sac de box \u00eenainte \u015fi s\u0103-l ba\u0163i zilnic c\u00e2te patru ore, faci musculatur\u0103 frumoas\u0103 la bra\u0163e. Sacul de box suport\u0103 multe, c\u0103 nu e om. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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